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Why Are BPD Relationships So Hard To Move On From?

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In comes a story from a guy who is finding it very hard to move on after his BPD relationship ended.

This is actually a pretty common story I get from people who stumble onto my blog. There’s something about the way I write and what I believe that causes them to send me 2,000+ word stories.

I don’t mind it. They make for good lessons because you can read my comments about the BPD relationship and my advice for the guy or girl writing in.

It’s a great way to learn my philosophy and mentality when it comes to making BPD relationships less toxic and healthy in some cases.

Anyway, you’ll notice a common theme in this story: the guy believes he is at zero fault here and that his ex is 100% responsible for the failure of the relationship.

It’s complete horeshit of course, but you’ll have to read my comments in bold to learn why. Enjoy!

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5 Ways To Fix and Rebuild A Broken Relationship

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If you’re interested in fixing and rebuilding your broken relationship, then you’ll want to read this article.

The internet is full of people giving their opinions about how to fix a broken relationship and rebuild it to what it once was.

But isn’t that exactly what I’m doing here? Of course! The internet is an amazing place where we can all share our opinions about relationships.

Even better, if you don’t agree with someone, you simply hit the back button and find somebody else. This is especially true with relationships because we all have our own unique situations.

Perhaps you’re dating a narcissist. Or maybe you’re simply looking for happiness. Either way, the power is in YOUR hands to research what you want.

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Moving In and Living With A BPD Partner

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Got a question recently from a guy who is moving in with his BPD girlfriend. He wants to know what to expect when you’re living with someone who has BPD.

If you’ve been reading my articles for some time now, you’ll know that I believe BPD is very situational and that you should focus on the behaviors that you encounter.

In other words, every case of BPD seems to be pretty damn unique. Sure there are similarities (such as raging, pushing you away, drama) but these things are common in all types of relationships.

They are also very behavioral because while some person might be extremely hot and cold, other’s not so much. I’ve dated girls that raged every single time they drank and other girls that actually got happier when they drank.

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My Girlfriend Still Talks To Her Ex Boyfriend!

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Got a good story from a member today about his girlfriend who continues to talk to her ex boyfriend. I’m glad he reached out to me because this is a common situation.

He wants to know why she’s so “difficult” and hard to understand.

Is it because of her upbringing? Because of her sexual past?

Or is she a raging Borderline that can’t be tamed? Read on and you’ll learn why this man is struggling to date this woman.

(my comments are in bold).

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Do you ever feel like you’re the crazy one?

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Let me guess: you’re dating a girl (or guy) who you know is bat shit crazy, and yet at times you start questioning your own insanity.

You start wondering if you’re just as crazy as your partner (or maybe even crazier).

Let me just say that you are not alone in these thoughts, my friend. In fact, anyone who’s been in an emotionally-driven relationship has felt this way before.

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Can Two Codependents Have a Successful Relationship?

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One of the reasons why I spend a lot of time talking about codependent relationships is because I used to be a hardcore codependent.

Yep! Good ol’ Rick here was a needy, supplicating, weak man. I put women I wanted on the pedestal constantly and was afraid of rocking the boat. Not good!

As a result, all of my relationships eventually became toxic and abusive because I couldn’t be the man and lead the relationship as a man should.

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7 Tips for a Codependent Woman to Heal & Recover

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Happy 4th everyone! I personally love this holiday as having the freedom to actually run a blog like this is amazing.

So with that said, I’ve got some killer tips for all the codependent, passive women out there that are trying to heal and recover.

Just as a quick plug, I’m in the process of creating a course that’s all about recovering from Codependency. It’s similar format to my BPD course is that it will have an ebook and several hours of audio training.

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Surviving a Breakup With Your BPD Girlfriend / Boyfriend

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I really don’t like using the word ‘survive’ as it sounds like we’re just trying to keep our heads above water.

I really want you to do more than just survive – I want you to thrive in BPD relationships because I’ve been doing it for years, and teaching men and women what I know.

Leaving a BPD relationship worse off than before you entered is always a clear sign that you stuck around far too long and lost a lot of self-respect and pride. Not good.

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How To Improve Your BPD Relationship

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The next article in the BPD series is about how you can improve your BPD relationship, no matter how toxic it may have become.

I’ve been personal coaching both people with BPD and non’s for years now. At the end of the day, improving your relationship always starts with you. You cannot expect your partner to just change.

However, as you change yourself and improve your self-esteem, your partner might be influenced to change as well. But this isn’t something you should focus on because it’s out of your control.

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Marriage and the Long-Term Borderline Relationship

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Being in a long-term relationship and married to someone with a cluster B disorder such as BPD (borderline personality disorder) can be an immense undertaking, especially if you lack relationship experience.

Relationships in general are a difficult undertaking in this day and age. Add BPD-related issues to the mix and it’s like throwing more gasoline on an out of control blaze.

The good news is that being married to a BPD doesn’t have to be as difficult and confusing as you may currently believe.
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Why Is Codependency A Serious Problem For Relationships?

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The more time that you spend learning about BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) and other behavioral relationships, the more you will realize that most people in these relationships suffer from some sort of Codependency issues.

People with BPD are usually very codependent individuals. They seek the same love and affection that codependents seek. But, BPD has other issues that can be much more chaotic than anything you’ll find in a codependent person.

Over the years, I have gotten much better at figuring out the causes of codependency and more importantly, how to smash these problems so you can live a happier, healthier life.

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Does My Ex Girlfriend Have BPD?

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A common question I receive from readers and clients alike is if their most recent girlfriend has BPD. And because I believe that most women in general have Borderline-like traits, the easy answer is YES, lol.

But simply saying YES goes against everything I teach because I do *not* like to generalize and label people. Doing so is lazy and takes the responsibility off of your shoulders. So don’t do it!

Women who have BPD are still unique in their own ways. You need to start focusing on the *behaviors* instead of the actual BPD label. You’ll see how I do this below with my comments.

My comments are added in italics and blue as I go through the email.

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