Taking the "Crazy" Out of Your Relationships
Had an email come in asking me if I had any tips on boosting self-esteem in a relationship that seems to be going down hill.
It’s a great topic because it’s a new year and ahaving a relationship that you’re excited to be in is tough if you have low self-esteem.
You forget that in your relationship, you are the major player.
Let me guess: you’re dating a girl (or guy) who you know is bat shit crazy, and yet at times you start questioning your own insanity.
You start wondering if you’re just as crazy as your partner (or maybe even crazier).
Let me just say that you are not alone in these thoughts, my friend. In fact, anyone who’s been in an emotionally-driven relationship has felt this way before.
Regular readers and subscribers to my email newsletter know that they can write in to me. I like hearing their stories and relationship adventures (especially of the Borderline sort).
Here’s what he says:
Here’s a question that dropped along my inbox just the other day. Behold:
“Hey Rick, I can’t stop thinking about my ex. Yes, she’s a bit crazy (or maybe it’s me that’s crazy), but I just can’t shake her loose out of my head. I want to move on and meet new people so how do I shake her from my thoughts?”
‘Tis a great question for this time of year. It’s cold outside, we want to cuddle and snuggle with someone.
Thinking about a crazy ex girlfriend or boyfriend that we recently had isn’t going to do us any good.
Here’s a somewhat common relationship situation involving your ex:
Take a minute to imagine that you’re currently broken up (if you are currently broken up, then there’s no reason to imagine).
At 2 in the morning, your ex calls you up and says that he or she misses you and wants to hear your voice.
This is certainly fine and dandy for ya, right? It’s what you’ve been waiting for all this time.
To make things even better, your ex says that she is willing to meet up at your house.
Wowzers!