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Borderline Ex Stopped Communicating. What Should You Do?

As someone who has dated someone with BPD, and have several friends with BPD, I want to share some advice about what to do when your borderline ex stops communicating and cuts you off.

It’s a common question I receive from both men and women who are in relationships with people who have BPD.

Now, you don’t need to some communication or relationship “expert” to make these relationships succeed.

In fact, I would say it’s much better to be experienced than to be “smart”. This is true in the real world and it holds true for relationships as well.

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Doomed To A Life Of Misery With No Love Relationships? Read This Story

by Rick 2 Comments

What follows is a long email I received from a woman with BPD who came across my website and went through my Better BPD Relationships course.

If you constantly feel like you’ll never find any true love and relationships, that you’re doomed to misery and depression, read this long story.

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Firstly I would like to commend you for your website. You haven’t made any huge generalizations about those with BP and BPD which are rife all over the Internet and stigmatizes us.

It has taken me years to not be terribly effected by the stereotypes about my condition online — from out right lies and disinformation such as claiming we have no empathy and are sadistic, to telling others never to date us at all.

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How A Shy, Introvert Guy Can Get A Girlfriend

by Rick 2 Comments

Did you know that I’m an introvert? It’s probably why I prefer writing instead of getting in front of a camera and blasting my face onto social media like other “influencers” do.

I’m not particularly shy, but you need to earn my attention. It’s one of my high-quality attributes. But, I used to be way more shy than I am now and I struggled to date women because of it.

Getting a girlfriend was something that (I believed) was simply not possible for me. Throughout my 20’s, I dabbled in pick-up stuff (which is 99% bullshit), read a lot of books, had a few BPD girlfriends.

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Can BPD Relationships Work Long-Term?

by Rick 176 Comments

Life is crazy, ain’t it? There’s no telling what can happen. One day everything seems perfectly fine. No drama, no toxicity, no fighting – just love and smiles.

But then you wake up the next day and it’s like a completely different world. There’s drama, toxicity, and anger. You’re confused and you have no idea what the hell happened in a span of 8 hours.

This type of real-life shit happens more often than you’d want it to. And if you’re dating these days, I guarantee you’re going to date someone who has BPD.

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Why BPD Can Be Attractive, Sexy, Seductive and Irresistible

by Rick 44 Comments

I love me some BPD women. They are usually very attractive and irresistible when they’re in a good mood.

With enough experience, you learn how to give these sexy women what they need which keeps them in a good mood most of the time.

I get my fair share of haters who say that dating a woman with BPD is impossible. But I’ve done it over and over again, and without the common irrationality that other people experience.

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This BPD Therapist Messed Up. I Offer My Advice.

by Rick 7 Comments

I received an email from one of my “inner circle” members. In this email, he talks about some of the advice his therapist gave him.

He is coming to me as well for advice which I’m proud of him for doing. You should always be seeking out multiple experts and do your research no matter what it is you’re dealing with.

While I do tend to talk down to therapists, I don’t hate them all. There are some good ones out there, but they can be hard to find. Again, you need to do your research by looking up this therapist and see if anyone has good things to say about him or her.

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7 Ways To Fix Relationship Drama

by Rick 10 Comments

It’s been a busy week for me and so I’m a little late bringing you this post. I definitely want to provide you all with more than one article per week so I hope I can free up some time in the future to do this.

With the holidays approaching, it’s no better time to talk about relationship drama. From about October to around April, I notice a large uptick in the amount of relationships people get into. Call it the relationship season if you will.

Then around April or Spring time, people tend to break up. This is personally what I’ve noticed. I seem to believe it’s due to summer traveling and other vacation plans that tend to split people apart as well as the fact that it’s getting warmer and people are doing things.

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