Finding Success in BPD and Codependent Relationships
Here’s a somewhat common relationship situation involving your ex:
Take a minute to imagine that you’re currently broken up (if you are currently broken up, then there’s no reason to imagine).
At 2 in the morning, your ex calls you up and says that he or she misses you and wants to hear your voice.
This is certainly fine and dandy for ya, right? It’s what you’ve been waiting for all this time.
To make things even better, your ex says that she is willing to meet up at your house.
Wowzers!
So this is a rather odd topic for me to cover… Most people will look at you and say “Bro! Why the HELL would you want your cheating garbage hobo ass bum of an ex back??”
But hey, I get it. I’ve been there. One of the first girls I dated cheated on me over and over again, and I kept taking her back. And I don’t really regret it thaaaat much (just a little bit).
So while everyone around you is saying how you should forget about that dirty filth-caked gym sock with his or her new play thing, let’s leave those people behind for a bit and have an actual discussion about it.
I remember those days where I’d be sitting around wondering why my ex girlfriend would text me out of the blue, usually right after I moved on from her!
It made no sense. Just out of the blue I hear a *ding* and sure enough, there she is asking me a random question or simply asking me how I’m doing.
What’s funny is that my ex girlfriends would never text or call me back when I was putting in the effort and reaching out to her. WTF?
Do nice behaviors work to get back your ex?
Today’s article comes from a man that asked me a very similar question. He basically wanted to know what nice things he could do that would woo his ex and make her interested again.
He wanted to know what he could do so she could view him as a ‘good’ guy and thus want to the relationship once again.
But is this man thinking the right mindsets? Can you get an ex back by being this nice, good guy all the time? Sure, it can be done. But there’s a much bigger problem to worry about.
So you were in a relationship with a BPD that was absolutely amazing for several months.
It was probably some of the best moments you’ve ever had in life: amazing sex, amazing happiness, your heart feeling full, etc.
And then?
KABLAM!
Your BPD ex leaves you for someone else out of nowhere. Everything was great just the other day. What the hell happened?
You can’t believe how quickly everything went down hill. Your partner was great the other day, and then today? It’s as if he/she became a completely different person.
I’m NOT a fan of all those ‘get an ex back’ ebooks and lousy advice columns on the internet because they’re just full of junk advice written by people that don’t really have experience with this topic.
Seeing how I’ve gotten back together with multiple exes multiple times over the years, I feel that I owe you an explanation to how I’ve done it and how you can as well.
“No matter what I do, I just CAN’T get her to LOVE ME the same…”
If that sounds like you, then you’re not alone out there. Countless relationships exist in our society today that are broken and leaving you in pain.
And one of the big reasons for losing your girlfriend’s love is simply because, if you’re a man, you’re not being the dominant, masculine figure you need to be.
And I don’t blame you. Most men (think 95%) have never learned what it means to be a dominant, attractive force of a man that makes the ladies giggle with glee.
You can thank out atrocious society and the media which loves making men appear weak. Nearly every ad you see on TV shows men being weak and stupid.
I wrote a free mini-guide about the biggest mistake of all that men make which causes girlfriend’s to lose love for them. You can grab it right here:
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And I spent many a night in pain after my wife walked out that front door. I can still remember the exact moment and it’s a feeling I never want to feel again (and I know I won’t – I’ve CHANGED for the better and our marriage has been incredible since she came back).
The truth is that anyone WILLING to make changes in their lives CAN receive the love they seek. Your lover wants you to be REAL – and our society has demolished what it means to be a REAL MAN.
I created this website to help men.
But I believe that women can learn a whole lot about us men as well.