Taking the "Crazy" Out of Your Relationships
I got a great email from a reader who has been obsessing with his ex girlfriend.
He has worked hard to get over her, and finally came to the conclusion that he is suffering from Emotional Addiction.
In other words, he’s addiction to the highs & lows of his ex girlfriend. She has absolute power over him and dictates his feelings 24/7.
Had an email come in asking me if I had any tips on boosting self-esteem in a relationship that seems to be going down hill.
It’s a great topic because it’s a new year and ahaving a relationship that you’re excited to be in is tough if you have low self-esteem.
You forget that in your relationship, you are the major player.
Let me guess: you’re dating a girl (or guy) who you know is bat shit crazy, and yet at times you start questioning your own insanity.
You start wondering if you’re just as crazy as your partner (or maybe even crazier).
Let me just say that you are not alone in these thoughts, my friend. In fact, anyone who’s been in an emotionally-driven relationship has felt this way before.
Here’s a question that dropped along my inbox just the other day. Behold:
“Hey Rick, I can’t stop thinking about my ex. Yes, she’s a bit crazy (or maybe it’s me that’s crazy), but I just can’t shake her loose out of my head. I want to move on and meet new people so how do I shake her from my thoughts?”
‘Tis a great question for this time of year. It’s cold outside, we want to cuddle and snuggle with someone.
Thinking about a crazy ex girlfriend or boyfriend that we recently had isn’t going to do us any good.
Here’s a somewhat common relationship situation involving your ex:
Take a minute to imagine that you’re currently broken up (if you are currently broken up, then there’s no reason to imagine).
At 2 in the morning, your ex calls you up and says that he or she misses you and wants to hear your voice.
This is certainly fine and dandy for ya, right? It’s what you’ve been waiting for all this time.
To make things even better, your ex says that she is willing to meet up at your house.
Wowzers!
Pull up a chair fellas – it’s time to dive into the world of women and sex.
Particularly if they enjoy it as much as us men.
This is going to be fun.
And no – you don’t have to be a Chad Thunderccck to make women happy in bed.
So if this is something that you believe in, then I’ll help you smash that belief to pieces.
Did you know that I’m an introvert? It’s probably why I prefer writing instead of getting in front of a camera and blasting my face onto social media like other “influencers” do.
I’m not particularly shy, but you need to earn my attention. It’s one of my high-quality attributes. But, I used to be way more shy than I am now and I struggled to date women because of it.
Getting a girlfriend was something that (I believed) was simply not possible for me. Throughout my 20’s, I dabbled in pick-up stuff (which is 99% bullshit), read a lot of books, had a few BPD girlfriends.
One of the worst experiences you can have in a relationship is when your girlfriend goes cold on you.
Even worse is when you feel as if everything is going well: the sex is good, she says she loves you, you’re happy. Suddenly, she’s gone! She’s ghosted you and won’t return any texts or calls.
There are a lot of factors that can lead up to such a devastating loss. And we’ll get into some of these in this article.
Facebook and I have always had an interesting relationship. I’ve never been a fan of being “Facebook official” and as a result, I’ve had women get upset with me over that.
It’s completely irrational and petty, but it simply is what it is.
Facebook is here to stay. And I’m pretty sure relationships will be here at least for a while, right?
Therefore, in this post I’m going to answer a long email I got from a reader asking advice about Facebook relationships.
Ah yes, the infamous love/hate relationship. You’re probably in one if you’re reading this. I know I’ve had my fair share.
This is especially important if you’ve been dating someone who is highly emotional like a Borderline.
When I was younger, my biggest mistake was neglecting my own self and needs in these relationships.
Having issues in your relationship? Looking for a quick guide that will show you 6 ways to improve your relationship starting today? That just happens to be the exact topic for today’s lesson.
I’ve got 6 strategies right here that you should immediately put to use so that you can see some improvement in your love life. These are directly what I learned to pull me out of some tough situations and I know they’ll help you as well.
