Taking the "Crazy" Out of Your Relationships
Hello everyone and welcome to Reignite The Fire!
It is 2014 and it has been quite a few weeks since I have last posted an article. I’ve been both busy and lazy this past month but it’s time to end that and get back in the groove.
On the table for 2014:
To continue our series on Toxicity, today I’m going to talk about some signs of a broken relationship, my beliefs on why there are so many of them out there and what you can do to avoid ending up in one altogether.
Divorce rates and broken relationships are at an all-time high because of the fact that most people have toxic beliefs and mentalities. Men are weaker and more passive than ever. Women are This creates a domino effect where women are lost and confused by who they should and shouldn’t date.
While there are men out there like me that understand long-term attraction and relationship success, at least 90% of men and women have no clue. This is why you can’t really blame women for dating ‘assholes’ when the rest of the men around her are weak and passive.
The short and sweet answer: Looks definitely matter.
The long, drawn out answer is that while being naturally attractive is a plus, there’s much more to it when it comes to attracting quality partners and quality relationships.
See that girl to the right? Assuming she’s a quality girl, it’s going to take a lot more than just being blessed with good genes (and being in awesome shape).
I believe that the major battle that people have with themselves is believing that they aren’t good enough – or that they don’t give themselves enough credit.
Maybe you’re naturally codependent and don’t know what to do about it. This article will help.
Got an in-depth email from a coaching client who wants some feedback on his long-distance relationship with a BPD girl. It takes courage to sign up for my coaching as I tend to bring the hard truths.
I thought I would share with you my thoughts in this article because you’ll find it very relevant if you are also in a long-distance relationship.
Borderline women can be quite tough to date these days. But seeing how BPD is basically “mainstream” and found in almost all women, I think you’ll benefit greatly from the information I shared with my client.
You’ll find my comments below in the BLUE text. The client’s comments are the regular black text.
A common question I receive from readers and clients alike is if their most recent girlfriend has BPD. And because I believe that most women in general have Borderline-like traits, the easy answer is YES, lol.
But simply saying YES goes against everything I teach because I do *not* like to generalize and label people. Doing so is lazy and takes the responsibility off of your shoulders. So don’t do it!
Women who have BPD are still unique in their own ways. You need to start focusing on the *behaviors* instead of the actual BPD label. You’ll see how I do this below with my comments.
My comments are added in italics and blue as I go through the email.
“No matter what I do, I just CAN’T get her to LOVE ME the same…”
If that sounds like you, then you’re not alone out there. Countless relationships exist in our society today that are broken and leaving you in pain.
And one of the big reasons for losing your girlfriend’s love is simply because, if you’re a man, you’re not being the dominant, masculine figure you need to be.
And I don’t blame you. Most men (think 95%) have never learned what it means to be a dominant, attractive force of a man that makes the ladies giggle with glee.
You can thank out atrocious society and the media which loves making men appear weak. Nearly every ad you see on TV shows men being weak and stupid.
I wrote a free mini-guide about the biggest mistake of all that men make which causes girlfriend’s to lose love for them. You can grab it right here:
Got the guide? Good. It will show up in your inbox in a minute or two. Check it out after you read this post and I think you’ll be happy with it and how it applies to relationships and winning back your girlfriend’s love.
And I spent many a night in pain after my wife walked out that front door. I can still remember the exact moment and it’s a feeling I never want to feel again (and I know I won’t – I’ve CHANGED for the better and our marriage has been incredible since she came back).
The truth is that anyone WILLING to make changes in their lives CAN receive the love they seek. Your lover wants you to be REAL – and our society has demolished what it means to be a REAL MAN.
I created this website to help men.
But I believe that women can learn a whole lot about us men as well.