Taking the "Crazy" Out of Your Relationships
Lately I’ve been talking about these “Attraction Triggers” which are basically all you need to know if you want a healthy relationship.
These triggers go back thousands of years. They are the instincts we have as humans.
We cannot help who we are attracted to. The reason for this are these triggers.
If you understand these attraction triggers, you can keep your man or woman interested in you for as long as you live.
Just finished uploading the latest episode of the Rick Reynolds Show.
Episode 6 is all about these attraction triggers that will make your partner desire you through instinct.
Basically, these are the things that go back thousands of years.
Here we go again. The common BPD myth.
This belief that Borderline’s are incapable of love and that the best solution is to run far away.
You hear this all the time. And, quite frankly, it’s getting really old at this point.
But I’m always up for the challenge (and I’ve never been bothered by people telling me this in hate mail).
Let’s do a bit of “Q&A” action today to start this post off.
QUESTION: Hey Rick, I’m really digging the new relationship report you sent out. But just a quick question. Let’s say she’s not getting up and running out of the movie theater. She’s at the point of saying “We’re just on two completely different wavelengths.”
What do you do with a statement like that, or at least turn it in your favor?
1) Incorrect mindsets from the non is why BPD or Bipolar relationships fail.
2) Society has rapidly changed in the past 5 years. You could make the argument for virtually anyone to have bipolar or BPD symptoms.
3) Learning what NOT to do is just as important as learning “tips” and “techniques.”
4) Drop the “Savior Mentality.” You’re not the Hero. The “good guy” finishes last for a reason.
5) Strong emotional control is key to BPD and Bipolar relationships.
First of all, I understand that BPD is a cluster B disorder. Furthermore, I am aware that Bipolar is a serious issue.
However, changing your mindsets to the ones that I teach will lead you to better relationships. This is my philosophy after all.
Am I saying that your BPD or Bipolar relationship will pull a 180 and be healthy forever? Of course not. Anyone saying otherwise is lying to you.
First of all, please don’t do the cucumber trick with your cats, lol. Apparently it’s a real instinct-based fear that might keep them from eating for a while :P
In this whopper of an article, you’re going to learn how to overcome your fear of failure when it comes to relationships and dating.
While fear is healthy for the most part, it can also cripple us to the point where it becomes destructive.
And that’s what I want to help you prevent.
So you’ve managed to find yourself in the grasps of a man with BPD, eh? I feel for you. Borderline Personality Disorder is no joking matter.
Too many articles (like this one) exist on the internet that demonize BPD. They’ll convince you that any sort of relationship with a BPD-type of man is a waste of your time.
But, I tend to disagree with the majority of advice you find on the internet. It’s no surprise at all that most BPD relationships fail.
At the end of the day, relationships are meant to improve your life and help you grow as a person.
If you’re getting absolutely no value out of your BPD boyfriend, then there really is no point of you being in that relationship — this applies to all men, not just ones with mental health issues. [Read more…]
2015 has come and gone. It’s time to bring in the New Year.
And with the new year, comes new growth. New changes. New evolutions.
If you’ve been reading my blog for some time now, you may know that I like to re-write old articles. To bring them up to speed.
One of the reasons why I spend a lot of time talking about codependent relationships is because I used to be a hardcore codependent.
Yep! Good ol’ Rick here was a needy, supplicating, weak man. I put women I wanted on the pedestal constantly and was afraid of rocking the boat. Not good!
As a result, all of my relationships eventually became toxic and abusive because I couldn’t be the man and lead the relationship as a man should.
Do you feel like you’re a “nice guy” (or girl) and yet you just can’t get a girlfriend? Or any intimacy to begin with?
Deep down, you know that you’re this good guy who only wants to make a woman happy. But no matter what you do, the women don’t seem to notice this.
What’s the deal? Why is it that “nice guys” (and some women) tend to never get the love they desperately want in return?
If you read my last blog post about why being “nice” and “good” can create problems, then you are ready to dive into more specific reasons of WHY “nice” people tend to finish last.
If your girlfriend is pushing you away and giving you the cold shoulder, then I’m glad you’re here because I’m going to get your mind headed in the right direction.
There’s nothing more annoying and painful (and immature) than to have your girlfriend give you that ghosting treatment.
In fact, I’d rather slam my pinky toe on the corner of a metal table than have my girlfriend give me the dreaded cold shoulder. That’s how much it annoys me.
Happy 4th everyone! I personally love this holiday as having the freedom to actually run a blog like this is amazing.
So with that said, I’ve got some killer tips for all the codependent, passive women out there that are trying to heal and recover.
Just as a quick plug, I’m in the process of creating a course that’s all about recovering from Codependency. It’s similar format to my BPD course is that it will have an ebook and several hours of audio training.
Relationships aren’t meant to be easy.
You need strong mindsets, good values, patience and an open-mind (among many things).
Leaving some of these important factors out is the reason why most relationships fail.
Especially in this day and age.
Did you know that around 95% of all relationships are toxic and unhealthy?
While it might seem that I’m just here to help “normal/non-bpd” people succeed in BPD relationships, the reality is that both men and women with BPD enjoy my articles daily.
I’m not here to toot my horn or anything like that. I simply enjoy writing about my experiences dating someone with BPD.
In fact, I’ve helped many people with BPD turn their lives around. It’s possible as long as you believe that it is. And that starts with you.
Recovering your life after a BPD relationship can be an extremely difficult time. But I don’t want to focus on the negative here. After all, I like to be jolly and keep things upbeat. Upbeat, I tell ya! So let me bring some positive vibes in this time of healing for you.
I’ve been writing about BPD for several years now. I’ve dated multiple women with BPD and have experienced basically everything that comes with these emotional relationships. And while I did go through a lot of pain, I am more strong and independent than ever before.
And that’s a good thing. A lot of people who get into BPD relationships tend to lack the emotional control needed in relationships. That’s how I was. I let myself get carried away and fall victim to these women who used me, hurt me, cheated on me and so on.
It’s been a hectic past couple of weeks for me. With the launch of my new BPD Relationship Blueprint program, I’ve been dedicating a lot of time to answering emails and coaching.
Which brings us to this topic that I’m writing about today: Sex Addiction.
A lot of people put too much emphasis on sex. They make it too important in their lives. And it creates problems.
This article has been long in the making. It’s a question that’s probably often in your head.
Can people with BPD really have a healthy relationship? Is it actually possible, Rick? Or are these people doomed?
These are the deeper questions that lie beneath a lot of the surface level questions you may have.
I love me some BPD women. They are usually very attractive and irresistible when they’re in a good mood.
With enough experience, you learn how to give these sexy women what they need which keeps them in a good mood most of the time.
I get my fair share of haters who say that dating a woman with BPD is impossible. But I’ve done it over and over again, and without the common irrationality that other people experience.
I really don’t like using the word ‘survive’ as it sounds like we’re just trying to keep our heads above water.
I really want you to do more than just survive – I want you to thrive in BPD relationships because I’ve been doing it for years, and teaching men and women what I know.
Leaving a BPD relationship worse off than before you entered is always a clear sign that you stuck around far too long and lost a lot of self-respect and pride. Not good.
This next article in my BPD series is about how to help you support your partner that has BPD, or who you suspect is showing symptoms of BPD.
Something to keep in mind in these relationships is that until your partner is actually out of denial and accepting that they want to improve, it does you absolutely no good to tell them that they have BPD and should see a doctor.
This is why correct support is vital. You have to know how to support someone who is in denial. The more you try to force and control situations, the more problems and conflict you’ll actually create.