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Single and Lonely? How To Deal With Loneliness and Depression

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If you’re single and feeling lonely as of late, take your time to go through this article. Ending the feelings of isolation and depression is an extremely important task for a healthy life.

But, I don’t have to tell you that. You already know that to be true. A lot of depression comes from the fear of being unlovable and alone forever.

That sense of isolation can tear your brain apart and set you on a path of mental destruction. This is especially true if you’ve been single for so long and can’t deal with it.

So, I’m going to do my best to give you some practical tips to help. I’ve had periods where I was single for a couple of years at a time and managed to stay relatively happy the whole time.

A High Quality Woman Won’t Hesitate To Leave Her Boyfriend

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People often ask me what I believe to be the difference between a woman of quality and an average (or below average) one.

The difference is this:

A woman of high quality knows her worth. She won’t wait around for a guy to get his shit together. She’ll be out before you know it, moving forward with her life.

This is truly what separates the great women from the rest. These women are rare of course, but they are out there. They will give you this vibe that says, “You better not waste my time, buddy!”

I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Give Her Some Space. Let Her Come To You. It’s Healthy

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One of the most important lessons I teach people is this: you need to give her some space. Let her come back to you on her own terms.

It’s a very simple lesson, yet incredibly difficult to follow if you’re in a codependent relationship.

The reasons for this is obvious: as a codependent, you struggle to be alone. You feel like you need your partner to be with you or else life sucks.

Giving her some space feels like the last thing you want to do. Instead, you want to pull her in more because you feel like it will make things better, right?

Stages of a BPD Relationship and How They Evolve

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Trying to figure out the different stages of a BPD relationship? Wondering how a BPD relationship evolves over time? Confused in general and wondering what to do?

Well, that’s why I’m here. This article, as well as dozens of others I’ve written, will help you answer these questions. So bookmark my site if you haven’t done so yet.

I regularly write about BPD and codependent relationships because I love helping people reach the success and happiness they strongly desire.

It’s my mission to help men and women all over the globe have better relationships. Understanding the stages of a BPD relationship will help you reach your goal.

Doomed To A Life Of Misery With No Love Relationships? Read This Story

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What follows is a long email I received from a woman with BPD who came across my website and went through my Better BPD Relationships course.

If you constantly feel like you’ll never find any true love and relationships, that you’re doomed to misery and depression, read this long story.

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Firstly I would like to commend you for your website. You haven’t made any huge generalizations about those with BP and BPD which are rife all over the Internet and stigmatizes us.

It has taken me years to not be terribly effected by the stereotypes about my condition online — from out right lies and disinformation such as claiming we have no empathy and are sadistic, to telling others never to date us at all.

An Interview With A Borderline: Woman Edition

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What follows is a quick interview I had with a borderline woman.

There is an incredible amount of gold to be gained from this interview. Many of the things I’ve been teaching for years are confirmed by her. You’ll see how her boyfriend naturally behaves in the manner that I coach.

I won’t say much more about this because I want you to read it and pick up on these things for yourself.

Enjoy!

Why Your Girlfriend Ran Back To Her Ex Boyfriend

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Do you want to know why your girlfriend ran back to her ex boyfriend? Do you want her back? Then you want to read this article.

If you’re reading this article chances are you want your girlfriend back.

Why else would you be here?

She ran to her ex boyfriend, possibly ghosted you, and now you’re feeling like crap due to the feelings of rejection.

I can relate. I’ve had multiple women leave me for an ex. It’s one of the most painful experiences a man can go through.

How Your Self-Esteem Can Ruin Your Relationship

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How Self-Esteem Affects Relationships

Had an email come in asking me if I had any tips on boosting self-esteem in a relationship that seems to be going down hill.

It’s a great topic because it’s a new year and ahaving a relationship that you’re excited to be in is tough if you have low self-esteem.

You forget that in your relationship, you are the major player.

How A Shy, Introvert Guy Can Get A Girlfriend

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Did you know that I’m an introvert? It’s probably why I prefer writing instead of getting in front of a camera and blasting my face onto social media like other “influencers” do.

I’m not particularly shy, but you need to earn my attention. It’s one of my high-quality attributes. But, I used to be way more shy than I am now and I struggled to date women because of it.

Getting a girlfriend was something that (I believed) was simply not possible for me. Throughout my 20’s, I dabbled in pick-up stuff (which is 99% bullshit), read a lot of books, had a few BPD girlfriends.

6 Strategies To Improve Your Relationship Starting Today

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Having issues in your relationship? Looking for a quick guide that will show you 6 ways to improve your relationship starting today? That just happens to be the exact topic for today’s lesson.

I’ve got 6 strategies right here that you should immediately put to use so that you can see some improvement in your love life. These are directly what I learned to pull me out of some tough situations and I know they’ll help you as well.

I have a lot of experience dating some of the wildest, crazy women out there. If it weren’t for these lessons, I’d still be depressed and unhappy. I would have stayed in my hole and deteriorated until I became nothingness. Lame!

