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Am I Too Intimidating To Date? Common Signs To Look For

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Have you ever asked yourself the question, “Am I too intimidating to date? Do people thing I’m hard to approach? Is my personality too strong for relationships?”

Well, the fact that you’re reading this article probably means that you’ve asked yourself these questions more than once. I know I have.

I’ve been told I have a strong personality. Women have told me over the years that I give off an intimidating vibe. I’m okay with this as I’ll explain below.

So, I’ve grabbed a bunch of common signs to think about to see if you’re actually too intimidating for a relationship.

How To Stop Giving A Fuck and Be A Mature, Healthy Adult

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Feel like you don’t know how to stop giving a fuck? That you care way too much about the opinion of others? You’re not alone.

In fact, most people are just like you. They have no idea what it means to be a mature, healthy adult.

Instead, you care way too much about the opinions of others. You want everyone to like and appreciate you. It feels like a personal attack when people reject you.

The mental programing of your brain causes you to think and believe this way. The result is that you become dependent on others. You care way too much about the opinion of others.

Stages of a BPD Relationship and How They Evolve

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Trying to figure out the different stages of a BPD relationship? Wondering how a BPD relationship evolves over time? Confused in general and wondering what to do?

Well, that’s why I’m here. This article, as well as dozens of others I’ve written, will help you answer these questions. So bookmark my site if you haven’t done so yet.

I regularly write about BPD and codependent relationships because I love helping people reach the success and happiness they strongly desire.

It’s my mission to help men and women all over the globe have better relationships. Understanding the stages of a BPD relationship will help you reach your goal.

How Self-Respect Is The Main Ingredient For Better Relationships

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In our current society where we’re conditioned to feel worthless, it’s incredibly difficult to develop self-respect and experience better relationships.

Instead, we often go day to day feeling lost, sad, confused, lonely and bored. Your intimate relationships tend to be toxic.

Your life may seem to be in a constant state of chaos. Or, you can’t seem to figure out what your purpose is in life.

As a result, developing any sort of respect for yourself is virtually impossible. You’ve tried in the past. But, it’s not something you can just do over night.

Are Single Women Happier Than Women In Relationships?

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The other day, I came across an article that talked about why single women are happier than women in relationships.

The author tried to make the argument than the longer a woman is single, the happier she will become.

So, I’m going to give my own take on this subject and give you the truth about women and relationships.

I will give the author some credit. She states that a lot of women end up unhappy in relationships due to having shitty boyfriends. I agree with this statement.

Think You’re Emotionally Exhausted and Drained? Here’s The Common Signs

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Emotionally Exhausted and Drained

If you feel like you might be emotionally exhausted and drained, this article will teach you the common signs to look for.

I gotta say… being emotionally exhausted and drained is one of the most common traits you see in people these days.

Simply step outside and walk around. Most people you walk by will have a look of dread on their faces. It’s a look that screams “I’m tired, I’m frustrated with my life, leave me alone.”

This doesn’t apply to everyone of course, but definitely the mass majority of people in current society.

Do You Need To Compromise In Relationships?

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Got a question from a reader that I felt is really important to talk about.

He wanted to know what the difference is between Codependency and compromising to better the relationship.

Very simple, but great question.

If you’re new to this topic of codependency, I can see why compromising in a relationship may be a confusing topic.

How To Build A Great Relationship With Someone

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So your goal is to build a great relationship with someone, whether that’s your current girlfriend or boyfriend, or someone completely new.

Maybe you’re recently single and you want to know what you need to do going forward so you don’t end up in a toxic relationship once again.

Either way, my advice is very straight forward for this:

Only date someone who is great and makes you want to be great.

How To Stop Living In A Constant State Of Fear

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Are you living in a state of fear?

Don’t feel bad if you are. You’re not alone. In fact, most people are living in a constant state of fear.

This constant state of fear leads to a scarcity mentality, which is the opposite of an abundance mentality.

Developing an abundance mentality is only possible when you no longer live in fear. Unsurprisingly, most people never experience a life of abundance for this very reason.

Here’s Why Women Date Awful, Deadbeat Losers?

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Why women date awful deadbeat losers

One of the most common questions I get is this:

Why is it that women (especially young women) choose to date these awful, deadbeat losers instead of successful, hard-working, stable guys?

It all comes down to the way women are with their emotions.

