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How Can I Stop Thinking About My Crazy Ex?

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Here’s a question that dropped along my inbox just the other day. Behold:

“Hey Rick, I can’t stop thinking about my ex. Yes, she’s a bit crazy (or maybe it’s me that’s crazy), but I just can’t shake her loose out of my head. I want to move on and meet new people so how do I shake her from my thoughts?”

‘Tis a great question for this time of year. It’s cold outside, we want to cuddle and snuggle with someone.

Thinking about a crazy ex girlfriend or boyfriend that we recently had isn’t going to do us any good.

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How A Shy, Introvert Guy Can Get A Girlfriend

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Did you know that I’m an introvert? It’s probably why I prefer writing instead of getting in front of a camera and blasting my face onto social media like other “influencers” do.

I’m not particularly shy, but you need to earn my attention. It’s one of my high-quality attributes. But, I used to be way more shy than I am now and I struggled to date women because of it.

Getting a girlfriend was something that (I believed) was simply not possible for me. Throughout my 20’s, I dabbled in pick-up stuff (which is 99% bullshit), read a lot of books, had a few BPD girlfriends.

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What To Do When Your Girlfriend Goes Cold

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One of the worst experiences you can have in a relationship is when your girlfriend goes cold on you.

Even worse is when you feel as if everything is going well: the sex is good, she says she loves you, you’re happy. Suddenly, she’s gone! She’s ghosted you and won’t return any texts or calls.

There are a lot of factors that can lead up to such a devastating loss. And we’ll get into some of these in this article.

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When Facebook Causes Relationship Problems

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Facebook and I have always had an interesting relationship. I’ve never been a fan of being “Facebook official” and as a result, I’ve had women get upset with me over that.

It’s completely irrational and petty, but it simply is what it is.

Facebook is here to stay. And I’m pretty sure relationships will be here at least for a while, right?

Therefore, in this post I’m going to answer a long email I got from a reader asking advice about Facebook relationships.

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Attracting Women Naturally Using Your Gut Instincts

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Lately I’ve been talking about these “Attraction Triggers” which are basically all you need to know if you want a healthy relationship.

These triggers go back thousands of years. They are the instincts we have as humans.

We cannot help who we are attracted to. The reason for this are these triggers.

If you understand these attraction triggers, you can keep your man or woman interested in you for as long as you live.

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When Your Partner Says We’re On Different Wavelengths

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Let’s do a bit of “Q&A” action today to start this post off.

QUESTION: Hey Rick, I’m really digging the new relationship report you sent out. But just a quick question. Let’s say she’s not getting up and running out of the movie theater. She’s at the point of saying “We’re just on two completely different wavelengths.”

What do you do with a statement like that, or at least turn it in your favor?

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5 Reasons Why BPD or Bipolar Relationships Fail

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If you want to know why BPD or Bipolar relationships fail, then you’ll want to read this article.

Key Takeaways

1) Incorrect mindsets from the non is why BPD or Bipolar relationships fail.
2) Society has rapidly changed in the past 5 years. You could make the argument for virtually anyone to have bipolar or BPD symptoms.
3) Learning what NOT to do is just as important as learning “tips” and “techniques.”
4) Drop the “Savior Mentality.” You’re not the Hero. The “good guy” finishes last for a reason.
5) Strong emotional control is key to BPD and Bipolar relationships.

First of all, I understand that BPD is a cluster B disorder. Furthermore, I am aware that Bipolar is a serious issue.

However, changing your mindsets to the ones that I teach will lead you to better relationships. This is my philosophy after all.

Am I saying that your BPD or Bipolar relationship will pull a 180 and be healthy forever? Of course not. Anyone saying otherwise is lying to you.

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How to Overcome Fear of Failure in Relationships

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First of all, please don’t do the cucumber trick with your cats, lol. Apparently it’s a real instinct-based fear that might keep them from eating for a while :P

In this whopper of an article, you’re going to learn how to overcome your fear of failure when it comes to relationships and dating.

While fear is healthy for the most part, it can also cripple us to the point where it becomes destructive.

And that’s what I want to help you prevent.

