Taking the "Crazy" Out of Your Relationships
Out of all the problems I help people with in their relationships, being less needy and clingy in relationships takes the top spot.
Neediness is, by far, the biggest turnoff. If you want your partner to push you away and lose feelings for you, be as needy as possible. It will get the job done.
The problem is that most people aren’t aware of their needy behavior. You don’t realize how clingy you have been. As a result, you wake up one day ghosted without a clue.
I came across an article the other day about how if a man truly loves a woman, he won’t stop pursuing her.
If you’ve read any of my writings before, you’ll know how silly of a statement that is to make. Luckily, this article is on a blog for women so it’s not really designed for men to read.
Those types of websites try to give women good feelings. The author is probably a bitter women who is trying to cope with the pain of being dumped by her ex boyfriend.
The internet is full of people giving their opinions about how to fix a broken relationship and rebuild it to what it once was.
But isn’t that exactly what I’m doing here? Of course! The internet is an amazing place where we can all share our opinions about relationships.
Even better, if you don’t agree with someone, you simply hit the back button and find somebody else. This is especially true with relationships because we all have our own unique situations.
Perhaps you’re dating a narcissist. Or maybe you’re simply looking for happiness. Either way, the power is in YOUR hands to research what you want.
If you’re wondering how to get a narcissist to love you, you’re not alone. In fact, narcissism search trends have skyrocketed in recent years according to Google.
In the 8 years of running this website, I’ve never written an in-depth guide about narcissism and relationships. So, I’m excited to write about this. It’s been a long-time coming because many people who are codependent end up in relationships with narcissists.
Because the narcissist tends to lack empathy and emotional maturity, it’s difficult for them to have healthy relationships and experience unconditional, true love.
With that said, it isn’t impossible. These people aren’t sociopaths or psychopaths. They aren’t completely devoid of emotions. They may be self-absorbed most of the time, but that doesn’t mean they can’t improve and become better.
I love talking about bad relationship habits. When your partner pushes you away, I can guarantee that it’s due to some sort of bad habit you’re (most likely) clueless about.
Make no mistake: getting yourself into a healthy, successful relationship is the result of having good habits.
So much of everything you’ll read about when it comes to improving your life is about how to develop these good habits that other people use successfully in their lives.
Depending on your upbringing, you may have several life-crippling bad habits. These can be small things as well as big things.
And, when you get into a relationship, these habits will have a negative effect on the relationship. They will (quickly in most cases) lower your level of attractiveness in the eyes of your lover.
I have a soft spot in my heart for borderlines because my first relationship was with a girl who has BPD. In fact, I’ve dated several borderline women over the years.
These relationships can be extremely difficult when you don’t have the knowledge and the skills needed to be with these people.
And, depending on the level of her personality disorder, it could very well be impossible to have a healthy relationship with her.
But, that shouldn’t prevent you from at least trying to make it work. Which is why I’m here with this website and why I’m passionate about helping men and women succeed in borderline relationships.
First things first: I’m not a doctor. This article is simply my personal advice if you’re trying to help someone with BPD seek treatment and improve themselves.
Good on ya! That takes balls. But, you must do things the right way. Understand the BPD relationship stages before you embark on a journey of becoming this ‘hero’ that you want to be.
The one key thing I want you to keep in mind is that it’s not your responsibility to help or fix your partner.
However, if your partner wants help and support, there are things you can do to guide him or her in the right direction.