For anyone that hasn’t read Robert Kiyosaki’s Rich Dad, Poor Dad; you should pick it up at a bookstore the next time you get a chance.
The recurring theme in the book can be applied to life in general, not just finance.
INVEST; don’t “work.”
Why does everyone complain about life getting harder as they grow older? Because no one INVESTS their time — they just spend it. Life isn’t supposed to get harder as you grow older, it’s supposed to get easier.
Think of the Beta who gets chronically friendzoned. After a 3 year relationship with a demon, has he gained anything? No, his relationship has paid negative dividends. He spent only the first 6 months of his honey moon period happy, and the rest of the time treading on broken glass. He learns nothing about building a fulfilling relationship and the time spent lapsing in Oneitis causes his nonexistent game to degrade into antigame.
Think of the college grad who delays getting work experience because of a self entitled attitude. Does he gain anything from exponentially increasing his student loans and piling on degree after degree, certification after certification? Knowledge is nothing without its application; you need to INVEST what you learn to reap its rewards.
Think of the guy who refuses to admit to his lack of skills with the opposite gender. Has he gained anything from years of living in ignorance? He remains single for years — waiting for the perfect shot at a girl. Even if that girl ever DOES come along, his years of inexperience makes the encounter grossly unfortunate.
Think of the guy who works a dead-end job without a burning ambition to do something greater with his life. Does he gain anything from spending 10 years doing the same thing? Get paycheck… pay rent… get paycheck… pay rent. The balance on his life is ALWAYS at zero. He creates nothing, makes nothing, enjoys nothing.
Think of the college dropout who begins his own business venture but lacks the discipline to work 18 hours a day and eat ramen noodles for all of his meals. Rather than investing in his time continuously in an effort to build something; he wastes his time dreaming about a future success never to come.
Think of the PUA who takes a narrow minded approach to game, never investing his time in enriching HIMSELF. Without a breadth of experience to pull from, any girl he dates eventually starts thinking “why does he always say the same things?” Ironically he’s “unpredictable” in the same ways, he’s “spontaneous” at the same times, he’s “creative” with the same approaches.
I never made it as a professional athlete or a standup comedian or a worldclass musician; but I never regretted investing my time in competing or learning a new skill. I DO regret wasting my time playing video games, entertaining retarded relationships, and staring at my wall clock ticking away at the minutes of my life.
I’ve actually never read Rich Dad, Poor Dad which might sound surprising. But, I actually don’t read that many books anymore. I’ve read a lot in my life and business/self-help books don’t teach me anything new anymore.
When I do read, I go back and visit the books that brought me the success I have today. I always pick up on new lessons in these books. My library is more than big enough and there’s enough knowledge in there for anyone to be successful.
So I don’t really find the joy in adding new books to my library anymore, especially self-help books.
This topic of Self-Investment mentioned by Shark is nothing new. It’s obviously true and you can definitely pick up Rich Dad, Poor Dad if you want to learn more about it.
What I will say about self-investment is that none of it matters if you don’t learn anything from it. I “wasted” several years in toxic BPD relationships. But when I look back on these relationships, I don’t regret them at all.
I am who I am today because of these relationships. This website and the thousands of men and women I’ve helped over the years wouldn’t exist without the crap I went through.
The problem most people run into is that they refuse to learn anything from their failures. It’s so easy to blame your partner, or blame Trump, or blame your parents, or anything else instead of taking some responsibility and learning from your mistakes.
You’ve got to at least admit you made a mistake though, right? And that tends to be the big difficulty people run into today. It’s far easier to blame others than to admit you made a mistake and learn from it.
You Either Succeed or You Learn
Going forward, I would recommend you adopt a new mentality. I like teaching mindsets so here’s a good one for you to have:
Instead of seeing your mistakes as failures, see them instead as a learning point.
If you mess up, you need to think about what you learned from this mistake. But, you won’t be able to do this if you’re too busy blaming your partner or somebody else. Besides, it’s a huge waste of time to blame other people. You’re not doing yourself any good.
So, look at your mistakes as a lesson. Sit down and really think about what you could have done differently in the future when presented with this situation.
While your partner might be responsible for bringing drama into a situation, I can promise you that you could have done things differently beforehand (maybe weeks or months before) that would have avoided the situation you’ve run into.
A classic example is cheating. It’s so easy to blame your partner for cheating. However, you getting fat and being far less attractive over the past 6 months drove her into the arms of another man.
So yes, you are responsible here.
I could go on and on with examples but I hope you get the point.
Invest your time into things that you take seriously. It’s okay to play video games and take breaks from life, but do make sure you’re putting time into things that are in line with your purpose.
If you don’t have a purpose or a mission in life, this needs to be your number one goal. It can take some time to find your purpose. It’s not easy. Think back when you were a kid. What did you enjoy most?
A lot of times, what you enjoyed as a kid can be manifested into a profitable purpose as an adult. There are glimpse of genius in all of us when we were kids.
Find your purpose and invest your time into that. Be smart about it. Learn from the bumps in the road that are bound to happen.