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7 Ways to Strengthen and Improve BPD Relationships

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I have a soft spot in my heart for borderlines because my first relationship was with a girl who has BPD. In fact, I’ve dated several borderline women over the years.

These relationships can be extremely difficult when you don’t have the knowledge and the skills needed to be with these people.

And, depending on the level of her personality disorder, it could very well be impossible to have a healthy relationship with her.

But, that shouldn’t prevent you from at least trying to make it work. Which is why I’m here with this website and why I’m passionate about helping men and women succeed in borderline relationships.

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Moving In and Living With A BPD Partner

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Got a question recently from a guy who is moving in with his BPD girlfriend. He wants to know what to expect when you’re living with someone who has BPD.

If you’ve been reading my articles for some time now, you’ll know that I believe BPD is very situational and that you should focus on the behaviors that you encounter.

In other words, every case of BPD seems to be pretty damn unique. Sure there are similarities (such as raging, pushing you away, drama) but these things are common in all types of relationships.

They are also very behavioral because while some person might be extremely hot and cold, other’s not so much. I’ve dated girls that raged every single time they drank and other girls that actually got happier when they drank.

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How To Help Someone With BPD Seek Treatment

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First things first: I’m not a doctor. This article is simply my personal advice if you’re trying to help someone with BPD seek treatment and improve themselves.

Good on ya! That takes balls. But, you must do things the right way. Understand the BPD relationship stages before you embark on a journey of becoming this ‘hero’ that you want to be.

The one key thing I want you to keep in mind is that it’s not your responsibility to help or fix your partner.

However, if your partner wants help and support, there are things you can do to guide him or her in the right direction.

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Dating A Girl With BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder)

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So you’re dating a girl with BPD eh? I know every article on the internet tells you to run from borderline women, but I do things differently around these parts.

My relationship history is full of attractive BPD women. A decade of drama and chaos to put it lightly…

But, I made it out alive and have managed to remain amazing friends with many women who (most likely) have BPD. Some still refuse to admit they have aren’t perfect ;)

Anyway, BPD is a Cluster B personality disorder that is rather common these days from my experience.

According to a quick Google search, Borderline Personality Disorder is “characterized by dramatic, overly emotional or unpredictable thinking or behavior.”

I have dated dozens and dozens of women over the years. I can confidently say that you’ll find these characteristics in most women, lol.

A powerful set of relationships mindsets are the answer for dating women with BPD.

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Is It Possible To Date A BPD Woman? Client Shares His Story

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The internet is flooded with stories about the impossibility of having relationships with BPD women.

However, time and time again my clients prove otherwise.

Having a healthy, intimate, drama-free relationship with a borderline isn’t an impossibility. Anyone telling you otherwise is bitter and angry (rightfully so most of the time).

I write differently than most people because I’ve been through several chaotic relationships in my life. But, I learned a lot from them and have managed to make relationships work with borderline women.

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14 Reasons Why “Nice Guys” Can’t Get Girlfriends & Dates

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If you feel like you’re genuinely a nice guy or good guy, different from all the other “assholes” out there, then please read this article.

Why is it that when you’re good to your partner, things only tend to get worse? You’re going out of your way for him/her, you’re trying to please and make them happy, you ‘different’ from his or her previous partners, etc.

Yet the relationship only gets worse and leads to failure. Why does this tend to happen so often these days?

In this big article, I’ve written about 14 reasons why the “good” men and women tend to experience more drama in their relationships than all the other people you’re ‘different’ from. Read on!

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Should You Cut Out Family Members From Your Life?

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One of the deeper questions I get from time to time is if it’s okay to cut a family member out of your life.

Here’s my answer:

If the situation warrants it, ABSOLUTELY.

But, coming to this conclusion isn’t as simple as cutting off a boyfriend because he’s just a shitty human-being.

Cutting off a sibling or a parent isn’t a decision that should be taken lightly. Only after careful consideration should you decide to take this step.

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