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Finding Success in BPD and Codependent Relationships

This BPD Therapist Messed Up. I Offer My Advice.

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I received an email from one of my “inner circle” members. In this email, he talks about some of the advice his therapist gave him.

He is coming to me as well for advice which I’m proud of him for doing. You should always be seeking out multiple experts and do your research no matter what it is you’re dealing with.

While I do tend to talk down to therapists, I don’t hate them all. There are some good ones out there, but they can be hard to find. Again, you need to do your research by looking up this therapist and see if anyone has good things to say about him or her.

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Little to No Sex In Your Relationship? Here’s Why.

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YOU: “Mmmm c’mon baby let’s have some fun..”

HIM/HER: “Not tonight, I’m tired and not in the mood.”

YOU: “You’re never in the mood anymore…”

I know it’s a simple example, but if you’re in a relationship where the sex is far and few between, then I really hope I can help you find some answers that you seek.

A relationship with little to no sex can be the start of a toxic journey down the drain. As I often teach on my blog, understanding the core issues of why this happens will answer your questions.

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4 Ways To Build Killer Confidence In Yourself

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The biggest realization you’ll discover as you learn about relationships and what needs to be done on your end is that developing your core foundations is key to success.

But what is it exactly that allows your new knowledge, skills and core development to flourish? Killer Confidence.

The biggest tip I can offer you and everybody else that’s interested in improving their relationships, their lifestyle and whatever else is that when you fix what’s inside of you, all other lessons become EASY to implement.

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5 Common Relationship Situations That Make Love Difficult

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In the last article, I discussed The Truth About Love and my opinions on what true love really is and how it’s different from the common beliefs.

In this article, I want to continue this thread and talk about more specific situations that can affect relationships and this love/connection we seek.

As I regularly teach my readers and my clients, it’s important that you learn to be patient and not wear your heart on your sleeve.

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5 Truths About Love and What Real Love Is

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I got an email from one of my coaching clients about how difficult it is for him to tell when love is real and when love is a fantasy.

They were dating a person with BPD and everything was great for the first few weeks or so.

No fights, no arguing, no cold behavior. Just warm affection and intimacy every single time they hung out.

It was like this person they met was finally the perfect person they’ve been searching for.

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Being Single Sucks? Here’s 6 Reasons Why You’re Wrong

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LOL I CAN’T

I thought it would be a good time to take a ‘break’ and write to you about why being single does not suck and how if you use your time wisely, it’s the best time for learning and growing as an individual.

I believe that one of the most common errors we make is when we’re alone and bored, tired of going to bed by ourselves. It’s at these most vulnerable times when our emotions get the best of us and we make, as I like to say, poor choices.

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8 Ways To Master & Gain Control Over Your Emotions

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If you’re trying to master your emotions and gain control over your thoughts and feelings, then read on.

Key Takeaways

1) Humans are emotional beings. They are what drives us day by day.
2) A weak emotional state can be easily controlled by others.
3) Start to pave your own path in life.
4) Learn to love the most powerful word in the world: NO.
5) Interdependence is key. Dependence leads to suffering.
6) Cut out the toxic people in your life.
7) Forgive the past, drop grudges, and move on with your life.
8) End any attention-seeking behavior you may have.

Emotions suck. Emotions are amazing. Wait… wtf am I getting at?

Oh… emotions are up and down! Duh. And learning how to master and control your emotions is key to enjoying a successful, fulfilling life full of joy and relationships.

I feel like emotional control is one of life’s crucial skills that separates the weak from the strong.

It only makes sense that we keep learning about how to master our emotions.

The skill of gaining control of your emotions is not an easy one. As humans, our emotions do and should play a major role in our lives. For good or for bad is where the skill part becomes important.

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