Taking the "Crazy" Out of Your Relationships
Got a good story from a member today about his girlfriend who continues to talk to her ex boyfriend. I’m glad he reached out to me because this is a common situation.
He wants to know why she’s so “difficult” and hard to understand.
Is it because of her upbringing? Because of her sexual past?
Or is she a raging Borderline that can’t be tamed? Read on and you’ll learn why this man is struggling to date this woman.
(my comments are in bold).
One second… lemme take a selfie… *click*
Now I BETTER get 150 likes or I’m going to cry myself to sleep!
Sound familiar?
Anyone who’s dated a social media obsessed guy or girl over the years can relate to how big of a factor Instagram and Snapchat and Twitter are to the relationship.
What makes this an interesting phenomenom is that this wasn’t the case just 5 years ago.
It’s only been the last several years that social media has had such a major impact on the dating game.
One of the more common forms of “treatment” for BPD is in the popular DBT therapy (developed by a liberal feminist in Seattle, of course).
Why do I get political about it right from the beginning?
I don’t know. I like to be political, but I also understand that it’s not really a good idea to be getting political when the reader such as yourself is seeking help.
However, I find it important to understand this fact with the approach of DBT therapy, especially when it comes to relationships with a Borderline.
I’m here in my “office” recalling my past when I dated some serious Borderline’s who really took a number on me.
If you’ve been reading my stuff here for awhile now, then you know I’m not some “guru” or some self-proclaimed relationship “expert.”
I’m simply a guy who has a lot of experiences with dating girls with BPD. I originally created this blog in 2010 to write about my experiences and vent, lol.
I got a great email from a reader who has been obsessing with his ex girlfriend.
He has worked hard to get over her, and finally came to the conclusion that he is suffering from Emotional Addiction.
In other words, he’s addiction to the highs & lows of his ex girlfriend. She has absolute power over him and dictates his feelings 24/7.
Had an email come in asking me if I had any tips on boosting self-esteem in a relationship that seems to be going down hill.
It’s a great topic because it’s a new year and ahaving a relationship that you’re excited to be in is tough if you have low self-esteem.
You forget that in your relationship, you are the major player.
Let me guess: you’re dating a girl (or guy) who you know is bat shit crazy, and yet at times you start questioning your own insanity.
You start wondering if you’re just as crazy as your partner (or maybe even crazier).
Let me just say that you are not alone in these thoughts, my friend. In fact, anyone who’s been in an emotionally-driven relationship has felt this way before.
Here’s a question that dropped along my inbox just the other day. Behold:
“Hey Rick, I can’t stop thinking about my ex. Yes, she’s a bit crazy (or maybe it’s me that’s crazy), but I just can’t shake her loose out of my head. I want to move on and meet new people so how do I shake her from my thoughts?”
‘Tis a great question for this time of year. It’s cold outside, we want to cuddle and snuggle with someone.
Thinking about a crazy ex girlfriend or boyfriend that we recently had isn’t going to do us any good.
Here’s a somewhat common relationship situation involving your ex:
Take a minute to imagine that you’re currently broken up (if you are currently broken up, then there’s no reason to imagine).
At 2 in the morning, your ex calls you up and says that he or she misses you and wants to hear your voice.
This is certainly fine and dandy for ya, right? It’s what you’ve been waiting for all this time.
To make things even better, your ex says that she is willing to meet up at your house.
Wowzers!
Pull up a chair fellas – it’s time to dive into the world of women and sex.
Particularly if they enjoy it as much as us men.
This is going to be fun.
And no – you don’t have to be a Chad Thunderccck to make women happy in bed.
So if this is something that you believe in, then I’ll help you smash that belief to pieces.
Did you know that I’m an introvert? It’s probably why I prefer writing instead of getting in front of a camera and blasting my face onto social media like other “influencers” do.
I’m not particularly shy, but you need to earn my attention. It’s one of my high-quality attributes. But, I used to be way more shy than I am now and I struggled to date women because of it.
Getting a girlfriend was something that (I believed) was simply not possible for me. Throughout my 20’s, I dabbled in pick-up stuff (which is 99% bullshit), read a lot of books, had a few BPD girlfriends.
One of the worst experiences you can have in a relationship is when your girlfriend goes cold on you.
Even worse is when you feel as if everything is going well: the sex is good, she says she loves you, you’re happy. Suddenly, she’s gone! She’s ghosted you and won’t return any texts or calls.
There are a lot of factors that can lead up to such a devastating loss. And we’ll get into some of these in this article.
Facebook and I have always had an interesting relationship. I’ve never been a fan of being “Facebook official” and as a result, I’ve had women get upset with me over that.
It’s completely irrational and petty, but it simply is what it is.
Facebook is here to stay. And I’m pretty sure relationships will be here at least for a while, right?
Therefore, in this post I’m going to answer a long email I got from a reader asking advice about Facebook relationships.
Ah yes, the infamous love/hate relationship. You’re probably in one if you’re reading this. I know I’ve had my fair share.
This is especially important if you’ve been dating someone who is highly emotional like a Borderline.
When I was younger, my biggest mistake was neglecting my own self and needs in these relationships.
Having issues in your relationship? Looking for a quick guide that will show you 6 ways to improve your relationship starting today? That just happens to be the exact topic for today’s lesson.
I’ve got 6 strategies right here that you should immediately put to use so that you can see some improvement in your love life. These are directly what I learned to pull me out of some tough situations and I know they’ll help you as well.
I have a lot of experience dating some of the wildest, crazy women out there. If it weren’t for these lessons, I’d still be depressed and unhappy. I would have stayed in my hole and deteriorated until I became nothingness. Lame!
So this is a rather odd topic for me to cover… Most people will look at you and say “Bro! Why the HELL would you want your cheating garbage hobo ass bum of an ex back??”
But hey, I get it. I’ve been there. One of the first girls I dated cheated on me over and over again, and I kept taking her back. And I don’t really regret it thaaaat much (just a little bit).
So while everyone around you is saying how you should forget about that dirty filth-caked gym sock with his or her new play thing, let’s leave those people behind for a bit and have an actual discussion about it.
Even if my collar bones crush or crumble
I will never stumble.
So uttered the words of a young Marshall Mather’s almost 15 years ago (I still can’t believe that it’s been that long).
I look at me and you as soldiers. This crazy world, this narcissistic society we live in.
No matter what you’re going through, this hardship that may feel like there is no escape, these experiences that have you beaten up…
Lately I’ve been talking about these “Attraction Triggers” which are basically all you need to know if you want a healthy relationship.
These triggers go back thousands of years. They are the instincts we have as humans.
We cannot help who we are attracted to. The reason for this are these triggers.
If you understand these attraction triggers, you can keep your man or woman interested in you for as long as you live.
Just finished uploading the latest episode of the Rick Reynolds Show.
Episode 6 is all about these attraction triggers that will make your partner desire you through instinct.
Basically, these are the things that go back thousands of years.
Here we go again. The common BPD myth.
This belief that Borderline’s are incapable of love and that the best solution is to run far away.
You hear this all the time. And, quite frankly, it’s getting really old at this point.
But I’m always up for the challenge (and I’ve never been bothered by people telling me this in hate mail).