Taking the "Crazy" Out of Your Relationships
Reader Comments:
“Hey Shark, can you do the follow up to December 20th’s post, this time regarding how deal with a fight in a relationship?”
Just to warn you in advance, this is going to be a long and dense article, but one of the most important articles you will read about relationships. Ever.
It’s no surprise that beta males are like crabs in a barrel — misery, complacency, and sexual dementia have an uncanny taste for company.
As soon as you start trying to make positive changes to yourself, the people around you will react in one of 2 ways:
A) If they like the change they will accommodate it and comment on how you have “matured” or “see the light”
B) If they don’t like the change, if the change conflicts with their own self-interests, or if they would simply prefer if you stayed on the same boat as them (most AFCs) they will resent it and immediately resort to their “Just Be Yourself” platitudes.
It’s not that I think “love” doesn’t exist or that being attached to your partner is necessarily a BAD thing. I just believe that there’s a fine line between “love” and “dependency.” A large portion of this blog is dedicated to helping guys getting over their ex-girlfriends, getting them back, or trying to fix damaged relationships.
Most of these problems are more or less symptoms of Oneitis. Parasitic love not only corrodes love and attraction, but also the mental well being of unknowing martyrs. I find it especially interesting because unlike the other problems most guys have, Oneitis is NOT exclusive to betas. I’ve seen natural alphas pine after halfass woman and actively take part in their own degradation even while they were CONSCIOUSLY aware of what they were doing.
There are 3 reasons why your girlfriend would want a break:
(A) Her attraction level has dropped below 30%. Women do not break up with their boyfriends when their attraction level has gone below 50%, they will instead choose to torture you and withdraw sex. If you sense your girlfriend’s interest level going this low, then you need to exit your relationship or risk dying a painful death. In this scenario, you have no hope. Attraction is like a rubber band, once it snaps, it’s done. Cut your losses and move on, don’t make the same mistakes in your next relationship.
Beta males are like crabs in a fuckin barrel. If you ever see a social circle of beta males you’ll notice one thing consistently: as soon as any of them decide to deviate from the norm and get pussy instead of upgrading their rank in call of duty, the rest of them riot in a cacophony of incessant screaming. They relentlessly pull him back down to their blindfolded circle jerks and disapprove of any type of self development.
Take a moment and think about all the friends you know who would disapprove of you reading this article right now. They have zero game, zilch, nada, nothing.
For them, women are enigmatic creatures and self-development means leveling up in world of warcraft or a spiritual experience with LSD.
In comes a story from a guy who is finding it very hard to move on after his BPD relationship ended.
This is actually a pretty common story I get from people who stumble onto my blog. There’s something about the way I write and what I believe that causes them to send me 2,000+ word stories.
I don’t mind it. They make for good lessons because you can read my comments about the BPD relationship and my advice for the guy or girl writing in.
It’s a great way to learn my philosophy and mentality when it comes to making BPD relationships less toxic and healthy in some cases.
Anyway, you’ll notice a common theme in this story: the guy believes he is at zero fault here and that his ex is 100% responsible for the failure of the relationship.
It’s complete horeshit of course, but you’ll have to read my comments in bold to learn why. Enjoy!
While I enjoy writing original content about BPD relationships and how to find success in them, there’s more than enough of these on my site.
This is why I am now using stories that people send me to help you, the reader, better understand BPD relationships.
Having a BPD ex is normal and expected in this day and age. If you’re dating in this current society, it’s highly likely that you’re going to date someone with BPD.
So, these stories that people send me about their experiences are great to learn from.