If your girlfriend is pushing you away and giving you the cold shoulder, then I’m glad you’re here because I’m going to get your mind headed in the right direction.
There’s nothing more annoying and painful (and immature) than to have your girlfriend give you that ghosting treatment.
In fact, I’d rather slam my pinky toe on the corner of a metal table than have my girlfriend give me the dreaded cold shoulder. That’s how much it annoys me.
I remember this one time where I went three days without hearing from a girlfriend I had years ago. I checked my Facebook (aka Fakebook) and I wasn’t blocked (oh the humanity). This girl was simply ignoring me, giving me the cold shoulder that I was so used to receiving in life.
You see, I was raised to be a kind, gentle, good guy. Growing up in the church, doing the nice guy thing, putting other people first, and so on.
“Rick, remember to be nice to everyone,” my momma told me daily (she still tells me this even now). “If you’re not nice to people, then they will be mean to you and you won’t make any friends.”
For almost 30 years, I was a gentle and kind soul. I always put others first because I wanted to make other people happy (especially the girls). I didn’t want any enemies. I wanted everyone to like me.
About 30 years of repelling women. I had hardly any legitimate close friends that were genuine with me. And worst of all, I had no clue what I wanted to do with my life. I was depressed and unhappy. My life was pathetic.
I was pathetic.
It wasn’t until I started making some monumental changes in my life (that I teach through this website) when I started to get results: women now pursue me. I have some of the most amazing, successful friends. My career is in a field I am passionate about.
And, I still get to help people for a living — just not at the cost of sacrificing my self-respect and personal well-being.
Even better, I don’t worry about being nice to people anymore. I just do me. This is who I am and this is what I stand for me. If you don’t like it, that’s fine. No hard feelings.
The most important lesson from my story is this:
Forget all the moral, subjective, idealistic lessons you’ve learned in life. If women are giving you the cold shoulder, then what you’ve been taught in life isn’t based in reality. It isn’t what works.
Removing all the social conditioning you’ve had for years sounds crazy. But, believe me when I say that all my success over the past 8 years is due to all these new mindsets I learned.
Before we dive in, I have a free guide that goes even deeper into this girlfriend mindset stuff. If you’re interested, just click this link and it will automatically send to your email address. You can just read it later.
1. Are Women Confusing The Hell Outta You?
Look fellas, here’s the thing… even the most stable women will throw you in a loop at times. You won’t even know what caused it. It could be hormones, a bad day at work, unhealthy food choices, a creep on the subway, her dog is sick — endless reasons.
I like to feel that our society is responsible for most of the issues people have today. And, I think I have a very valid argument for this.
Today’s society is teaching people some of the worst ways to live. I can’t stand all these grand-standing idealists. Idealism is the quickest path to living a life of misery and irresponsibility.
With all that said, this still doesn’t really explain why women are confusing. This is because women are biologically wired to test you. They will say and do things that are meant to confuse you.
Women will always test the men that they’re attracted to.
And, if you don’t have any clue about these tests, then you’re going to fail them. When you fail these tests, the woman gradually loses attraction for you.
If you fail enough of her tests, which is the dilemma of the nice guys and clueless guys, she leaves him. She’ll no longer have that sexual desire for you.
As a result, you get frustrated trying to figure out what’s going on. You’re clawing and fighting for an answer which she doesn’t give.
When I work personally with men on their relationships, the common problem is always in this lack of understanding. Most men these days simply don’t know how to communicate with women. They don’t know how to understand her behavior.
2. People And Their Crazy Emotions…
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been sitting around with some buddies enjoying a drink (or two) and they start speaking about how emotional and illogical the women of the world are.
I always have to correct these guys and tell them that everybody is emotional and illogical. That’s just how people are! I would argue that men do far more stupider things than women.
The healthy relationships I see these days are usually people who can think for themselves. The woman is deeply in love with her man because he does his own thing and doesn’t really care if you approve of it or not.
