I had a really great comment on my last article from a guy who said that my content is geared towards men dating really attractive women (click here to read the article).
The advice that I write is tailored from my life experiences, even to this day where I ONLY date women who I perceive as being very attractive. The best of the best. These are the types of women that I go for these days because I truly want the best. Plus, there’s nothing better than hooking up with a woman who’s got a bangin’ body and smells better than any woman you’ve ever smelt before.
If you’re interested in women who are average in the looks and personality department, then my advice is still good. You’ll just have it easier. And by easier, that simply means the woman will be more forgiving when you make mistakes.
What I have learned from dating really hot women is that they are much less likely to forgive you when you make a mistake. They will drop you in an instant and move on to the next guy that’s blowing up her phone begging her for a date.
She’ll go entertain these other guys for a bit, but as long as you didn’t make any major mistakes, she’ll call you back if you allow her to back away and do her thing for a bit.
You Must Let Her Back Away
And that’s really the key when it comes to these types of women — you must let her back away when she’s lost interest in you.
Because you’re not a perfect man by any stretch of the means, she will eventually lose interest in you for whatever reason and disappear from your life for a bit.
Don’t bother trying to figure out why she’s being so emotional, it’s just part of the game. Maybe she’s on her period, maybe her ex is hitting her up, maybe a CEO is sliding into her DM’s, etc. Who knows.
Spending mental energy trying to solve this riddle is a complete waste of time, so don’t do it. Just focus on your own self, which you should always be doing anyway.
I think it’s very important that regardless whether you’re single or in a relationship, you should always be focused on wealth building. It needs to be your #1 priority no matter what. This is your purpose in life, and you much be putting much of your effort into it.
This is actually what attractive, high quality women find most desirable in men. They are drawn to the men who are extremely passionate about their work. She wants to feel like she is entering your world, and not the other way around.
It’s actually very unattractive when a man tries to enter into the world of a woman. That is not what she wants. Remember that women want to be “swept” off of their feet. What this means is that she meets you, and she is “swept” out of her world into yours. She finds it extremely attractive and seductive. It turns her on to enter into your world.
This is also why whenever you hangout with your woman, you should be talking about the advancements you’ve been making recently. Don’t drag on and on, but she definitely wants to hear what strides you’ve been making, along with some of the struggles you’ve been experiencing.
You Are Her Escape
The reality is that most women have some sort of mental disorder. The most common is anxiety, followed closely by depression. She probably has both. These mental illnesses may also come with BPD and other mental problems as well that she deals with.
With this knowledge, she must see you as an escape from her world.
Like I said in the section above, she wants to enter YOUR world, and NOT the other way around. She’ll be extremely turned off if you try to come into her world. Her world is already full of anxiety and personal problems. The last thing she wants to do is drag you into it.
However, if you do try to enter her world, she WILL drag you into it. And then she’ll dump you, lol.
So be HER escape. Be the “King” that she turns to when she wants to escape her anxiety-ridden life. And if you play your cards right, she’ll stick with you forever because you are satisfying so many things for her when she’s with you.
She feels FREE when she’s with you.
Read that bolded sentence again (there’s a reason why it’s the only words on this page that I’ve bolded).
When she’s with you, she wants to feel free from all the problems in her life. Knowing this fact, don’t sit there and ask her about the problems that are going on in her life. If she wants to tell you about them, she will do it voluntarily. Only then should you possibly dig a bit. But tread lightly.
She’ll Back Away When You Make Mistakes
You’ll know that you’ve made some sort of mistake when she starts to go cold on you. It doesn’t make a lot of sense to dwell on it, but do try to pinpoint where you turned her off.
However, don’t ask her. The last thing you should ever do when a woman goes cold is to text or call her. Just don’t do it. Give her the space away from you so that she can feel the need to run back to you when she needs her escape.
This is where the inexperienced men lose the beautiful woman.
She backs away. He starts to text/call her to hang out with her. But, for whatever reason she is feeling anxiety from being with you. You probably turned her off in some way and she doesn’t want to hear from you.
By you trying to reach out to her, you are only turning her off even more. She sees your name pop up on her phone and she says “ugh.” That’s very bad, lol.
So instead, what you need to do is completely back off. Do not reach out to her. Let her come back to you.
After some time passes, her anxiety and life issues will creep back up. She’ll start thinking about you because you have been a great escape for you. She hasn’t heard from you in some time. She’ll wonder what the heck you’re doing with your life. Hopefully you’re making some awesome progress!
When She Reaches Out To You
Eventually she is going to send you a text, usually a very simple one like “Hey how have you been?”
What you say next is crucial: if you mention ANYTHING from the past, you are done.
Do not complain about her being a stranger lately, don’t ask her why she hasn’t reached out to you, don’t ask her if you pissed her off, etc. Leave all that crap in the past. Pretend that NOTHING HAPPENED while you two were on a break.
Just pick up the conversation as if nothing happened. The correct response is “Hey you, I’ve been so busy and focused lately. I’ve missed you, how are you doing?” and you go from there.
The reason she is reaching out to you is because she wants to see you. So your goal is to setup a time for her to come see you. Do NOT turn this into a “catch up” conversation, that is NOT what she wants. She wants to see you.
In fact, her response to yours might be asking you if she can come see you! That happens to me a lot. When I’ve turned off a woman and she messages me days later, often it’s something along the lines of “Hey I’ve missed you! Can we get together and catch up?” and of course I setup the date.
If she doesn’t do this, then you just do it. Let’s say she responds with something like “Ugh it’s been so crazy on my end :(” or whatever. Honestly, it doesn’t really matter how she responds.
All you need to do is get her to hangout. So just say something like “Well shit I’d love to catch up. Let’s get some (drinks/dinner/whatever you guys normally do). When are you free?”
If she wants you (which 99% of the time she will be), she will tell you when she can hang. And you just say “Okay awesome, I will see you on Wednesday” and that’s it. Don’t send anymore messages. Save all your catching up in person.
This is really the way you date hot, high quality women. The women that knock your socks off. It seems simply, but most men simply cannot do it. They can’t wrap their heads around the fact that women will always push you away eventually.
And you must let them go when they do. You have to be comfortable with the fact that she might leave you for an ex. You gotta let her go. She’s going to do it anyway, so trying to stop her makes absolutely no sense.
Dating these days is much different than dating just 5 years ago. Society has changed in a significant manner.
As a man, you must be focused on building yourself to the best of your ability. Most men suffer from some sort of codependency, and it inhibits are ability to get the relationships that you desire.
Codependency is what brings out those insecurites. It’s what makes you unsure of yourself. It causes you to feel as if you’re not good enough. You will have body language and behaviors that turn your woman off.
This is why I created my Overcoming Codependency course. It’s designed to help you overcome these factors that are turning off your woman and ruining your success in relationships.
Men with codependency will often find themselves failing with every single woman they date. They can never find themselves in any long-term, serious relationship. The insecurities and neediness always push the woman away for good.
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Thanks for reading. – Rick