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Why Are BPD Relationships So Hard To Move On From?

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In comes a story from a guy who is finding it very hard to move on after his BPD relationship ended.

This is actually a pretty common story I get from people who stumble onto my blog. There’s something about the way I write and what I believe that causes them to send me 2,000+ word stories.

I don’t mind it. They make for good lessons because you can read my comments about the BPD relationship and my advice for the guy or girl writing in.

It’s a great way to learn my philosophy and mentality when it comes to making BPD relationships less toxic and healthy in some cases.

Anyway, you’ll notice a common theme in this story: the guy believes he is at zero fault here and that his ex is 100% responsible for the failure of the relationship.

It’s complete horeshit of course, but you’ll have to read my comments in bold to learn why. Enjoy!

Ex BPD Broke Up Out Of The Blue. Help!

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While I enjoy writing original content about BPD relationships and how to find success in them, there’s more than enough of these on my site.

This is why I am now using stories that people send me to help you, the reader, better understand BPD relationships.

Having a BPD ex is normal and expected in this day and age. If you’re dating in this current society, it’s highly likely that you’re going to date someone with BPD.

So, these stories that people send me about their experiences are great to learn from.

Can Someone With BPD Have a Healthy, Romantic Relationship?

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Here’s a (long) story that a reader wrote in to me about his experience with a BPD relationship.

As with most people who find my website, they are looking for a way to have a romantic, fulfilling relationship with someone who suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder.

If you have read my other articles, you know that I clearly dating someone with BPD is possible. In fact, it can be quite fun as long as you have the correct attitude and belief system that I teach.

Of course that is easier said than done. So, I want you to check out this story that was sent to me and see if you can find all the mistakes that this man made in his relationship.

Borderline Ex Stopped Communicating. What Should You Do?

by Rick 65 Comments

As someone who has dated someone with BPD, and have several friends with BPD, I want to share some advice about what to do when your borderline ex stops communicating and cuts you off.

It’s a common question I receive from both men and women who are in relationships with people who have BPD.

Now, you don’t need to some communication or relationship “expert” to make these relationships succeed.

In fact, I would say it’s much better to be experienced than to be “smart”. This is true in the real world and it holds true for relationships as well.

7 Ways to Strengthen and Improve BPD Relationships

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I have a soft spot in my heart for borderlines because my first relationship was with a girl who has BPD. In fact, I’ve dated several borderline women over the years.

These relationships can be extremely difficult when you don’t have the knowledge and the skills needed to be with these people.

And, depending on the level of her personality disorder, it could very well be impossible to have a healthy relationship with her.

But, that shouldn’t prevent you from at least trying to make it work. Which is why I’m here with this website and why I’m passionate about helping men and women succeed in borderline relationships.

Moving In and Living With A BPD Partner

by Rick 3 Comments

Got a question recently from a guy who is moving in with his BPD girlfriend. He wants to know what to expect when you’re living with someone who has BPD.

If you’ve been reading my articles for some time now, you’ll know that I believe BPD is very situational and that you should focus on the behaviors that you encounter.

In other words, every case of BPD seems to be pretty damn unique. Sure there are similarities (such as raging, pushing you away, drama) but these things are common in all types of relationships.

They are also very behavioral because while some person might be extremely hot and cold, other’s not so much. I’ve dated girls that raged every single time they drank and other girls that actually got happier when they drank.

How To Help Someone With BPD Seek Treatment

by Rick 5 Comments

First things first: I’m not a doctor. This article is simply my personal advice if you’re trying to help someone with BPD seek treatment and improve themselves.

Good on ya! That takes balls. But, you must do things the right way. Understand the BPD relationship stages before you embark on a journey of becoming this ‘hero’ that you want to be.

The one key thing I want you to keep in mind is that it’s not your responsibility to help or fix your partner.

However, if your partner wants help and support, there are things you can do to guide him or her in the right direction.

Dating A Girl With BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder)

by Rick 234 Comments

So you’re dating a girl with BPD eh? I know every article on the internet tells you to run from borderline women, but I do things differently around these parts.

My relationship history is full of attractive BPD women. A decade of drama and chaos to put it lightly…

But, I made it out alive and have managed to remain amazing friends with many women who (most likely) have BPD. Some still refuse to admit they have aren’t perfect ;)

Anyway, BPD is a Cluster B personality disorder that is rather common these days from my experience.

According to a quick Google search, Borderline Personality Disorder is “characterized by dramatic, overly emotional or unpredictable thinking or behavior.”

I have dated dozens and dozens of women over the years. I can confidently say that you’ll find these characteristics in most women, lol.

A powerful set of relationships mindsets are the answer for dating women with BPD.

Is It Possible To Date A BPD Woman? Client Shares His Story

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The internet is flooded with stories about the impossibility of having relationships with BPD women.