This non-needy attitude by itself is very powerful. Most people will go their entire life being miserable simply because they never learned to think for themselves.
Women need to respect you. Until she does, she will never truly fall in love with you. When a woman respects you, there’s no games, no cold shoulders, no irrational crazy BPD behavior.
In my experience coaching thousands of men & women, it’s the crazy idealists who are always getting hurt, cheated on, and dumped.
How do you tell if you’re an idealist? Well, if you constantly watch mainstream news and get all your information from headlines and pundits, you’re probably an idealist.
It’s hard to think for yourself when you won’t spend the time to do your own research. Reading this article here is you doing good research. I want you to form your own opinion.
The problem with all these idealists is that they play right into your emotions. They want you to lose control over your emotions. That’s how social conditioning works.
3. Relationships Are About Time Investment and Commitment
Think about all the times in your life where you went out of your way for a woman. Think about the amount of time you spent doing something for her, bailing her out, whatever.
Now think about what you got out of all this time you spent. Was it worth it? Did you get anything in return, any sort of commitments?
If you did, then great! You’re using your time wisely.
If not – then you didn’t use your precious time wisely. And, time is everything you got in your life.
You got to learn how to balance your time correctly. You got to learn how to invest your time and commitment into things that are worth investing in. And yes, this includes women.
A lot of guys don’t value their time and easily throw it around like it’s nothing. You have all these high expectations afterwards, but nothing comes of it.
Your girl is going to say “Thanks!” and be on her merry way.
Then you’re sitting on the brick wall, hands empty, confused, wondering what the hell just happened. What was I doing this whole time with this girl. Why do I feel like an empty shell, even more so than before.
You look up into the sky and confirm to yourself that women are cold-hearted bitches. It’s the only answer! Why else would she treat you this way?
And I can see why you feel that way, especially if she’s giving you shit and sleeping with your best friend on the down-low. Sucks to be cucked.
In this society that you’re a part of, you’re being trained by the liberal left and the loonie idealists to be Codependent and needy. Why? Because when you’re codependent, you depend on others.
It isn’t good for relationships – but it’s great for the gooooberment and other’s in positions of power. So start using your head. Look around at all the idiocy that’s being fed to you through the air waves everyday.
4. Relationships Are A Two-Way Street
Most men think of themselves as these heroes who must lead the girl to victory! It sounds like an ideal relationship (there’s that “ideal” word again), but it’s far from reality.
In an Idealistic point of view, it feels really good to be the man of the relationship. To make all the decisions and to always be there for your girl.
But the reality of relationships is that there are two human beings involved. I like to say that healthy relationships are a team of two people working together to climb mountains.
Not a bad analogy, eh?
Understand that women are ultimately attracted to men with self-respect. That’s one of the keys to understanding women. But too often, men do things that lose this respect.
As a result, the relationship becomes more and more one-sided. Your girl starts losing desire for you, and that dreaded cold shoulder comes out to play again.
Once a woman loses her desire for you, you’re done. You can’t get it back. You can try all you want, but your efforts will be futile.
The only way to rebuild that desire in the eyes of your woman is for her to see you as a man she can respect. Until you do that, she’s going to keep doing her own thing.
5. The Biggest Turn-Off to Women
By this point, I hope you’re getting a good idea of what is most likely turning your girl off. Why she’s giving you the cold shoulder. Why she’s asking for space and ignoring your calls.
Of course, what I’m saying here is written for a general audience. But I’m sure you can relate to some of these things here so far. And that’s the point.
When your girl starts to lose that desirability for you, that’s when you need to start getting worried. But don’t panic! The last thing you want to do is act out with some emotional reaction, further cucking yourself like a flaming liberal.
I want you to understand that women, even the ‘crazy’ BPD girlfriend types, want to be loved and to give the love that they have.
