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Why Are BPD Relationships So Hard To Move On From?

In comes a story from a guy who is finding it very hard to move on after his BPD relationship ended.

This is actually a pretty common story I get from people who stumble onto my blog. There’s something about the way I write and what I believe that causes them to send me 2,000+ word stories.

I don’t mind it. They make for good lessons because you can read my comments about the BPD relationship and my advice for the guy or girl writing in.

It’s a great way to learn my philosophy and mentality when it comes to making BPD relationships less toxic and healthy in some cases.

Anyway, you’ll notice a common theme in this story: the guy believes he is at zero fault here and that his ex is 100% responsible for the failure of the relationship.

It’s complete horeshit of course, but you’ll have to read my comments in bold to learn why. Enjoy!

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5 Ways To Fix and Rebuild A Broken Relationship

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If you’re interested in fixing and rebuilding your broken relationship, then you’ll want to read this article.

The internet is full of people giving their opinions about how to fix a broken relationship and rebuild it to what it once was.

But isn’t that exactly what I’m doing here? Of course! The internet is an amazing place where we can all share our opinions about relationships.

Even better, if you don’t agree with someone, you simply hit the back button and find somebody else. This is especially true with relationships because we all have our own unique situations.

Perhaps you’re dating a narcissist. Or maybe you’re simply looking for happiness. Either way, the power is in YOUR hands to research what you want.

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Moving In and Living With A BPD Partner

by Rick 3 Comments

Got a question recently from a guy who is moving in with his BPD girlfriend. He wants to know what to expect when you’re living with someone who has BPD.

If you’ve been reading my articles for some time now, you’ll know that I believe BPD is very situational and that you should focus on the behaviors that you encounter.

In other words, every case of BPD seems to be pretty damn unique. Sure there are similarities (such as raging, pushing you away, drama) but these things are common in all types of relationships.

They are also very behavioral because while some person might be extremely hot and cold, other’s not so much. I’ve dated girls that raged every single time they drank and other girls that actually got happier when they drank.

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Do You Need To Compromise In Relationships?

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Got a question from a reader that I felt is really important to talk about.

He wanted to know what the difference is between Codependency and compromising to better the relationship.

Very simple, but great question.

If you’re new to this topic of codependency, I can see why compromising in a relationship may be a confusing topic.

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My Girlfriend Still Talks To Her Ex Boyfriend!

by Rick 13 Comments

Got a good story from a member today about his girlfriend who continues to talk to her ex boyfriend. I’m glad he reached out to me because this is a common situation.

He wants to know why she’s so “difficult” and hard to understand.

Is it because of her upbringing? Because of her sexual past?

Or is she a raging Borderline that can’t be tamed? Read on and you’ll learn why this man is struggling to date this woman.

(my comments are in bold).

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Do you ever feel like you’re the crazy one?

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Let me guess: you’re dating a girl (or guy) who you know is bat shit crazy, and yet at times you start questioning your own insanity.

You start wondering if you’re just as crazy as your partner (or maybe even crazier).

Let me just say that you are not alone in these thoughts, my friend. In fact, anyone who’s been in an emotionally-driven relationship has felt this way before.

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Can Two Codependents Have a Successful Relationship?

by Rick 34 Comments

One of the reasons why I spend a lot of time talking about codependent relationships is because I used to be a hardcore codependent.

Yep! Good ol’ Rick here was a needy, supplicating, weak man. I put women I wanted on the pedestal constantly and was afraid of rocking the boat. Not good!

As a result, all of my relationships eventually became toxic and abusive because I couldn’t be the man and lead the relationship as a man should.

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If you’re interested in fixing and rebuilding your broken relationship, then you’ll want to read this article.

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