Feel like you don’t know how to stop giving a fuck? That you care way too much about the opinion of others? You’re not alone.
In fact, most people are just like you. They have no idea what it means to be a mature, healthy adult.
Instead, you care way too much about the opinions of others. You want everyone to like and appreciate you. It feels like a personal attack when people reject you.
The mental programing of your brain causes you to think and believe this way. The result is that you become dependent on others. You care way too much about the opinion of others.
The main reason for this lack of mental development is social conditioning. Hollywood celebrities, the media, politicians and more have filled your mind with these lies for decades.
This blissful utopia with no negativity is a dream of so many people. Yet this globalist dream of worldwide equality is a false reality that will never happen.
The result of social conditioning has made you into this needy, codependent man or woman who can’t find success in relationships if your life depended on it.
So I’m going to quickly go over several things you can do to learn how to stop giving a fuck and be a mature, healthy adult. Let’s dive in!
Caring About What Others Think
Live your own life. When you care too much about how others think, you are living their life for you. The opinions of others is just that: an opinion.
Don’t let another person’s way of thinking overcome your own beliefs and core values (unless they are rooted in reality).
I never take the opinions of someone else seriously unless they are credible people. No, just because a popular politician says something doesn’t mean it’s credible.
In fact, most celebrities and politicians are the least credible people out there. You look at their past and the things they’ve done over the years and it’s full of idiocy. They’re a bunch of hot air.
On the other hand, people who have actually built their own success and actually have healthy relationships are worth listening to. Their opinions should be weighed more heavily than others.
Generally speaking, 99% of the people you know should be ignored. Let them think and say what they want. Don’t take what they say personally. Try to care about YOUR opinion and no one else’s.
Who Cares If You’re Wrong
Another obvious sign that you care way too much and give too many fucks is if you always have to be right.
You know what I’m talking about: you get in an argument with some friends and even if you don’t have proof, you “know” that you’re right. You defend your position to the death.
This is a sign that you care way too much. Most people are like this and it’s extremely unhealthy.
If you want to be a mature, healthy adult, you need to be comfortable with being wrong. This is why I always say things like “maybe I’m wrong about this, who knows. Time will tell…” whenever I present my argument. It lowers the defenses of others and shows that you don’t give too many fucks.
That’s the goal, right? This is a sign of high confidence and healthy living.
Individuals who must be right tend to have very few friends. I’ve noticed this over the years. They are so hard-headed that even their best friends tend to avoid them most of the time.
Don’t be hard-headed. Stop giving a fuck and enjoy being wrong. You’ll thank me for this.
Perfection Is A Myth
Thanks to social media, it’s really easy to dislike the way you look. Pictures of people with perfect bodies are constantly on your timeline.
You also see your friends and family members posting pictures of their “amazing” relationships.
Because people are constantly posting highlights of their “great” lives, it’s very easy to feel as if your life doesn’t match. This creates insecurity and a lack of self-worth.
As a result, you may feel the need to fake a “perfect” life. Perhaps you’re the type of person who only posts your best pictures. You pretend that you’re living a great life because all your friends seem to be doing it.
Social media perfection can cause severe mental issues. I would make the argument that it’s destroyed the confidence and self-worth of most millenials and the younger generations.
This isn’t helping your situation. In fact, you’re only making things worse for you. You care way too much about how others perceive you.
Too many fucks are given. You can’t sustain this type of lifestyle for long. Eventually you will burn out and fall into a deep depression as so many do.
Usually the happiest people you see on Instagram are actually the most unhappy. They would never want you or any of their followers to know this truth.
So, don’t buy into it. I always recommend both men and women to not take social media seriously. Take several weeks off from Facebook and Twitter and Instagram if you need to. It will only make your life better.
Clinging To The Past
It’s really simple: beating yourself up because of decisions you made in the past will only hurt you. You’ve got accept what happened and move forward.
One of my strongest core values is my belief in being on the move. Whether that means just moving about daily and getting some exercise, or letting the past die and moving forward.
You should strive to be a forward moving person.
I’m not saying that you should forget the past. Far from it. The past is meant to teach you a lesson. If you’re not learning from your past mistakes, then you’re not making progress in life.
Most people cling to the past, hold grudges and fail to grow up into a mature, healthy adult. A sign of good mental health is being able to move forward and appreciate your life for what it is.
If you got hurt in the past and you can’t seem to let go, it’s because you give too many fucks about it. You’re letting this experience hold you back and tear you apart.
Until you learn to let go and move forward, you’re going to be a toxic in whatever new relationship you come into.
One of the common reasons why BPD relationships fail is because the non is obsessed with the past. They keep trying to return to the Honeymoon Period, which shouldn’t have occurred in the first place.
The sooner you can let go of the past and become a forward moving person, the sooner your life and relationships will improve drastically.
Worrying About What You DON’T Have
This final fuck that I want to talk about is really simple: you live a decent life in a decent country, and yet you complain about how hard your life is.
This is called first world problems, and it’s probably the most annoying thing ever.
I know so many people who complain about first world problems all the time. Whether it’s work, friends, boyfriends/girlfriends, politics, etc. they never shut up about basic bitch problems.
In other words, they give way too many fucks about things that aren’t that important. They have a life that most people in the world would (and do) kill for.
And yet they got all this time to sit around and complain about basic things.
This is why these types of people constantly have drama and chaos in their lives. I personally won’t even interact with my friends when they start complaining about basic shit. I just tune out or don’t respond to texts.
It’s extremely unattractive when you’re a high-quality individual. No one of quality wants to hear about your basic bitch problems.
Grow up and get over it. Your life could be a thousand times worse. You have it easy compared to others.
And that’s how you stop giving a fuck and grow into a mature, healthy adult. Live on!
– Rick
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