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The Legacy of Shark

Many years ago, there was a great blog on the internet written by a man who called himself "Shark." Most of you reading this have never heard of this man or his website.

But, it was easily one of the best blogs that ever existed on the internet and I was very sad when the website finally shut down round 4 years ago.

Shark focused his writings around women and relationships. His website was called "Solve My Girl Problems" for a reason. However, what he taught was much bigger than that.

It was a true treasure trove of truth. The men and women who were lucky enough to stumble across his blog would be forever changed as they continued to read what he wrote.

I managed to find an archive of every single blog post he ever wrote. I can't with good conscious let what he wrote fade away into nothingness.

Therefore, I will be posting his best articles here on my website along with additional comments and insights from myself.

Below you will find these articles. I hope you enjoy them in all their glory.

Alpha Male Qualities & Being More Attractive

by Rick Leave a Comment

Here’s a list of things you should start doing TODAY. As everyone knows, becoming “Alpha” is a lifelong journey. It’s more of a metaphor for becoming the best person you can be. Confidence, passion, ambition, and success are but a few Alpha Male qualities.

I don’t know if there’s any book or article that really captures everything you should do to become Alpha, but here are a few steps that you should initiate NOW.

Afterwards, read the article on Alpha vs Beta Males and highlight things you might be doing wrong that you can change.

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When Should You End A Relationship?

by Rick 1 Comment

A reader writes in:

“First, I would like to say thanks for the Triumph posts. They were so helpful so I am turning to you again for advice. Ok, so the situation is that my gf has become very needy and I have become very missing since I am now focusing on increasing my value for myself. I have lost several pounds, focused on school, and hanging out with my guy friends.

Accordingly, one of her friends left town yesterday and is to be gone for several months so my theory is the reason she has become so needy is because she does not have a lot of friends with whom she keeps into steady contact with. This is because they like to get drunk and be really stupid and my girl wants no part of that.

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How To Approach A Woman You Think Is Hot

by Rick Leave a Comment

A reader writes in:

“What do do/say once I approach a girl? Is this something I will just figure out/internalize after I’ve tried many many times? should I pay attention to things like IOI’s and all that pickup stuff, or just focus on having balls and doing/saying I want?”

It would border on insanity to try and make a full­-proof script for cold approaching. All of humanity’s knowledge over seduction, game, love, relationships and etc can be summarized into two equations:

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Start Investing Your Time Instead of Spending It

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For anyone that hasn’t read Robert Kiyosaki’s Rich Dad, Poor Dad; you should pick it up at a bookstore the next time you get a chance.

The recurring theme in the book can be applied to life in general, not just finance.

INVEST; don’t “work.”

Why does everyone complain about life getting harder as they grow older? Because no one INVESTS their time — they just spend it. Life isn’t supposed to get harder as you grow older, it’s supposed to get easier.

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Let Your Cheating Ex Girlfriend Go. Get Over Her

by Rick Leave a Comment

Shark would occasionally answer questions from readers as I do. They would write in, he would post their questions, and answer them. It’s a great way to produce content for your readers. It helps everybody.

The following is a long, 3-page question from a guy who is looking for advice about his cheating ex from 6 months ago. He tries to sound “alpha” and that he is “winning” some sort of battle against her (which is the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard), but this is typical of insecure men with issues.

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A Guide to Fighting With Your Girlfriend or Wife

by Rick Leave a Comment

Reader Comments:

“Hey Shark, can you do the follow up to December 20th’s post, this time regarding how deal with a fight in a relationship?”

Just to warn you in advance, this is going to be a long and dense article, but one of the most important articles you will read about relationships. Ever.

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“Just Be Yourself” Is Garbage Advice

by Rick Leave a Comment

It’s no surprise that beta males are like crabs in a barrel — misery, complacency, and sexual dementia have an uncanny taste for company.

As soon as you start trying to make positive changes to yourself, the people around you will react in one of 2 ways:

A) If they like the change they will accommodate it and comment on how you have “matured” or “see the light”

B) If they don’t like the change, if the change conflicts with their own self-­interests, or if they would simply prefer if you stayed on the same boat as them (most AFCs) they will resent it and immediately resort to their “Just­ Be­ Yourself” platitudes.

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