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14 Reasons Why “Nice Guys” Can’t Get Girlfriends & Dates

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If you feel like you’re genuinely a nice guy or good guy, different from all the other “assholes” out there, then please read this article.

Why is it that when you’re good to your partner, things only tend to get worse? You’re going out of your way for him/her, you’re trying to please and make them happy, you ‘different’ from his or her previous partners, etc.

Yet the relationship only gets worse and leads to failure. Why does this tend to happen so often these days?

In this big article, I’ve written about 14 reasons why the “good” men and women tend to experience more drama in their relationships than all the other people you’re ‘different’ from. Read on!

A High Quality Woman Won’t Hesitate To Leave Her Boyfriend

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People often ask me what I believe to be the difference between a woman of quality and an average (or below average) one.

The difference is this:

A woman of high quality knows her worth. She won’t wait around for a guy to get his shit together. She’ll be out before you know it, moving forward with her life.

This is truly what separates the great women from the rest. These women are rare of course, but they are out there. They will give you this vibe that says, “You better not waste my time, buddy!”

I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Give Her Some Space. Let Her Come To You. It’s Healthy

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One of the most important lessons I teach people is this: you need to give her some space. Let her come back to you on her own terms.

It’s a very simple lesson, yet incredibly difficult to follow if you’re in a codependent relationship.

The reasons for this is obvious: as a codependent, you struggle to be alone. You feel like you need your partner to be with you or else life sucks.

Giving her some space feels like the last thing you want to do. Instead, you want to pull her in more because you feel like it will make things better, right?

Am I Too Intimidating To Date? Common Signs To Look For

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Have you ever asked yourself the question, “Am I too intimidating to date? Do people thing I’m hard to approach? Is my personality too strong for relationships?”

Well, the fact that you’re reading this article probably means that you’ve asked yourself these questions more than once. I know I have.

I’ve been told I have a strong personality. Women have told me over the years that I give off an intimidating vibe. I’m okay with this as I’ll explain below.

So, I’ve grabbed a bunch of common signs to think about to see if you’re actually too intimidating for a relationship.

How To Stop Giving A Fuck and Be A Mature, Healthy Adult

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Feel like you don’t know how to stop giving a fuck? That you care way too much about the opinion of others? You’re not alone.

In fact, most people are just like you. They have no idea what it means to be a mature, healthy adult.

Instead, you care way too much about the opinions of others. You want everyone to like and appreciate you. It feels like a personal attack when people reject you.

The mental programing of your brain causes you to think and believe this way. The result is that you become dependent on others. You care way too much about the opinion of others.

Are Single Women Happier Than Women In Relationships?

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The other day, I came across an article that talked about why single women are happier than women in relationships.

The author tried to make the argument than the longer a woman is single, the happier she will become.

So, I’m going to give my own take on this subject and give you the truth about women and relationships.

I will give the author some credit. She states that a lot of women end up unhappy in relationships due to having shitty boyfriends. I agree with this statement.

Do You Need To Compromise In Relationships?

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Got a question from a reader that I felt is really important to talk about.

He wanted to know what the difference is between Codependency and compromising to better the relationship.

Very simple, but great question.

If you’re new to this topic of codependency, I can see why compromising in a relationship may be a confusing topic.

How To Stop Living In A Constant State Of Fear

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Are you living in a state of fear?

Don’t feel bad if you are. You’re not alone. In fact, most people are living in a constant state of fear.

This constant state of fear leads to a scarcity mentality, which is the opposite of an abundance mentality.

Developing an abundance mentality is only possible when you no longer live in fear. Unsurprisingly, most people never experience a life of abundance for this very reason.

Why Your Girlfriend Ran Back To Her Ex Boyfriend

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Do you want to know why your girlfriend ran back to her ex boyfriend? Do you want her back? Then you want to read this article.

If you’re reading this article chances are you want your girlfriend back.

Why else would you be here?

She ran to her ex boyfriend, possibly ghosted you, and now you’re feeling like crap due to the feelings of rejection.

I can relate. I’ve had multiple women leave me for an ex. It’s one of the most painful experiences a man can go through.

What To Do When Your Girlfriend Goes Cold

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One of the worst experiences you can have in a relationship is when your girlfriend goes cold on you.

Even worse is when you feel as if everything is going well: the sex is good, she says she loves you, you’re happy. Suddenly, she’s gone! She’s ghosted you and won’t return any texts or calls.