I have a lot of experience dating some of the wildest, crazy women out there. If it weren’t for these lessons, I’d still be depressed and unhappy. I would have stayed in my hole and deteriorated until I became nothingness. Lame!
So this is a rather odd topic for me to cover… Most people will look at you and say “Bro! Why the HELL would you want your cheating garbage hobo ass bum of an ex back??”
But hey, I get it. I’ve been there. One of the first girls I dated cheated on me over and over again, and I kept taking her back. And I don’t really regret it thaaaat much (just a little bit).
So while everyone around you is saying how you should forget about that dirty filth-caked gym sock with his or her new play thing, let’s leave those people behind for a bit and have an actual discussion about it.
Even if my collar bones crush or crumble
I will never stumble.
So uttered the words of a young Marshall Mather’s almost 15 years ago (I still can’t believe that it’s been that long).
I look at me and you as soldiers. This crazy world, this narcissistic society we live in.
No matter what you’re going through, this hardship that may feel like there is no escape, these experiences that have you beaten up…
Lately I’ve been talking about these “Attraction Triggers” which are basically all you need to know if you want a healthy relationship.
These triggers go back thousands of years. They are the instincts we have as humans.
We cannot help who we are attracted to. The reason for this are these triggers.
If you understand these attraction triggers, you can keep your man or woman interested in you for as long as you live.
Just finished uploading the latest episode of the Rick Reynolds Show.
Episode 6 is all about these attraction triggers that will make your partner desire you through instinct.
Basically, these are the things that go back thousands of years.
Here we go again. The common BPD myth.
This belief that Borderline’s are incapable of love and that the best solution is to run far away.
You hear this all the time. And, quite frankly, it’s getting really old at this point.
But I’m always up for the challenge (and I’ve never been bothered by people telling me this in hate mail).
Let’s do a bit of “Q&A” action today to start this post off.
QUESTION: Hey Rick, I’m really digging the new relationship report you sent out. But just a quick question. Let’s say she’s not getting up and running out of the movie theater. She’s at the point of saying “We’re just on two completely different wavelengths.”
What do you do with a statement like that, or at least turn it in your favor?
1) Incorrect mindsets from the non is why BPD or Bipolar relationships fail.
2) Society has rapidly changed in the past 5 years. You could make the argument for virtually anyone to have bipolar or BPD symptoms.
3) Learning what NOT to do is just as important as learning “tips” and “techniques.”
4) Drop the “Savior Mentality.” You’re not the Hero. The “good guy” finishes last for a reason.
5) Strong emotional control is key to BPD and Bipolar relationships.
First of all, I understand that BPD is a cluster B disorder. Furthermore, I am aware that Bipolar is a serious issue.
However, changing your mindsets to the ones that I teach will lead you to better relationships. This is my philosophy after all.
Am I saying that your BPD or Bipolar relationship will pull a 180 and be healthy forever? Of course not. Anyone saying otherwise is lying to you.
First of all, please don’t do the cucumber trick with your cats, lol. Apparently it’s a real instinct-based fear that might keep them from eating for a while :P
In this whopper of an article, you’re going to learn how to overcome your fear of failure when it comes to relationships and dating.
While fear is healthy for the most part, it can also cripple us to the point where it becomes destructive.
And that’s what I want to help you prevent.
So you’ve managed to find yourself in the grasps of a man with BPD, eh? I feel for you. Borderline Personality Disorder is no joking matter.
Too many articles (like this one) exist on the internet that demonize BPD. They’ll convince you that any sort of relationship with a BPD-type of man is a waste of your time.
But, I tend to disagree with the majority of advice you find on the internet. It’s no surprise at all that most BPD relationships fail.
At the end of the day, relationships are meant to improve your life and help you grow as a person.
If you’re getting absolutely no value out of your BPD boyfriend, then there really is no point of you being in that relationship — this applies to all men, not just ones with mental health issues. [Read more…]