The following is a quick shot piece by Shark about his advice for men who kept asking him how they can get a girlfriend in college. You can only imagine how often he would get this question so he kept his answer short and to the point.
But with all things Shark, read it slowly and absorb his lessons. He’s still the best when it comes to teaching about women and relationships in as little words as possible.
A reader asks… “Shark, a lot of you readers are in college. What exactly do college girls wants? How can we keep that Alpha frame? Do we smile like a clown the first time we walk in the classroom, or do we become like an Alpha gorilla face with no smilies? I have seen the more friendly you are with the women, the more they TRY TO PICK ON YOU MAKE FUN OF YOU, ETC. Please save us!”
There’s no difference between what a college girl wants and what a 40 year old female CEO wants. The differences you attribute to age and personality are syntactical.
An older woman may prefer a guy more likely to settle down, whereas a younger girl would have no problem riding the asshole carousel until her last few eggs.
A younger girl may opt out of a relationship more easily because she knows she’s still in her prime dating years and capable of attracting someone else, whereas an older woman may be more prone to stick it out with a less favorable partner for practical reasons.
The fundamentals of game (aloofness, dominance, humor, charm, mystery, social proof, power, etc) all stay the same.
Whether you smile or frown when you enter a classroom is irrelevant. You’re reading too much into it because of the reaction you normally elicit from girls.
ALPHA, funny, friendly, social, charming = George Clooney.
ALPHA, serious, calculative, only cares about mission = James Bond
You’re trying to understand being attractive from a superficial optic when it’s really more of a mindset. It’s a fluid concept that any type of personality can be shifted into an Alpha mindset.
BETA, funny, friendly, social, charming = Class Clown
BETA, serious, calculative, only cares about mission = Class Nerd
On a side note, the major difference between older women and their more svelte counter parts arises from female mating schedules. The younger the woman is, the less consequential spending time in a volatile relationship with an Alpha is. The older she gets, the more she’s inclined to settle for a beta who offers more rapport than attraction.
If only I had learned this fundamental lesson when I was in my 20’s… Oh well. Better late than never. One girl I’m seeing is in college and only 20. Another girl I see is 23 and never went to college. A woman I dated a couple years ago was a sexy 35 year old.
Once you learn the mindset as Shark pointed out above, women of all ages will be attracted to you. Thus why I always focus on teaching MINDSETS instead of techniques and tactics like most people.
And that’s really the problem with most college-aged men. They’re young and fresh out of high school where they didn’t have much success with the ladies. If you were anything like me, then perhaps the girls in high school ignored you completely for all 4 years.
It wasn’t until I got to college that I started seeing a little bit of success. But, all of my success with the girls in college were a direct result of either alcohol being a part of it, or me hooking up with a girl who was very attracted to me for whatever reason.
In other words, my “successes” had nothing to do with me and my mindsets. I only had success out of straight luck. And that is how it is for most guys who aren’t blessed with the alpha mindset and physical beauty.
I’m not here to tell you my life story. All I want you to understand is that you can behave very similarly to a man with an Alpha mindset, but still be perceived as an unattractive beta male simply because you two don’t think the same way.
Since your mindset is from the weak beta state, you will naturally turn women woff. They just won’t find you attractive at all unless you happen to get lucky like I would from time to time.
Getting lucky can actually be dangerous for you, too. When a guy gets lucky, it inflates his ego. He might try to convince himself that he’s actually doing just fine. He might even try to convince himself that he’s now an Alpha male.
You poor, poor kid…
Don’t let your lucky encounters with women hide the truth from you. Be honest with yourself. If you got lucky and you know it, don’t stop the journey of improving your mindset. This is one of the major lessons that I teach in the beginning to my clients.
As you learn more and more, you will naturally become more attractive. A lot of guys will start seeing some success and then slack off on their training.
6-12 months go by and they’re often worse off than they were before. The combination of ego inflation + going back to your old way can make things worse for you than ever before.
Therefore, don’t ever abandon your training. Stick with it, forever. I teach a lifestyle of mindset improvement.
The better your mindset becomes over time, the better your relationships will be. Dating college girls and knowing what they want will no longer be a challenge for you.
And, the younger you learn this stuff the better. So make sure you’re on my email list and check out my coaching programs if you’re ready to improve.