Taking the "Crazy" Out of Your Relationships
One of the deeper questions I get from time to time is if it’s okay to cut a family member out of your life.
Here’s my answer:
If the situation warrants it, ABSOLUTELY.
But, coming to this conclusion isn’t as simple as cutting off a boyfriend because he’s just a shitty human-being.
Cutting off a sibling or a parent isn’t a decision that should be taken lightly. Only after careful consideration should you decide to take this step.
Many women who are dating sociopaths stumble on my blog. They often wonder why their boyfriend won’t love her the way she loves him.
You might mistakenly assume that your boyfriend has BPD or some other disorder.
But, chances are your boyfriend has a number of issues going on with his mental health. And, since I’m NOT a mental health professional, I’m simply going to write about what I believe are the warning signs of a sociopathic man.
Take what you learn from this and simply apply it to your situation. If everything I write sounds exactly like your boyfriend, then you need to consider the reality that it may be time to leave, and he needs help from a professional.
People often ask me what I believe to be the difference between a woman of quality and an average (or below average) one.
The difference is this:
A woman of high quality knows her worth. She won’t wait around for a guy to get his shit together. She’ll be out before you know it, moving forward with her life.
This is truly what separates the great women from the rest. These women are rare of course, but they are out there. They will give you this vibe that says, “You better not waste my time, buddy!”
I wouldn’t have it any other way.
One of the most important lessons I teach people is this: you need to give her some space. Let her come back to you on her own terms.
It’s a very simple lesson, yet incredibly difficult to follow if you’re in a codependent relationship.
The reasons for this is obvious: as a codependent, you struggle to be alone. You feel like you need your partner to be with you or else life sucks.
Giving her some space feels like the last thing you want to do. Instead, you want to pull her in more because you feel like it will make things better, right?
Have you ever asked yourself the question, “Am I too intimidating to date? Do people thing I’m hard to approach? Is my personality too strong for relationships?”
Well, the fact that you’re reading this article probably means that you’ve asked yourself these questions more than once. I know I have.
I’ve been told I have a strong personality. Women have told me over the years that I give off an intimidating vibe. I’m okay with this as I’ll explain below.
So, I’ve grabbed a bunch of common signs to think about to see if you’re actually too intimidating for a relationship.
Feel like you don’t know how to stop giving a fuck? That you care way too much about the opinion of others? You’re not alone.
In fact, most people are just like you. They have no idea what it means to be a mature, healthy adult.
Instead, you care way too much about the opinions of others. You want everyone to like and appreciate you. It feels like a personal attack when people reject you.
The mental programing of your brain causes you to think and believe this way. The result is that you become dependent on others. You care way too much about the opinion of others.
Trying to figure out the different stages of a BPD relationship? Wondering how a BPD relationship evolves over time? Confused in general and wondering what to do?
Well, that’s why I’m here. This article, as well as dozens of others I’ve written, will help you answer these questions. So bookmark my site if you haven’t done so yet.
I regularly write about BPD and codependent relationships because I love helping people reach the success and happiness they strongly desire.
It’s my mission to help men and women all over the globe have better relationships. Understanding the stages of a BPD relationship will help you reach your goal.
In our current society where we’re conditioned to feel worthless, it’s incredibly difficult to develop self-respect and experience better relationships.
Instead, we often go day to day feeling lost, sad, confused, lonely and bored. Your intimate relationships tend to be toxic.
Your life may seem to be in a constant state of chaos. Or, you can’t seem to figure out what your purpose is in life.
As a result, developing any sort of respect for yourself is virtually impossible. You’ve tried in the past. But, it’s not something you can just do over night.
The other day, I came across an article that talked about why single women are happier than women in relationships.
The author tried to make the argument than the longer a woman is single, the happier she will become.
So, I’m going to give my own take on this subject and give you the truth about women and relationships.
I will give the author some credit. She states that a lot of women end up unhappy in relationships due to having shitty boyfriends. I agree with this statement.
I gotta say… being emotionally exhausted and drained is one of the most common traits you see in people these days.
Simply step outside and walk around. Most people you walk by will have a look of dread on their faces. It’s a look that screams “I’m tired, I’m frustrated with my life, leave me alone.”
This doesn’t apply to everyone of course, but definitely the mass majority of people in current society.
Got a question from a reader that I felt is really important to talk about.
He wanted to know what the difference is between Codependency and compromising to better the relationship.
Very simple, but great question.
If you’re new to this topic of codependency, I can see why compromising in a relationship may be a confusing topic.
So your goal is to build a great relationship with someone, whether that’s your current girlfriend or boyfriend, or someone completely new.
Maybe you’re recently single and you want to know what you need to do going forward so you don’t end up in a toxic relationship once again.
Either way, my advice is very straight forward for this:
Only date someone who is great and makes you want to be great.
Are you living in a state of fear?
Don’t feel bad if you are. You’re not alone. In fact, most people are living in a constant state of fear.
This constant state of fear leads to a scarcity mentality, which is the opposite of an abundance mentality.
Developing an abundance mentality is only possible when you no longer live in fear. Unsurprisingly, most people never experience a life of abundance for this very reason.
One of the most common questions I get is this:
Why is it that women (especially young women) choose to date these awful, deadbeat losers instead of successful, hard-working, stable guys?
It all comes down to the way women are with their emotions.
And, in this social media age we live in, the deadbeat loser can really spike a woman’s emotions to obscene levels.
What follows is a long email I received from a woman with BPD who came across my website and went through my Better BPD Relationships course.
If you constantly feel like you’ll never find any true love and relationships, that you’re doomed to misery and depression, read this long story.
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Firstly I would like to commend you for your website. You haven’t made any huge generalizations about those with BP and BPD which are rife all over the Internet and stigmatizes us.
It has taken me years to not be terribly effected by the stereotypes about my condition online — from out right lies and disinformation such as claiming we have no empathy and are sadistic, to telling others never to date us at all.
One of the hardest things for any man or woman in a BPD relationship is the “No Contact Rule” or NC for short.
The topic of No Contact is one of the most popular on the internet for a reason.
Why is this?
Well, the simple reason for this is because it does tend to work.
But does it work in the way that you want it to?
One of the most frequent questions I get from readers around these parts is this:
“What the hell does my borderline lover want in my relationship? What can I do differently so that the relationship improves?”
Well, you stumbled onto the right article in the vast world of internets.
You’re going to learn exactly what your lover wants thanks to this amazing testimonial I received the other day.
Check it out:
What follows is a quick interview I had with a borderline woman.
There is an incredible amount of gold to be gained from this interview. Many of the things I’ve been teaching for years are confirmed by her. You’ll see how her boyfriend naturally behaves in the manner that I coach.
I won’t say much more about this because I want you to read it and pick up on these things for yourself.
Enjoy!
If you’re reading this article chances are you want your girlfriend back.
Why else would you be here?
She ran to her ex boyfriend, possibly ghosted you, and now you’re feeling like crap due to the feelings of rejection.
I can relate. I’ve had multiple women leave me for an ex. It’s one of the most painful experiences a man can go through.
Our society is such a joke these days. Get this:
Have you seen that new magazine cover stating how being a beta male shows strength?
I won’t even say what publication this comes from because I don’t want to give them ANY publicity.
But, it’s this programming of the mainstream that has caused men to be weak and fragile.