Finding Success in BPD and Codependent Relationships
It’s that time of year again — Valentine’s Day!
If you’ve been reading my writings for a few years, you may recall that I always go on a rant on Valentine’s Day.
However, the “problem” I’m having today is finding something to rant about.
Lately, every single email in my Free Newsletter I’ve written has been me ranting. So, I’m not sure what I can rant about when I’m always ranting in the first place.
And what isn’t there to rant about?
Out of all the problems I help people with in their relationships, being less needy and clingy in relationships takes the top spot.
Neediness is, by far, the biggest turnoff. If you want your partner to push you away and lose feelings for you, be as needy as possible. It will get the job done.
The problem is that most people aren’t aware of their needy behavior. You don’t realize how clingy you have been. As a result, you wake up one day ghosted without a clue.
As someone who has dated someone with BPD, and have several friends with BPD, I want to share some advice about what to do when your borderline ex stops communicating and cuts you off.
It’s a common question I receive from both men and women who are in relationships with people who have BPD.
Now, you don’t need to some communication or relationship “expert” to make these relationships succeed.
In fact, I would say it’s much better to be experienced than to be “smart”. This is true in the real world and it holds true for relationships as well.
One of the more annoying experiences of dating a girl is when she decides to play hard to get.
Or, it at least feels that way.
She’s giving you less attention, she isn’t responding to calls or texts, she doesn’t seem to talk as much as she used to, she isn’t sleeping with you as much, etc.
Why does she behave this way? Does she no longer have feelings for you? Has she met another guy?
I came across an article the other day about how if a man truly loves a woman, he won’t stop pursuing her.
If you’ve read any of my writings before, you’ll know how silly of a statement that is to make. Luckily, this article is on a blog for women so it’s not really designed for men to read.
Those types of websites try to give women good feelings. The author is probably a bitter women who is trying to cope with the pain of being dumped by her ex boyfriend.
The internet is full of people giving their opinions about how to fix a broken relationship and rebuild it to what it once was.
But isn’t that exactly what I’m doing here? Of course! The internet is an amazing place where we can all share our opinions about relationships.
Even better, if you don’t agree with someone, you simply hit the back button and find somebody else. This is especially true with relationships because we all have our own unique situations.
Perhaps you’re dating a narcissist. Or maybe you’re simply looking for happiness. Either way, the power is in YOUR hands to research what you want.
But, I don’t have to tell you that. You already know that to be true. A lot of depression comes from the fear of being unlovable and alone forever.
That sense of isolation can tear your brain apart and set you on a path of mental destruction. This is especially true if you’ve been single for so long and can’t deal with it.
So, I’m going to do my best to give you some practical tips to help. I’ve had periods where I was single for a couple of years at a time and managed to stay relatively happy the whole time.
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