Reignite The Fire - Relationships, Dating Advice, BPD, Codependency

Doomed To A Life Of Misery With No Love Relationships? Read This Story

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What follows is a long email I received from a woman with BPD who came across my website and went through my Better BPD Relationships course.

If you constantly feel like you’ll never find any true love and relationships, that you’re doomed to misery and depression, read this long story.

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Firstly I would like to commend you for your website. You haven’t made any huge generalizations about those with BP and BPD which are rife all over the Internet and stigmatizes us.

It has taken me years to not be terribly effected by the stereotypes about my condition online — from out right lies and disinformation such as claiming we have no empathy and are sadistic, to telling others never to date us at all.

Should I Break NC (No Contact) With BPD Ex?

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One of the hardest things for any man or woman in a BPD relationship is the “No Contact Rule” or NC for short.

The topic of No Contact is one of the most popular on the internet for a reason.

Why is this?

Well, the simple reason for this is because it does tend to work.

But does it work in the way that you want it to?

What Your Borderline Lover Wants In A Relationship

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One of the most frequent questions I get from readers around these parts is this:

“What the hell does my borderline lover want in my relationship? What can I do differently so that the relationship improves?”

Well, you stumbled onto the right article in the vast world of internets.

You’re going to learn exactly what your lover wants thanks to this amazing testimonial I received the other day.

Check it out:

An Interview With A Borderline: Woman Edition

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What follows is a quick interview I had with a borderline woman.

There is an incredible amount of gold to be gained from this interview. Many of the things I’ve been teaching for years are confirmed by her. You’ll see how her boyfriend naturally behaves in the manner that I coach.

I won’t say much more about this because I want you to read it and pick up on these things for yourself.

Enjoy!

Why Your Girlfriend Ran Back To Her Ex Boyfriend

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Do you want to know why your girlfriend ran back to her ex boyfriend? Do you want her back? Then you want to read this article.

If you’re reading this article chances are you want your girlfriend back.

Why else would you be here?

She ran to her ex boyfriend, possibly ghosted you, and now you’re feeling like crap due to the feelings of rejection.

I can relate. I’ve had multiple women leave me for an ex. It’s one of the most painful experiences a man can go through.

She Can’t Love You If She Doesn’t Respect You

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Our society is such a joke these days. Get this:

Have you seen that new magazine cover stating how being a beta male shows strength?

I won’t even say what publication this comes from because I don’t want to give them ANY publicity.

But, it’s this programming of the mainstream that has caused men to be weak and fragile.

My Girlfriend Still Talks To Her Ex Boyfriend!

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Got a good story from a member today about his girlfriend who continues to talk to her ex boyfriend. I’m glad he reached out to me because this is a common situation.

He wants to know why she’s so “difficult” and hard to understand.

Is it because of her upbringing? Because of her sexual past?

Or is she a raging Borderline that can’t be tamed? Read on and you’ll learn why this man is struggling to date this woman.

(my comments are in bold).

Is Social Media Destroying Your Relationship?

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One second… lemme take a selfie… *click*

Now I BETTER get 150 likes or I’m going to cry myself to sleep!

Sound familiar?

Anyone who’s dated a social media obsessed guy or girl over the years can relate to how big of a factor Instagram and Snapchat and Twitter are to the relationship.

What makes this an interesting phenomenom is that this wasn’t the case just 5 years ago.

It’s only been the last several years that social media has had such a major impact on the dating game.

DBT Therapy Will Make You Bitter & Resentful

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One of the more common forms of “treatment” for BPD is in the popular DBT therapy (developed by a liberal feminist in Seattle, of course).

Why do I get political about it right from the beginning?

I don’t know. I like to be political, but I also understand that it’s not really a good idea to be getting political when the reader such as yourself is seeking help.

However, I find it important to understand this fact with the approach of DBT therapy, especially when it comes to relationships with a Borderline.

How A Borderline Saved My Life

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I’m here in my “office” recalling my past when I dated some serious Borderline’s who really took a number on me.

If you’ve been reading my stuff here for awhile now, then you know I’m not some “guru” or some self-proclaimed relationship “expert.”

