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7 Ways To Fix Relationship Drama

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It’s been a busy week for me and so I’m a little late bringing you this post. I definitely want to provide you all with more than one article per week so I hope I can free up some time in the future to do this.

With the holidays approaching, it’s no better time to talk about relationship drama. From about October to around April, I notice a large uptick in the amount of relationships people get into. Call it the relationship season if you will.

Then around April or Spring time, people tend to break up. This is personally what I’ve noticed. I seem to believe it’s due to summer traveling and other vacation plans that tend to split people apart as well as the fact that it’s getting warmer and people are doing things.

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10 Things That Are A Waste of Time In Relationships

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Relationships are not easy. Anyone that tells you otherwise is full of it. A lot of what we learn growing up and from the general advice out there just isn’t accurate – I know this all too well and it’s why I’ve spent a lot of time teaching myself all of these things here that I write about.

Today I’m bringing you a list of 10 things that I find people waste their time with when it comes to relationships. These are mindsets and mentalities that can really mess things up for you in both life and relationships, in my opinion.

Everyone has their own beliefs and their own idea of what’s right and wrong. These are simply what I’ve found throughout my experiences and coaching hundreds and hundreds of both men and women.

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7 Relationship Truths You Should Never Forget

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People have been struggling in relationships since the beginning of time, right? Even after thousands of years, men and women continue to struggle figuring out how to date in their current society.

Some people get it pretty well, but most people struggle. I really believe that it just has to do with a lack of real knowledge and experience. Some people get more experience than others, some people spend a lot of time learning and working on themselves.

Then you have others that don’t spend any time on themselves and simply go with the flow and hope for the best. If you’re the type of  person that continues to live the same way year after year, then this could be a big reason why you’re not getting the relationship success you wish you could have.

To continue my pattern of lists, here are 7 relationship truths that you need to attach deep within your core and remind yourself how important they are to remember:

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Marriage and the Long-Term Borderline Relationship

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Being in a long-term relationship and married to someone with a cluster B disorder such as BPD (borderline personality disorder) can be an immense undertaking, especially if you lack relationship experience.

Relationships in general are a difficult undertaking in this day and age. Add BPD-related issues to the mix and it’s like throwing more gasoline on an out of control blaze.

The good news is that being married to a BPD doesn’t have to be as difficult and confusing as you may currently believe.
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Why Is Codependency A Serious Problem For Relationships?

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The more time that you spend learning about BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) and other behavioral relationships, the more you will realize that most people in these relationships suffer from some sort of Codependency issues.

People with BPD are usually very codependent individuals. They seek the same love and affection that codependents seek. But, BPD has other issues that can be much more chaotic than anything you’ll find in a codependent person.

Over the years, I have gotten much better at figuring out the causes of codependency and more importantly, how to smash these problems so you can live a happier, healthier life.

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How To Control Your Emotions In A New Relationship

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Controlling Your Emotions

I’ve written a brand new article about mastering and controlling your emotions that takes these lessons to the next level. I highly suggest you read both of these articles!

What’s the number one quality a man or woman like yourself can have? It’s the ability to control yourself under times of pressure and distress.

Why? Because most people are so awful at controlling their emotions that it becomes rare and highly desired to be around someone who can control their emotions.

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Dating Someone With BPD: Boundaries, Respect, Love and More

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Dating someone with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) is not an impossible task despite what you often read about on the internet.

A relationship with a Borderline is highly possible (and fun) as long as you understand the key principles needed to make BPD relationships work.

Throughout my many years of coaching men and women, I have found that the BIGGEST cause of BPD relationship failure is when the non-BPD fails to establish boundaries early on.

And by boundaries I mean personal boundaries – actions and behaviors that you know are most likely red flags.

And this isn’t just limited to people with BPD – any type of relationship you involve yourself in will be more successful the more you value and respect yourself.

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Client Shares How To Succeed In BPD Relationships

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This post comes from a client that listened to me and learned fast about how to succeed not only in BPD relationships, but in life in general. I love receiving success stories from my clients as they’re great to share with you.

One of the key lessons to learn from this email is how this man took time to really evaluate and learn about himself. Most people are too ego-centric and therefore never learn. Don’t be like this!

Through self-focus and learning more and more about his partner, he learned how he was also a codependent, which he then spent more time studying and learning about himself.

Through all of this work, he has built himself into a much more confident, well-spoken, out-going individual that has broken through his bubble and has learned how to not only truly love others but love himself as well. This results in QUALITY relationships and living. Enjoy!

