“No matter what I do, I just CAN’T get her to LOVE ME the same…”
If that sounds like you, then you’re not alone out there. Countless relationships exist in our society today that are broken and leaving you in pain.
And one of the big reasons for losing your girlfriend’s love is simply because, if you’re a man, you’re not being the dominant, masculine figure you need to be.
And I don’t blame you. Most men (think 95%) have never learned what it means to be a dominant, attractive force of a man that makes the ladies giggle with glee.
You can thank out atrocious society and the media which loves making men appear weak. Nearly every ad you see on TV shows men being weak and stupid.
I wrote a free mini-guide about the biggest mistake of all that men make which causes girlfriend’s to lose love for them. You can grab it right here:
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I know how it feels to be unloved.
And I spent many a night in pain after my wife walked out that front door. I can still remember the exact moment and it’s a feeling I never want to feel again (and I know I won’t – I’ve CHANGED for the better and our marriage has been incredible since she came back).
The truth is that anyone WILLING to make changes in their lives CAN receive the love they seek. Your lover wants you to be REAL – and our society has demolished what it means to be a REAL MAN.
I created this website to help men.
But I believe that women can learn a whole lot about us men as well.
It’s only been in the past 50 or so years that us men have been “dumbed down” by society.
Men long to be wild – deep down we want ADVENTURE.
And who doesn’t? What women doesn’t want to be rescued from that knight in shining armor?
The root of our natural being has been completely turned upside down.
Deep down in our hearts, we long for adventure. We long for saving the princess from the clutches of evil.
It’s why men can sit down and watch Terminator 2 over and over again while women would much rather watch The Notebook.
It’s why boys, naturally, enjoy creating weapons out of sticks and other fun objects – whereas girls would much rather dress up like a princess and enjoy tea time with other girls.
Men and women are different – and it’s supposed to be that way.
Yet society tells us differently.
Whether you’re a church goer or obsessed with television and the media, the amount of influence in our lives from the time we were little kids has drastically changed the way we look at life (and nothing against church – I just believe that they’ve been telling people how to live daily lives incorrectly).
And the problem is that most men believe they’re supposed to be good little boys, dutiful and all-around “Nice.”
But men – let me ask you this:
How many of you dreamed as a child of growing up to become a “Nice Guy?”
And ladies – was your dream man this “Super Nice Guy” that bowed to your every command?
But it is the unfortunate reality – and why relationships are very much broken in the world we live in today.
My whole life I spent trying to be that “Amazing Nice Guy” because it was how I thought I was supposed to be.
My parents made me attend church during my entire childhood and teenage years. It wasn’t until I went off to college that I started to grow out of my shell.
I didn’t even have my first girlfriend until I was 20. And I could never figure out WHY women didn’t want me.
I was being Nice! I was respectful and acted the way I was taught to act my entire life.
Notice how I said “acted”.
Because that is a KEY point that I would like to get across to you today (and I very much hope you’ve understood the purpose of this blog entry so far because I worked hard at writing this and my cat is bugging me).
It simply isn’t NATURAL for men to be these “Really Nice Guys” that our society has told us to be.
We literally have to ACT nice because deep down we really don’t want to be nice.
We want adventure. We want to fight. We want to give and receive pleasure.
We DON’T want to suck up. We DON’T want to buy roses all the time. We DON’T want to say “yes dear” and let women tell us what to do all of the time.
Yet this is how society has taught us to think.
And behave day in and day out.
And yet women and men wonder why our relationships are broken and divorce is at an all-time high.
Both men and women simply don’t understand each other. We’ve been raised in today’s society with the INCORRECT teachings of how men and women are to behave.
And it’s caused our relationships to fail immensely. It’s caused children to grow up in broken relationships which create even more problems for them.
And no one should ever want that.
It’s why I created the Reignite The Fire program for men. Yes, it’s mostly about getting back an ex lover. But it’s also deeply about changing the way you perceive yourself and life so that YOU can become the man that you have always DREAMED of being. Since you were a child.
My book can help you become the man that women DESIRE. The man they long about in their sleep.
Will you let me help you?
I hope you will.
From here on out, my future posts will be geared at helping men like YOU discover their TRUE self.
Finding their wild heart once again and becoming the MAN that you were MEANT to be from day one.
Somewhere growing up, we all got lost.
I’m guilty of it.
My wife left me because of it.
And I’m thankful she did because it allowed me to discover my true self.
And once I did, she came back.
– Rick Reynolds
i am at a loss at why men have to change ? That goes against all the rules
Me and my girlfriend were brought up in different family styles and this causes an issue, and it doesn’t help my profession makes me not show emotions and, I have a hard time opening up to her. I love her with all my heart and I don’t know how I can make the change in that aspect.
This is really just a test that she’s giving you. Women will always test your inner strength. What this means is she wants to see if you’re willing to abandon your beliefs and your own life to please her. And if you fall for these tests, she’s really just not going to like you anymore. Women want a man that sticks to his guns and does his own thing. She’ll test you to see if she can break your will, but you must resist. Unless it’s a serious issue, just downplay the tests, make a joke out of them, don’t take them seriously.
Kyle Nevers says
Hi my name is Kyle and me and my girlfriend have been fighting a lot lately I have super insecurities and trust issues and it’s caused a lot of difficulties in our relationship and we’re almost at the breaking point I don’t know what to do.
