If you feel like you might be emotionally exhausted and drained, this article will teach you the common signs to look for.
I gotta say… being emotionally exhausted and drained is one of the most common traits you see in people these days.
Simply step outside and walk around. Most people you walk by will have a look of dread on their faces. It’s a look that screams “I’m tired, I’m frustrated with my life, leave me alone.”
This doesn’t apply to everyone of course, but definitely the mass majority of people in current society.
I call this the “emotionally exhausted” look. And it’s everywhere.
People simply are tired mentally. It’s not a physical exhaustion by any means. It doesn’t require much physical energy to hop into the car and drive to work.
This phenomenon is purely emotional and mental. Most people do not have control over their emotions. Therefore, it makes sense.
The issue is that most people have no idea why they feel this way. You might feel drained, but you’re not entirely sure why.
I’m going to cover several signs that may explain why you feel this way. Because I write about relationships, you’ll see that most of these problems come from your love life (or lack thereof).
You Feel Detached From The World
This really isn’t as bad as you may think. You’ve simply been brainwashed by society to believe that you’re not smart enough, not good enough, not cool enough, not attractive enough, etc.
This is the conditioning of society that I often talk about in my articles and free email newsletter. You are taught this mentality because it makes you weak.
When you’re weak, you are easily controlled and manipulated. Why would celebrities, the media, corporations and politicians want you weak?
Because it makes you vulnerable. When you’re in a vulnerable state, selling a product (or a belief) to you is easy! You’re desperate for a cure or some sort of “change” to your life.
Therefore, I actually recommend that you detach yourself from social media, the news, and anything else which is causing you to feel weak and insecure.
Focus on yourself for the time-being. Avoid negative friends, your aunt on Facebook, and Kylie Jenner on Instagram. This will only make you emotionally stronger as the weeks go by.
You Toss and Turn In Bed, Trouble Falling Asleep
This is the most common problem I face when I’m emotionally drained and mentally exhausted.
Even though I’m exhausted, I simply can’t get my brain to shut off and sleep! There will be nights where I’m up until 4 or 5AM tossing and turning in bed. It’s never fun!
When this happens to me, I know it’s because I’m feeling emotionally weak. I don’t feel my best self. My confidence is low for some reason.
There could be many reasons why you can’t sleep, but the key is to not fight it. Don’t try to shut off your brain with “tricks” or “techniques” because it won’t work.
Instead, simply let your brain run off and think whatever it wants. Let it be.
Pay attention to the thoughts that are running through your brain. You may be able to find the answers within the thoughts. Read between the lines of what you’re thinking.
For me, it’s often because I feel as if I haven’t done enough. And, this is another animal of it’s own that can take time to fix.
You Feel Like Breaking Down and Crying
I personally haven’t felt the need to cry much over the years, but every girl I know needs a good cry every now and then.
There’s nothing wrong with this! It’s often a healthy thing to do. Turn on the bath, drop one of those fizzy bomb thing, and let the tears flow.
It’s important to let your deep feelings out into the world. I don’t mean for you to post on Facebook or Snapchat about your troubles. Nobody gives a shit.
And, you’ll only make people happy to see you miserable. That’s the sad part about this society we live in — we like to see other people suffer because it just confirms that others are emotionally drained as well.
So, keep it to yourself. Cry on your own time away from others, or with a loved one if you have someone close and genuine who cares about you.
You Are Easily Upset By Meaningless Things
Oh boy do I struggle with this one! Yes, even though I’m one of these “internet experts”, I am also a human just like you who has struggles of my own.
Luckily, I recently discovered that life is about stumbling forward. You only gain strength and confidence through struggles in life. Those who have it easy are those who are easily shaken.
These days, it’s very hard to shake me from my core. It takes a lot to throw me off. But, I used to get upset by the most meaningless things.
Looking back on myself, this was due to being emotionally exhausted and drained from the troubles of life. Girls didn’t like me and my relationships were always toxic.
It’s why I often ended up dating BPD women. My emotionally-drained self was attractive to these highly emotional women. It’s as if they filled some sort of void, and I could focus on “fixing” them instead of myself.
This is extremely common for these days. Most people are so emotionally drained that they want to put all their focus on someone else.
Then, when your partner takes advantage of all your good actions, you feel even more drained with a need to cry. All your hard work goes unrewarded. In fact, it often makes things worse.
It’s no surprise that small, meaningless things can cause you to blow up and rage.People who suffer from personality disorders struggle with this the most.
You Lack Motivation In… Anything
Finally, this sign is one that all but guarantees you’re emotionally exhausted and drained. You wake up in the morning with no motivation to get to work.
Hey, I don’t blame you. It’s hard to feel motivated when you feel like there’s no point.
Why go to the gym when your partner never goes? They obviously don’t care about their body so why should you?
Why pick up a hobby when you simply want to come home from work, lay on the couch and watch a movie? It’s not like anyone will care about your art or creations.
And thus lies the problem: your motivation lies in pleasing other people instead of yourself.
It’s extremely difficult to stay motivated to do anything when the focus is on anyone but yourself. Getting yourself in the gym consistently requires a desire to change because you want to.
If your doctor told you that you’ll die in 6 months if you don’t start working out, I promise that you’ll now feel motivated to hit the gym. You won’t care what anybody else thinks.
Finding motivation to do anything requires some deep soul searching. You need to find reasons to do things that have nothing to do with other people or how much money it will make.
If you’ve always wanted to start a business, you need to get the idea of making money out of your head. Never let money be a motivator because you’ll quickly burn out.
Your Partner Doesn’t Appreciate You
Last but definitely not least applies to your love life (or lack thereof).
If you’re dating someone who doesn’t appreciate all the good things you do for him or her, you’re going to become emotionally exhausted. It’s as simple as that.
I’ve known so many men and women over the years who go above and beyond for their partner — only to be ignored and unappreciated over and over again.
A common trait with all these people is a mindset called Codependency. It’s a serious problem for relationship if you have a codependent mindset.
To quickly summarize, this simply means that you sacrifice your own mental, physical, and emotional well-being for intimate partners.
Like I said above, you go above and beyond. As a result, you eventually become a doormat that gets used and abused. Walking on eggshells becomes the norm for you.
Of course you’re going to feel emotionally exhausted when you’re constantly feeling unappreciated and disrespected. There’s no way around it.
The cure is to learn how to overcome this codependent thinking. It’s become your way of life at this point, and you need to change. Otherwise, you’ll just continue down this path of pain with no end in sight.
What I’ve given you above are the most common signs as to why you’re emotionally exhausted and drained. In my opinion, the codependent mentality is the main reason why people are so detached from themselves these days.
You can thank society for making you feel this way. All those dumb disney movies, tv shows and love songs can shape the way you think.
It’s especially difficult to feel like a confident badass when you’re constantly told that you’re anything but.
Why even roll out of bed when you can’t find a reason to live? You’re so drained and exhausted from life. So why even try anymore?
I’ll tell you why:
Because nearly everything you’re being told by society is horseshit. It’s designed to make you feel the way you feel now. And, there’s some sick people out there who will take advantage of it (I’m looking at all you sociopaths who prey on the weak).
If you get anything out of this article, get this: awareness is the most important key to recovery. I have made you aware of the lies of society.
The sooner you realize how you’ve been deceived by the world, the sooner you’ll be well on your way to living for yourself.
That is truly the key to living a happy, confident life full of motivation and drive to be the best version of yourself.
Over and out.