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How To Turn A Rebound Relationship Into The Real Deal

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I have enough relationship experience to know that when you’re a legit, cool individual, you’re going to receive attention and re-engagement from lovers of the past. This is just the reality when you’re consistently forward-moving and improving yourself as I always suggest.

This article is about turning a rebound relationship into something more serious. The reality is that a lot of men and women aren’t on the same page with the people that we meet and hook up with.

Whether it’s a new person you’ve met or a lover from the past, chances are either you or him/her isn’t ready to get into a full-fledged relationship at this time. Maybe you’re still recovering from a relationship or the girl you just hooked up with is on the rebound.

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Signs Of A Broken Relationship and Advice On What To Do

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Signs of a Broken RelationshipsTo continue our series on Toxicity, today I’m going to talk about some signs of a broken relationship, my beliefs on why there are so many of them out there and what you can do to avoid ending up in one altogether.

Divorce rates and broken relationships are at an all-time high because of the fact that most people have toxic beliefs and mentalities. Men are weaker and more passive than ever. Women are This creates a domino effect where women are lost and confused by who they should and shouldn’t date.

While there are men out there like me that understand long-term attraction and relationship success, at least 90% of men and women have no clue. This is why you can’t really blame women for dating ‘assholes’ when the rest of the men around her are weak and passive.

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How Important Are Your Looks For Relationships?

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The short and sweet answer: Looks definitely matter.

The long, drawn out answer is that while being naturally attractive is a plus, there’s much more to it when it comes to attracting quality partners and quality relationships.

See that girl to the right? Assuming she’s a quality girl, it’s going to take a lot more than just being blessed with good genes (and being in awesome shape).

I believe that the major battle that people have with themselves is believing that they aren’t good enough – or that they don’t give themselves enough credit.

Maybe you’re naturally codependent and don’t know what to do about it. This article will help.

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Long-Distance Relationships With a BPD Girl

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Got an in-depth email from a coaching client who wants some feedback on his long-distance relationship with a BPD girl. It takes courage to sign up for my coaching as I tend to bring the hard truths.

I thought I would share with you my thoughts in this article because you’ll find it very relevant if you are also in a long-distance relationship.

Borderline women can be quite tough to date these days. But seeing how BPD is basically “mainstream” and found in almost all women, I think you’ll benefit greatly from the information I shared with my client.

You’ll find my comments below in the BLUE text. The client’s comments are the regular black text.

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Does My Ex Girlfriend Have BPD?

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A common question I receive from readers and clients alike is if their most recent girlfriend has BPD. And because I believe that most women in general have Borderline-like traits, the easy answer is YES, lol.

But simply saying YES goes against everything I teach because I do *not* like to generalize and label people. Doing so is lazy and takes the responsibility off of your shoulders. So don’t do it!

Women who have BPD are still unique in their own ways. You need to start focusing on the *behaviors* instead of the actual BPD label. You’ll see how I do this below with my comments.

My comments are added in italics and blue as I go through the email.

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How Can I Make My Girlfriend, Wife, Ex Love Me Again?

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“No matter what I do, I just CAN’T get her to LOVE ME the same…”

If that sounds like you, then you’re not alone out there.  Countless relationships exist in our society today that are broken and leaving you in pain.

And one of the big reasons for losing your girlfriend’s love is simply because, if you’re a man, you’re not being the dominant, masculine figure you need to be.

And I don’t blame you. Most men (think 95%) have never learned what it means to be a dominant, attractive force of a man that makes the ladies giggle with glee.

You can thank out atrocious society and the media which loves making men appear weak. Nearly every ad you see on TV shows men being weak and stupid.

I wrote a free mini-guide about the biggest mistake of all that men make which causes girlfriend’s to lose love for them. You can grab it right here:

Got the guide? Good. It will show up in your inbox in a minute or two. Check it out after you read this post and I think you’ll be happy with it and how it applies to relationships and winning back your girlfriend’s love.

I know how it feels to be unloved.

And I spent many a night in pain after my wife walked out that front door.  I can still remember the exact moment and it’s a feeling I never want to feel again (and I know I won’t – I’ve CHANGED for the better and our marriage has been incredible since she came back).

The truth is that anyone WILLING to make changes in their lives CAN receive the love they seek. Your lover wants you to be REAL – and our society has demolished what it means to be a REAL MAN.

I created this website to help men.

But I believe that women can learn a whole lot about us men as well.

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