Reignite The Fire

A reader writes in:

“First, I would like to say thanks for the Triumph posts. They were so helpful so I am turning to you again for advice. Ok, so the situation is that my gf has become very needy and I have become very missing since I am now focusing on increasing my value for myself. I have lost several pounds, focused on school, and hanging out with my guy friends.

Accordingly, one of her friends left town yesterday and is to be gone for several months so my theory is the reason she has become so needy is because she does not have a lot of friends with whom she keeps into steady contact with. This is because they like to get drunk and be really stupid and my girl wants no part of that.

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A reader writes in:

“What do do/say once I approach a girl? Is this something I will just figure out/internalize after I’ve tried many many times? should I pay attention to things like IOI’s and all that pickup stuff, or just focus on having balls and doing/saying I want?”

It would border on insanity to try and make a full­-proof script for cold approaching. All of humanity’s knowledge over seduction, game, love, relationships and etc can be summarized into two equations:

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For anyone that hasn’t read Robert Kiyosaki’s Rich Dad, Poor Dad; you should pick it up at a bookstore the next time you get a chance.

The recurring theme in the book can be applied to life in general, not just finance.

INVEST; don’t “work.”

Why does everyone complain about life getting harder as they grow older? Because no one INVESTS their time — they just spend it. Life isn’t supposed to get harder as you grow older, it’s supposed to get easier.

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Shark would occasionally answer questions from readers as I do. They would write in, he would post their questions, and answer them. It’s a great way to produce content for your readers. It helps everybody.

The following is a long, 3-page question from a guy who is looking for advice about his cheating ex from 6 months ago. He tries to sound “alpha” and that he is “winning” some sort of battle against her (which is the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard), but this is typical of insecure men with issues.

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Reader Comments:

“Hey Shark, can you do the follow up to December 20th’s post, this time regarding how deal with a fight in a relationship?”

Just to warn you in advance, this is going to be a long and dense article, but one of the most important articles you will read about relationships. Ever.

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It’s no surprise that beta males are like crabs in a barrel — misery, complacency, and sexual dementia have an uncanny taste for company.

As soon as you start trying to make positive changes to yourself, the people around you will react in one of 2 ways:

A) If they like the change they will accommodate it and comment on how you have “matured” or “see the light”

B) If they don’t like the change, if the change conflicts with their own self-­interests, or if they would simply prefer if you stayed on the same boat as them (most AFCs) they will resent it and immediately resort to their “Just­ Be­ Yourself” platitudes.

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It’s not that I think “love” doesn’t exist or that being attached to your partner is necessarily a BAD thing. I just believe that there’s a fine line between “love” and “dependency.” A large portion of this blog is dedicated to helping guys getting over their ex-­girlfriends, getting them back, or trying to fix damaged relationships.

Most of these problems are more or less symptoms of Oneitis. Parasitic love not only corrodes love and attraction, but also the mental well being of unknowing martyrs. I find it especially interesting because unlike the other problems most guys have, Oneitis is NOT exclusive to betas. I’ve seen natural alphas pine after half­ass woman and actively take part in their own degradation even while they were CONSCIOUSLY aware of what they were doing.

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