How You Can Get Your Cheating Ex Back

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So this is a rather odd topic for me to cover… Most people will look at you and say “Bro! Why the HELL would you want your cheating garbage hobo ass bum of an ex back??”

But hey, I get it. I’ve been there. One of the first girls I dated cheated on me over and over again, and I kept taking her back. And I don’t really regret it thaaaat much (just a little bit).

So while everyone around you is saying how you should forget about that dirty filth-caked gym sock with his or her new play thing, let’s leave those people behind for a bit and have an actual discussion about it.

Attracting Women Naturally Using Your Gut Instincts

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Lately I’ve been talking about these “Attraction Triggers” which are basically all you need to know if you want a healthy relationship.

These triggers go back thousands of years. They are the instincts we have as humans.

We cannot help who we are attracted to. The reason for this are these triggers.

If you understand these attraction triggers, you can keep your man or woman interested in you for as long as you live.

Can Borderlines/BPD Fall In Love In Relationships?

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Here we go again. The common BPD myth.

This belief that Borderline’s are incapable of love and that the best solution is to run far away.

You hear this all the time. And, quite frankly, it’s getting really old at this point.

But I’m always up for the challenge (and I’ve never been bothered by people telling me this in hate mail).

How to Overcome Fear of Failure in Relationships

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First of all, please don’t do the cucumber trick with your cats, lol. Apparently it’s a real instinct-based fear that might keep them from eating for a while :P

In this whopper of an article, you’re going to learn how to overcome your fear of failure when it comes to relationships and dating.

While fear is healthy for the most part, it can also cripple us to the point where it becomes destructive.

And that’s what I want to help you prevent.

Why “Nice” Guys Finish Last And Can’t Fall In Love

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Do you feel like you’re a “nice guy” (or girl) and yet you just can’t get a girlfriend? Or any intimacy to begin with?

Deep down, you know that you’re this good guy who only wants to make a woman happy. But no matter what you do, the women don’t seem to notice this.

What’s the deal? Why is it that “nice guys” (and some women) tend to never get the love they desperately want in return?

If you read my last blog post about why being “nice” and “good” can create problems, then you are ready to dive into more specific reasons of WHY “nice” people tend to finish last.

7 Tips for a Codependent Woman to Heal & Recover

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Happy 4th everyone! I personally love this holiday as having the freedom to actually run a blog like this is amazing.

So with that said, I’ve got some killer tips for all the codependent, passive women out there that are trying to heal and recover.

Just as a quick plug, I’m in the process of creating a course that’s all about recovering from Codependency. It’s similar format to my BPD course is that it will have an ebook and several hours of audio training.

Are You A Sex Addict? When Sex Becomes Too Important

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It’s been a hectic past couple of weeks for me. With the launch of my new BPD Relationship Blueprint program, I’ve been dedicating a lot of time to answering emails and coaching.

Which brings us to this topic that I’m writing about today: Sex Addiction.

A lot of people put too much emphasis on sex. They make it too important in their lives. And it creates problems.

Dating and Relationships Are About Commitment; NOT Interest

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Got my coffee in hand and I’m excited to be writing this post for you today. I’ve been getting some questions about interest lately and I want to share my opinion on the subject.

Today’s post is going to focus on COMMITMENT and why it’s the most important factor when it comes to dating and relationships. A lot of people focus on interest levels which in my opinion is a mistake.

I’m sure you see or know certain people in your life that just seem to ‘get it’. They have healthy relationships, they never have a problem dating good people, they have the dating life you wish you could have.

Why?

How Can I Stop a Break Up from Happening?

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If you’re in a dying relationship and trying to stop a break up from happening, then you’ll want to read this article.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

1) Be appreciative of the fact that you were able to have this relationship.
2) Understand that relationships fall apart when your partner loses attraction for you.
3) You must have goals and purpose that are beyond the scope of the relationship.
4) Relationships teach you a lot about yourself. They should make you and your partner better.

Relationships are worse than ever before. Couples are breaking up left and right, thanks to the hook-up culture that the feminists and dating apps that have taken the world by storm.

One of the most common questions I receive from readers is how to stop a break up from happening.

Wouldn’t that be amazing if you could wave a magic wand, shout some Harry Potter spell, and your relationship instantly fixes itself?

Such a dream…

The biggest sign that your relationship is headed for the dumps is when your partner is being distant, unresponsive, cold, etc.

Why Are BPD Relationships So Complicated?

by Rick 13 Comments

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BPD relationships can be very complicated. I know this firsthand as I’ve been in several failed relationships throughout my life (especially my early relationships).

As a result of my intense experiences, I dedicated myself years ago to helping people with their BPD relationships simply for the fact that I like helping people and I don’t want people to experience the pains that I went through.

I hope that you enjoy my help and advice that I write about because I truly do believe that we’re all imperfect humans and I believe that Borderline’s want to find love and happiness as much as anyone else.