I’m simply a guy who has a lot of experiences with dating girls with BPD. I originally created this blog in 2010 to write about my experiences and vent, lol.

How To Stop Obsessing Over Your Ex Girlfriend

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I got a great email from a reader who has been obsessing with his ex girlfriend.

He has worked hard to get over her, and finally came to the conclusion that he is suffering from Emotional Addiction.

In other words, he’s addiction to the highs & lows of his ex girlfriend. She has absolute power over him and dictates his feelings 24/7.

How Your Self-Esteem Can Ruin Your Relationship

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Had an email come in asking me if I had any tips on boosting self-esteem in a relationship that seems to be going down hill.

It’s a great topic because it’s a new year and ahaving a relationship that you’re excited to be in is tough if you have low self-esteem.

You forget that in your relationship, you are the major player.

Do you ever feel like you’re the crazy one?

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Let me guess: you’re dating a girl (or guy) who you know is bat shit crazy, and yet at times you start questioning your own insanity.

You start wondering if you’re just as crazy as your partner (or maybe even crazier).

Let me just say that you are not alone in these thoughts, my friend. In fact, anyone who’s been in an emotionally-driven relationship has felt this way before.

How Can I Stop Thinking About My Crazy Ex?

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Here’s a question that dropped along my inbox just the other day. Behold:

“Hey Rick, I can’t stop thinking about my ex. Yes, she’s a bit crazy (or maybe it’s me that’s crazy), but I just can’t shake her loose out of my head. I want to move on and meet new people so how do I shake her from my thoughts?”

‘Tis a great question for this time of year. It’s cold outside, we want to cuddle and snuggle with someone.

Thinking about a crazy ex girlfriend or boyfriend that we recently had isn’t going to do us any good.

When Your Ex Comes Back. Then Leaves Again.

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Here’s a somewhat common relationship situation involving your ex:

Take a minute to imagine that you’re currently broken up (if you are currently broken up, then there’s no reason to imagine).

At 2 in the morning, your ex calls you up and says that he or she misses you and wants to hear your voice.

This is certainly fine and dandy for ya, right? It’s what you’ve been waiting for all this time.

To make things even better, your ex says that she is willing to meet up at your house.

Wowzers!

Do women enjoy sex as much as men?

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Pull up a chair fellas – it’s time to dive into the world of women and sex.

Particularly if they enjoy it as much as us men.

This is going to be fun.

And no – you don’t have to be a Chad Thunderccck to make women happy in bed.

So if this is something that you believe in, then I’ll help you smash that belief to pieces.

How A Shy, Introvert Guy Can Get A Girlfriend

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Did you know that I’m an introvert? It’s probably why I prefer writing instead of getting in front of a camera and blasting my face onto social media like other “influencers” do.

I’m not particularly shy, but you need to earn my attention. It’s one of my high-quality attributes. But, I used to be way more shy than I am now and I struggled to date women because of it.

Getting a girlfriend was something that (I believed) was simply not possible for me. Throughout my 20’s, I dabbled in pick-up stuff (which is 99% bullshit), read a lot of books, had a few BPD girlfriends.

What To Do When Your Girlfriend Goes Cold

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One of the worst experiences you can have in a relationship is when your girlfriend goes cold on you.

Even worse is when you feel as if everything is going well: the sex is good, she says she loves you, you’re happy. Suddenly, she’s gone! She’s ghosted you and won’t return any texts or calls.

There are a lot of factors that can lead up to such a devastating loss. And we’ll get into some of these in this article.

When Facebook Causes Relationship Problems

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Facebook and I have always had an interesting relationship. I’ve never been a fan of being “Facebook official” and as a result, I’ve had women get upset with me over that.

It’s completely irrational and petty, but it simply is what it is.

Facebook is here to stay. And I’m pretty sure relationships will be here at least for a while, right?

Therefore, in this post I’m going to answer a long email I got from a reader asking advice about Facebook relationships.

Episode 11: Love/Hate Relationships and Addictive Clinging

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Ah yes, the infamous love/hate relationship. You’re probably in one if you’re reading this. I know I’ve had my fair share.

This is especially important if you’ve been dating someone who is highly emotional like a Borderline.

When I was younger, my biggest mistake was neglecting my own self and needs in these relationships.