My fiance is on the verge of leaving. And of course I do not want this. I have done stupid things on the past that has hurt her. And I regret ever doing it. This girl is the women of my dreams. That’s why I asked her to marry me. She’s not sure what she wants to do and needs her space. We have been talking to a therapist foer about 3 months now and 2 weeks ago she said she was unhappy and didn’t know what she wants. This is killing me inside and out. I haven’t been able to eat in 2 weeks. I can not lose the love of my life. I’ve read everything u write on here and I believe u can help me. I want to get ur book just can’t afford it right now. But please can u help me? I need her to come back home…:'(
I’m not sure where attending church becomes a
detriment to being a man.
I’ve been with my girlfriend for going on five years now. We are both entirely different people in every way if I like something she hates it, even if it’s something I did before I was with her I’m not allowed to like anymore, I have had to completely bow down to her hoping that would ground her enough for me to start getting my life back but my family (specifically my mom) adds the largest amount of stress to our relationship, she’s over bearing has been my whole life I’ve moved out several times my mother is one of a kind and not in a good way and if she wasn’t my mother I would have never spoken to her again after things she’s done, my dad is the greatest man I know and I pull back my efforts on changing my mom for my dad so he doesn’t wonder why his wife causes so much grief to me and my girlfriend but with daily life and the all over the place actions of my mom I can’t even find a starting point, it’s to the point that I can go a whole day doing literally everything she’s wants and yet I still find myself feeling like a piece of shit that doesn’t do enough for her I’m supposed to fix her life when I haven’t begun to fix mine, and I do and have done unforgivable things to family and friends to please to person that now has my child inside of her, so I am stuck and now for my child’s sake not mine or hers, and I don’t know why I even care anymore she constantly threatens to leave me when I don’t give her her way an stand up for what I believe in and she knows what I believe in but I’m forced to lie to myself everyday and I literally have lost all sight of what I’m about trying to cater to a monster in disguise, she had a very rough childhood dealing with lack of parenting, sober parents, sober babysitters, living in unthinkable environments, and projection her life long battle upon me and my family, I know exactly down to every last detail of why anything happens how it does in this relationship but I can’t say it she will deny and become sarcastic and force playing stupid being immature and saying off the wall things very hurtful things I don’t know anyone could say to anyone. For a level of how screwed up she can be, we had an apartment got into a fight about my mom and werything as usual and I came back to holes in every single wall of the place and three thousand dollar tv from rent a center I just got smashed now I’m in debt with nothing out of it and written things on the walls like I love my mommy I probably want to have sex with my mom my mom is a dirty rotten whore I mean you can think of it, it was on there. And now like I’ve found myself three or four times this past year an looking to the trusty Internet to help me but as the author said and said it perfectly this world is so ass backwards it can’t be changed back I don’t think, why would women want to feel responsible for anything wouldn’t it be nice to have someone you’ve trained into being you’re personal slave that can be thrown out when it doesn’t obey? Women’s rights gay rights racist rights seems like everyone has justification but the man no offense but especially white man we have nothing at our disposal besides people assuming all white men are rich or just have it great, I’ll tell you what’s great about it, nothing! We can’t sue anyone for being descriminitive, can’t fight someone cuz they looked at us funny or said something they didn’t like, can be called whiteboy cracker gringo whatever anyone wants to say the can but we have to watch every word spoken in which manner it was spoken and for what?! To please every ungrateful cry baby that woke up and felt entitled to control others lives and take others lives leaving some people rather disgruntled and wondering why America is a joke. All I hear is poor me poor me poor me from people that have done nothing themselves to try to change anything everyone wants someone else to fix they’re life obviously I even am victim of that cuz hear I am, but no way will we ever ever get ahead in this world until the world comes together and realizes we all want pretty much three basic things, food to feed our families, health insurance, and a home to have a family in. We could all have that we could all be kind and share like we’re “taught” as children, put 90 kids in a room all colors and I wonder how that goes compared to adults in the same situation, I don’t like what you like so because I can I’ll start a war but it won’t even be for what the media is telling you, we’re constantly conforming to the government without strain they have it so easy we do all the work for them, they manipulate our lives to ensure such actions. Tv, Facebook, movies, the newspaper, the history books the teach us in school, everything they can do they will do and we will unknowingly majority of the time fall for their games. Pretty much I have so much hatred for those with it all because they honestly more than likely granted the select few that actually did something for themselves but they were born in the right place at the right time with the right resources available, with political gain from parents to help them get thru school into sports when the middle to lower class have to extremely exceptional to be seen whether they are better than the high class children. This system is the dumbest and I’m sad to be living in this country or world it really is sad how kids are today how everything is people out there phones down for oneday I wonder what would happen? Spouses could trust each other to do what needed done without being able o call or txt them every minute on the minute making sure and so on, I’m sorry this went from me and my girl which I realize is quite frankly the last thing I or anyone needs to be worried about, how are we to make our lives manageable in this chaotic world? Don’t care, don’t care, and then just don’t care. It is going to do whatever it is going to do even maybe get better once all superior authority is not in control and the people can speak for the people and the people can figure out people’s problems and together as people understand that we are people humans mammals species of creatures that are genetically designed the same, so why is it that a son born of a wealthy man will be wealthy oneday himself? Greed and selfishness. This worlds fuel.