Finding Success in BPD and Codependent Relationships
Reader Comments:
“Hey Shark, on the topic of punishing your girlfriend for acting bitchy, where is the line drawn between a just accusation and complaining/attention-seeking?”
You should never “accuse” or “complain” at all. Both would be taking a far too engaged approach. To keep your girlfriend’s heart constantly fluttering for you, you have to stay in a perpetual state of amused mastery, not noxious anxiety.
This is one of my favorite posts by Shark. He makes some good predictions here about how dating and relationships will be in the future. Now that it’s 2020 and almost 8 years since he wrote this, notice how correct he was about many things, especially how social media and texting have changed.
As always, my comments are at the bottom where I add my own input and predictions as well.
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It should be clear by now that our society is rapidly evolving into an economics of knowledge; a world characterized by the free and efficient spread of information in ways previously inconceivable. The implications of this shift will spread through game, business, art, and every other facet of life.
There is no machine, no phenomenon, no event, no process, no story, no creature, no territory that is innately mysterious. There is only us, and our inability to understand said machine. There is only us, and our ignorance.
The gap in our mind, our inability to conceive something or coherently articulate HOW it works, exists in a vacuum. There is a truth behind every mystery, albeit one that is unknown to us. To praise something for being a mystery, is thus to praise our ignorance.
The following is a quick shot piece by Shark about his advice for men who kept asking him how they can get a girlfriend in college. You can only imagine how often he would get this question so he kept his answer short and to the point.
But with all things Shark, read it slowly and absorb his lessons. He’s still the best when it comes to teaching about women and relationships in as little words as possible.
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A reader asks… “Shark, a lot of you readers are in college. What exactly do college girls wants? How can we keep that Alpha frame? Do we smile like a clown the first time we walk in the classroom, or do we become like an Alpha gorilla face with no smilies? I have seen the more friendly you are with the women, the more they TRY TO PICK ON YOU MAKE FUN OF YOU, ETC. Please save us!”
No. You don’t tell her.
You SHOW a girl that you like her through your sexual advances and Game, you never tell her directly. Although seemingly a trivial difference in semantics, the way you go about this makes a huge difference in a girls perception of you.
If you tell a girl you like her, the challenge for her instantly evaporates. You are no longer the prize, and more importantly, you have eliminated all of her social anxiety. She doesn’t feel a competitive need to seduce you away from other women. You have already claimed exclusivity.
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The following is a long masterpiece by Shark. It’s about why women, especially the attractive ones, pick the “assholes” over the “nice guys” 99% of the time.
Keep in mind Shark’s audience: his readers were men from the “PUA” community that sucked with women. These people aren’t my audience. It’s why he uses terms like “asshole game” and “negs” and such that you’ll see in this article.
The real difference between the “asshole” and the “nice guy” is simply experience. The more experience you have with relationships, the more you start to understand all these concepts that Shark talks about below. So keep this in mind.
This is a quick, funny article by Shark. But, read between the lines and you’ll get the big picture that Shark is trying to share.
Shark’s audience was made up of men who struggled to be “alpha males” and couldn’t get a girlfriend. He geared his writings for these types of men.
But, the advice he writes can be applied to everyone. Replace the word “alpha” with “independent adult” and you see what I mean. Replace “beta male” with “weak, uninspiring, not-masculine-at-all male” and there ya go.