There are a lot of factors that can lead up to such a devastating loss. And we’ll get into some of these in this article.

6 Strategies To Improve Your Relationship Starting Today

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Having issues in your relationship? Looking for a quick guide that will show you 6 ways to improve your relationship starting today? That just happens to be the exact topic for today’s lesson.

I’ve got 6 strategies right here that you should immediately put to use so that you can see some improvement in your love life. These are directly what I learned to pull me out of some tough situations and I know they’ll help you as well.

I have a lot of experience dating some of the wildest, crazy women out there. If it weren’t for these lessons, I’d still be depressed and unhappy. I would have stayed in my hole and deteriorated until I became nothingness. Lame!

How to Overcome Fear of Failure in Relationships

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First of all, please don’t do the cucumber trick with your cats, lol. Apparently it’s a real instinct-based fear that might keep them from eating for a while :P

In this whopper of an article, you’re going to learn how to overcome your fear of failure when it comes to relationships and dating.

While fear is healthy for the most part, it can also cripple us to the point where it becomes destructive.

And that’s what I want to help you prevent.

Can Two Codependents Have a Successful Relationship?

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One of the reasons why I spend a lot of time talking about codependent relationships is because I used to be a hardcore codependent.

Yep! Good ol’ Rick here was a needy, supplicating, weak man. I put women I wanted on the pedestal constantly and was afraid of rocking the boat. Not good!

As a result, all of my relationships eventually became toxic and abusive because I couldn’t be the man and lead the relationship as a man should.

Why “Nice” Guys Finish Last And Can’t Fall In Love

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Do you feel like you’re a “nice guy” (or girl) and yet you just can’t get a girlfriend? Or any intimacy to begin with?

Deep down, you know that you’re this good guy who only wants to make a woman happy. But no matter what you do, the women don’t seem to notice this.

What’s the deal? Why is it that “nice guys” (and some women) tend to never get the love they desperately want in return?

If you read my last blog post about why being “nice” and “good” can create problems, then you are ready to dive into more specific reasons of WHY “nice” people tend to finish last.

5 Values, Mindsets and Beliefs That Cause Relationship Drama

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Relationships aren’t meant to be easy.

You need strong mindsets, good values, patience and an open-mind (among many things).

Leaving some of these important factors out is the reason why most relationships fail.

Especially in this day and age.

Did you know that around 95% of all relationships are toxic and unhealthy?

Are You A Sex Addict? When Sex Becomes Too Important

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It’s been a hectic past couple of weeks for me. With the launch of my new BPD Relationship Blueprint program, I’ve been dedicating a lot of time to answering emails and coaching.

Which brings us to this topic that I’m writing about today: Sex Addiction.

A lot of people put too much emphasis on sex. They make it too important in their lives. And it creates problems.

Can People With BPD Have Healthy Relationships?

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This article has been long in the making. It’s a question that’s probably often in your head.

Can people with BPD really have a healthy relationship? Is it actually possible, Rick? Or are these people doomed?

These are the deeper questions that lie beneath a lot of the surface level questions you may have.

How To Help and Support Someone With BPD

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This next article in my BPD series is about how to help you support your partner that has BPD, or who you suspect is showing symptoms of BPD.

Something to keep in mind in these relationships is that until your partner is actually out of denial and accepting that they want to improve, it does you absolutely no good to tell them that they have BPD and should see a doctor.

This is why correct support is vital. You have to know how to support someone who is in denial. The more you try to force and control situations, the more problems and conflict you’ll actually create.

How To Date A Wild, Crazy, Emotional Girl

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Either you want to date a crazy girl, or you’re already in a relationship with a wild, emotional girl that can be amazing at times.

Well, I don’t blame you. In fact, the truth is that the best women you can date are the women who are hard to get. They’re emotional, they’re wild, they appear to be crazy to most men.

And that’s great news for you because it you can learn how to date these crazy women, you’re going to have an amazing life full of love, passion and sexy times.

Can You Get Back With Your Ex By Being Nice?

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Do nice behaviors work to get back your ex?

Today’s article comes from a man that asked me a very similar question. He basically wanted to know what nice things he could do that would woo his ex and make her interested again.

He wanted to know what he could do so she could view him as a ‘good’ guy and thus want to the relationship once again.

But is this man thinking the right mindsets? Can you get an ex back by being this nice, good guy all the time? Sure, it can be done. But there’s a much bigger problem to worry about.