And, in this social media age we live in, the deadbeat loser can really spike a woman’s emotions to obscene levels.

Doomed To A Life Of Misery With No Love Relationships? Read This Story

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What follows is a long email I received from a woman with BPD who came across my website and went through my Better BPD Relationships course.

If you constantly feel like you’ll never find any true love and relationships, that you’re doomed to misery and depression, read this long story.

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Firstly I would like to commend you for your website. You haven’t made any huge generalizations about those with BP and BPD which are rife all over the Internet and stigmatizes us.

It has taken me years to not be terribly effected by the stereotypes about my condition online — from out right lies and disinformation such as claiming we have no empathy and are sadistic, to telling others never to date us at all.

Should I Break NC (No Contact) With BPD Ex?

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One of the hardest things for any man or woman in a BPD relationship is the “No Contact Rule” or NC for short.

The topic of No Contact is one of the most popular on the internet for a reason.

Why is this?

Well, the simple reason for this is because it does tend to work.

But does it work in the way that you want it to?

What Your Borderline Lover Wants In A Relationship

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One of the most frequent questions I get from readers around these parts is this:

“What the hell does my borderline lover want in my relationship? What can I do differently so that the relationship improves?”

Well, you stumbled onto the right article in the vast world of internets.

You’re going to learn exactly what your lover wants thanks to this amazing testimonial I received the other day.

Check it out:

An Interview With A Borderline: Woman Edition

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What follows is a quick interview I had with a borderline woman.

There is an incredible amount of gold to be gained from this interview. Many of the things I’ve been teaching for years are confirmed by her. You’ll see how her boyfriend naturally behaves in the manner that I coach.

I won’t say much more about this because I want you to read it and pick up on these things for yourself.

Enjoy!

Why Your Girlfriend Ran Back To Her Ex Boyfriend

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Do you want to know why your girlfriend ran back to her ex boyfriend? Do you want her back? Then you want to read this article.

If you’re reading this article chances are you want your girlfriend back.

Why else would you be here?

She ran to her ex boyfriend, possibly ghosted you, and now you’re feeling like crap due to the feelings of rejection.

I can relate. I’ve had multiple women leave me for an ex. It’s one of the most painful experiences a man can go through.

She Can’t Love You If She Doesn’t Respect You

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Our society is such a joke these days. Get this:

Have you seen that new magazine cover stating how being a beta male shows strength?

I won’t even say what publication this comes from because I don’t want to give them ANY publicity.

But, it’s this programming of the mainstream that has caused men to be weak and fragile.

My Girlfriend Still Talks To Her Ex Boyfriend!

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Got a good story from a member today about his girlfriend who continues to talk to her ex boyfriend. I’m glad he reached out to me because this is a common situation.

He wants to know why she’s so “difficult” and hard to understand.

Is it because of her upbringing? Because of her sexual past?

Or is she a raging Borderline that can’t be tamed? Read on and you’ll learn why this man is struggling to date this woman.

(my comments are in bold).

Is Social Media Destroying Your Relationship?

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One second… lemme take a selfie… *click*

Now I BETTER get 150 likes or I’m going to cry myself to sleep!

Sound familiar?

Anyone who’s dated a social media obsessed guy or girl over the years can relate to how big of a factor Instagram and Snapchat and Twitter are to the relationship.

What makes this an interesting phenomenom is that this wasn’t the case just 5 years ago.

It’s only been the last several years that social media has had such a major impact on the dating game.

DBT Therapy Will Make You Bitter & Resentful

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One of the more common forms of “treatment” for BPD is in the popular DBT therapy (developed by a liberal feminist in Seattle, of course).

Why do I get political about it right from the beginning?

I don’t know. I like to be political, but I also understand that it’s not really a good idea to be getting political when the reader such as yourself is seeking help.

However, I find it important to understand this fact with the approach of DBT therapy, especially when it comes to relationships with a Borderline.

How A Borderline Saved My Life

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BPD Can Save Lives

I’m here in my “office” recalling my past when I dated some serious Borderline’s who really took a number on me.

If you’ve been reading my stuff here for awhile now, then you know I’m not some “guru” or some self-proclaimed relationship “expert.”

I’m simply a guy who has a lot of experiences with dating girls with BPD. I originally created this blog in 2010 to write about my experiences and vent, lol.