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Dating a Man with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder)

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So you’ve managed to find yourself in the grasps of a man with BPD, eh? I feel for you. Borderline Personality Disorder is no joking matter.

Too many articles (like this one) exist on the internet that demonize BPD. They’ll convince you that any sort of relationship with a BPD-type of man is a waste of your time.

But, I tend to disagree with the majority of advice you find on the internet. It’s no surprise at all that most BPD relationships fail.

At the end of the day, relationships are meant to improve your life and help you grow as a person.

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Why “Nice” Guys Finish Last And Can’t Fall In Love

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Do you feel like you’re a “nice guy” (or girl) and yet you just can’t get a girlfriend? Or any intimacy to begin with?

Deep down, you know that you’re this good guy who only wants to make a woman happy. But no matter what you do, the women don’t seem to notice this.

What’s the deal? Why is it that “nice guys” (and some women) tend to never get the love they desperately want in return?

If you read my last blog post about why being “nice” and “good” can create problems, then you are ready to dive into more specific reasons of WHY “nice” people tend to finish last.

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Why Is My Girlfriend Pushing Me Away?

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If your girlfriend is pushing you away and giving you the cold shoulder, then I’m glad you’re here because I’m going to get your mind headed in the right direction.

There’s nothing more annoying and painful (and immature) than to have your girlfriend give you that ghosting treatment.

In fact, I’d rather slam my pinky toe on the corner of a metal table than have my girlfriend give me the dreaded cold shoulder. That’s how much it annoys me.

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How Can A BPD Woman Fix Her Relationship?

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While it might seem that I’m just here to help “normal/non-bpd” people succeed in BPD relationships, the reality is that both men and women with BPD enjoy my articles daily.

I’m not here to toot my horn or anything like that. I simply enjoy writing about my experiences dating someone with BPD.

In fact, I’ve helped many people with BPD turn their lives around. It’s possible as long as you believe that it is. And that starts with you.

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Recovering Your Life After a BPD Relationship

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Recovering your life after a BPD relationship can be an extremely difficult time. But I don’t want to focus on the negative here. After all, I like to be jolly and keep things upbeat. Upbeat, I tell ya! So let me bring some positive vibes in this time of healing for you.

I’ve been writing about BPD for several years now. I’ve dated multiple women with BPD and have experienced basically everything that comes with these emotional relationships. And while I did go through a lot of pain, I am more strong and independent than ever before.

And that’s a good thing. A lot of people who get into BPD relationships tend to lack the emotional control needed in relationships. That’s how I was. I let myself get carried away and fall victim to these women who used me, hurt me, cheated on me and so on.

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Why Won’t My Ex Call Me Back?

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I remember those days where I’d be sitting around wondering why my ex girlfriend would text me out of the blue, usually right after I moved on from her!

It made no sense. Just out of the blue I hear a *ding* and sure enough, there she is asking me a random question or simply asking me how I’m doing.

What’s funny is that my ex girlfriends would never text or call me back when I was putting in the effort and reaching out to her. WTF?

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How To Get An Ex Back (Even If She Has A Boyfriend)

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Trying to get an ex back that has a new boyfriend? Is she ignoring you? Ghosted you? Then you’ll want to read this article.

This is a topic that hits right to the heart: trying to get that ex girlfriend back who seems to have a new boyfriend in a matter of weeks.

Or days in some cases.

Actually, I’ve seen women get a new boyfriend before she even broke up with her current one. That’s the real stinger. And, happens quite often actually.

I’ve been the victim of this. Several times in fact. It’s definitely one of the most painful experiences that can mess you up real good if don’t have your emotions under control.

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Dating and Relationships Are About Commitment; NOT Interest

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Got my coffee in hand and I’m excited to be writing this post for you today. I’ve been getting some questions about interest lately and I want to share my opinion on the subject.

Today’s post is going to focus on COMMITMENT and why it’s the most important factor when it comes to dating and relationships. A lot of people focus on interest levels which in my opinion is a mistake.

I’m sure you see or know certain people in your life that just seem to ‘get it’. They have healthy relationships, they never have a problem dating good people, they have the dating life you wish you could have.

Why?

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