Taking the "Crazy" Out of Your Relationships
One second… lemme take a selfie… *click*
Now I BETTER get 150 likes or I’m going to cry myself to sleep!
Sound familiar?
Anyone who’s dated a social media obsessed guy or girl over the years can relate to how big of a factor Instagram and Snapchat and Twitter are to the relationship.
What makes this an interesting phenomenom is that this wasn’t the case just 5 years ago.
It’s only been the last several years that social media has had such a major impact on the dating game.
One of the more common forms of “treatment” for BPD is in the popular DBT therapy (developed by a liberal feminist in Seattle, of course).
Why do I get political about it right from the beginning?
I don’t know. I like to be political, but I also understand that it’s not really a good idea to be getting political when the reader such as yourself is seeking help.
However, I find it important to understand this fact with the approach of DBT therapy, especially when it comes to relationships with a Borderline.
I’m here in my “office” recalling my past when I dated some serious Borderline’s who really took a number on me.
If you’ve been reading my stuff here for awhile now, then you know I’m not some “guru” or some self-proclaimed relationship “expert.”
I’m simply a guy who has a lot of experiences with dating girls with BPD. I originally created this blog in 2010 to write about my experiences and vent, lol.
I got a great email from a reader who has been obsessing with his ex girlfriend.
He has worked hard to get over her, and finally came to the conclusion that he is suffering from Emotional Addiction.
In other words, he’s addiction to the highs & lows of his ex girlfriend. She has absolute power over him and dictates his feelings 24/7.
Here’s a somewhat common relationship situation involving your ex:
Take a minute to imagine that you’re currently broken up (if you are currently broken up, then there’s no reason to imagine).
At 2 in the morning, your ex calls you up and says that he or she misses you and wants to hear your voice.
This is certainly fine and dandy for ya, right? It’s what you’ve been waiting for all this time.
To make things even better, your ex says that she is willing to meet up at your house.
Wowzers!
Here we go again. The common BPD myth.
This belief that Borderline’s are incapable of love and that the best solution is to run far away.
You hear this all the time. And, quite frankly, it’s getting really old at this point.
But I’m always up for the challenge (and I’ve never been bothered by people telling me this in hate mail).
Let’s do a bit of “Q&A” action today to start this post off.
QUESTION: Hey Rick, I’m really digging the new relationship report you sent out. But just a quick question. Let’s say she’s not getting up and running out of the movie theater. She’s at the point of saying “We’re just on two completely different wavelengths.”
What do you do with a statement like that, or at least turn it in your favor?