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10 Things That Are A Waste of Time In Relationships

Relationships are not easy. Anyone that tells you otherwise is full of it. A lot of what we learn growing up and from the general advice out there just isn’t accurate – I know this all too well and it’s why I’ve spent a lot of time teaching myself all of these things here that I write about.

Today I’m bringing you a list of 10 things that I find people waste their time with when it comes to relationships. These are mindsets and mentalities that can really mess things up for you in both life and relationships, in my opinion.

Everyone has their own beliefs and their own idea of what’s right and wrong. These are simply what I’ve found throughout my experiences and coaching hundreds and hundreds of both men and women.

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7 Relationship Truths You Should Never Forget

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People have been struggling in relationships since the beginning of time, right? Even after thousands of years, men and women continue to struggle figuring out how to date in their current society.

Some people get it pretty well, but most people struggle. I really believe that it just has to do with a lack of real knowledge and experience. Some people get more experience than others, some people spend a lot of time learning and working on themselves.

Then you have others that don’t spend any time on themselves and simply go with the flow and hope for the best. If you’re the type of person that continues to live the same way year after year, then this could be a big reason why you’re not getting the relationship success you wish you could have.

To continue my pattern of lists, here are 7 relationship truths that you need to attach deep within your core and remind yourself how important they are to remember:

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Can A Man Be Happily Married To A BPD Woman?

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Wanting to be happily married to a woman with a cluster B disorder such as BPD (borderline personality disorder), can be an immense undertaking, especially if you lack the understanding of woman in general.

You can read all the BPD information that you want, but it will never prepare you enough for the unique personality that your BPD woman has.

Relationships in general are a difficult undertaking in this day and age. Add BPD-related issues to the mix and it’s like throwing more gasoline into an out of control blaze.

The good news is that being married to a person with BPD doesn’t have to be as difficult and confusing as you may currently believe.
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Why Is Codependency A Serious Problem For Relationships?

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The more time that you spend learning about BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) and other behavioral relationships, the more you will realize that most people in these relationships suffer from some sort of Codependency issues.

People with BPD are usually very codependent individuals. They seek the same love and affection that codependents seek. But, BPD has other issues that can be much more chaotic than anything you’ll find in a codependent person.

Over the years, I have gotten much better at figuring out the causes of codependency and more importantly, how to smash these problems so you can live a happier, healthier life.

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How To Control Your Emotions In A New Relationship

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I’ve written a brand new article about mastering and controlling your emotions that takes these lessons to the next level. I highly suggest you read both of these articles!

What’s the number one quality a man or woman like yourself can have? It’s the ability to control yourself under times of pressure and distress.

Why? Because most people are so awful at controlling their emotions that it becomes rare and highly desired to be around someone who can control their emotions.

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Dating Someone With BPD: Boundaries, Respect, Love and More

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Dating someone with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) is not an impossible task despite what you often read about on the internet.

A relationship with a Borderline is highly possible (and fun) as long as you understand the key principles needed to make BPD relationships work.

Throughout my many years of coaching men and women, I have found that the BIGGEST cause of BPD relationship failure is when the non-BPD fails to establish boundaries early on.

And by boundaries I mean personal boundaries – actions and behaviors that you know are most likely red flags.

And this isn’t just limited to people with BPD – any type of relationship you involve yourself in will be more successful the more you value and respect yourself.

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Client Shares How To Succeed In BPD Relationships

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This post comes from a client that listened to me and learned fast about how to succeed not only in BPD relationships, but in life in general. I love receiving success stories from my clients as they’re great to share with you.

One of the key lessons to learn from this email is how this man took time to really evaluate and learn about himself. Most people are too ego-centric and therefore never learn. Don’t be like this!

Through self-focus and learning more and more about his partner, he learned how he was also a codependent, which he then spent more time studying and learning about himself.

Through all of this work, he has built himself into a much more confident, well-spoken, out-going individual that has broken through his bubble and has learned how to not only truly love others but love himself as well. This results in QUALITY relationships and living. Enjoy!

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