You can read all the self-help books you want. But, if you don’t have the mindsets and the attitude that turns your woman on, eventually her desire for you will be gone and the toxicity begins.
Don’t let this happen to you. You need to learn how to keep her desire and attraction for you turned up at a high level most of the time.
When you truly learn and embrace the things that I teach, your very presence will turn your partner on. She will be excited just to be around you. You’ll literally be doing nothing and she’ll be wanting you.
She’ll be thinking about you when you’re not around her. That’s what you truly want. When you’re in her head throughout the day, she simply cannot wait to cuddle up beside you in bed when you get home.
Less really is more with my relationship system. It’s the key lesson in my Better BPD Relationships program.
6. Mistakes, Mistakes, Mistakes
While there are many possible reasons why your girlfriend is pushing you away right now, there’s no denying that you have made a number of small mistakes which are to blame.
It’s time to take some responsibility, my friend. I get a lot of heat for this, but it’s usually from frustrated chumps who think their acts of kindness should be rewarded with thousands of mind-blowing blowjobs.
Sorry son, but that’s not how things work in the real world – maybe in your Ideological world, but not in the real world.
All it takes is one, little mistake to discredit the thousands of good things you’ve been doing for your girl. That’s all it takes. Pretty wild, right?
A lot of men get butt hurt over this fact, but that’s fine. I’m here to give you the truth. I don’t sugar coat anything which is why I’m surprised I still have fans in this sensitive world we live in.
But fret ye not – if you’re thick-skinned and can handle the truth, then I’m sure you’re agreeing with a lot of what I’ve been saying so far.
And here’s an even more confusing part that will send all the goodie two-shoes in an uproar: if a woman strongly desires you, you can get away with practically anything!
That totally contradicts what I was saying above, right? If one little mistake can ruin everything, then how can you get away with a lot of mistakes?
Ah my little grasshopper that’s the point – when a woman has that strong desire for you, the relationship dynamic is completely changed. You can now be your true, genuine self and enjoy a relationship as it’s meant to be enjoyed.
And she will love you for it! She will crave you more and more, even though you’re not perfect by any means.
7. Technology and Social Media is Changing the Game
Walk onto any bus or subway and what do you see? Men & women sucked into their digital devices like they just discovered porn for the first time.
We’ve really devolved to become an interesting species if you ask me. What happened to actual human interaction? And online dating? I’m in my young 30’s and I still think online dating is a joke.
I like to say that we’re devolving. It’s a fun word to use. Technology might be making life easier for us, but we’re definitely becoming a less intelligent society as a whole.
Instead of relying on experts and professionals for answers, we’d rather hear what Kim Kardashian has to say about the economy. You know… because she knows so much about it… yeah…
Goes to show you that we just live in a very different, crazy world compared to just 5 years ago. And 10 years ago? What is that? Wasn’t there a guy named Bush doing something in some desert?
I personally choose to stay away from social media as much as possible. I get on there and debate some liberals from time to time for entertainment (which I gladly share with you), but in general I stay away.
I like the real world. Remember that I’m a realist. And if there’s anything you get out of my teaching, it’s for you to be an independent thinker as well. I want you to think for yourself. To do your own research.
Stop blindly accepting the words of others. Just because some bitter person on Reddit says that BPD women want to ruin men does NOT mean it’s true.
People are so easily deceived these days. Do the research yourself from now on. Don’t buy anything from anyone unless what they say can be backed up with evidence.
Well you made it. You reached the end. High-five! You must seriously value your self if you made it this far. And that’s great! I want you to value your self and to want the best out of your life.
After all, if you didn’t value your relationships and the women in your life, why even live? Life would be pretty damn boring.
Maybe that’s why all the crazy feminists of the world can’t find a partner? Because they don’t value themselves? I could be wrong. But that’s what it looks like to me.
To get you started on the right path, feel free to grab my free relationship guide. Just read it when you got some free time and I think you’ll get some value out of it.
Thanks for reading.