However, time and time again my clients prove otherwise.

Having a healthy, intimate, drama-free relationship with a borderline isn’t an impossibility. Anyone telling you otherwise is bitter and angry (rightfully so most of the time).

I write differently than most people because I’ve been through several chaotic relationships in my life. But, I learned a lot from them and have managed to make relationships work with borderline women.

Stages of a BPD Relationship and How They Evolve

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Trying to figure out the different stages of a BPD relationship? Wondering how a BPD relationship evolves over time? Confused in general and wondering what to do?

Well, that’s why I’m here. This article, as well as dozens of others I’ve written, will help you answer these questions. So bookmark my site if you haven’t done so yet.

I regularly write about BPD and codependent relationships because I love helping people reach the success and happiness they strongly desire.

It’s my mission to help men and women all over the globe have better relationships. Understanding the stages of a BPD relationship will help you reach your goal.

Should I Break NC (No Contact) With BPD Ex?

by Rick 4 Comments

One of the hardest things for any man or woman in a BPD relationship is the “No Contact Rule” or NC for short.

The topic of No Contact is one of the most popular on the internet for a reason.

Why is this?

Well, the simple reason for this is because it does tend to work.

But does it work in the way that you want it to?

What Your Borderline Lover Wants In A Relationship

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One of the most frequent questions I get from readers around these parts is this:

“What the hell does my borderline lover want in my relationship? What can I do differently so that the relationship improves?”

Well, you stumbled onto the right article in the vast world of internets.

You’re going to learn exactly what your lover wants thanks to this amazing testimonial I received the other day.

Check it out:

An Interview With A Borderline: Woman Edition

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What follows is a quick interview I had with a borderline woman.

There is an incredible amount of gold to be gained from this interview. Many of the things I’ve been teaching for years are confirmed by her. You’ll see how her boyfriend naturally behaves in the manner that I coach.

I won’t say much more about this because I want you to read it and pick up on these things for yourself.

Enjoy!

Is Social Media Destroying Your Relationship?

by Rick 6 Comments

One second… lemme take a selfie… *click*

Now I BETTER get 150 likes or I’m going to cry myself to sleep!

Sound familiar?

Anyone who’s dated a social media obsessed guy or girl over the years can relate to how big of a factor Instagram and Snapchat and Twitter are to the relationship.

What makes this an interesting phenomenom is that this wasn’t the case just 5 years ago.

It’s only been the last several years that social media has had such a major impact on the dating game.

DBT Therapy Will Make You Bitter & Resentful

by Rick 2 Comments

One of the more common forms of “treatment” for BPD is in the popular DBT therapy (developed by a liberal feminist in Seattle, of course).

Why do I get political about it right from the beginning?

I don’t know. I like to be political, but I also understand that it’s not really a good idea to be getting political when the reader such as yourself is seeking help.

However, I find it important to understand this fact with the approach of DBT therapy, especially when it comes to relationships with a Borderline.

How A Borderline Saved My Life

by Rick 7 Comments

I’m here in my “office” recalling my past when I dated some serious Borderline’s who really took a number on me.

If you’ve been reading my stuff here for awhile now, then you know I’m not some “guru” or some self-proclaimed relationship “expert.”

I’m simply a guy who has a lot of experiences with dating girls with BPD. I originally created this blog in 2010 to write about my experiences and vent, lol.

How To Stop Obsessing Over Your Ex Girlfriend

by Rick 2 Comments

I got a great email from a reader who has been obsessing with his ex girlfriend.

He has worked hard to get over her, and finally came to the conclusion that he is suffering from Emotional Addiction.

In other words, he’s addiction to the highs & lows of his ex girlfriend. She has absolute power over him and dictates his feelings 24/7.

When Your Ex Comes Back. Then Leaves Again.

by Rick 4 Comments

Here’s a somewhat common relationship situation involving your ex:

Take a minute to imagine that you’re currently broken up (if you are currently broken up, then there’s no reason to imagine).

At 2 in the morning, your ex calls you up and says that he or she misses you and wants to hear your voice.

This is certainly fine and dandy for ya, right? It’s what you’ve been waiting for all this time.

To make things even better, your ex says that she is willing to meet up at your house.

Wowzers!

Can Borderlines/BPD Fall In Love In Relationships?

by Rick 12 Comments

Here we go again. The common BPD myth.

This belief that Borderline’s are incapable of love and that the best solution is to run far away.

You hear this all the time. And, quite frankly, it’s getting really old at this point.

But I’m always up for the challenge (and I’ve never been bothered by people telling me this in hate mail).

When Your Partner Says We’re On Different Wavelengths

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Let’s do a bit of “Q&A” action today to start this post off.

QUESTION: Hey Rick, I’m really digging the new relationship report you sent out. But just a quick question. Let’s say she’s not getting up and running out of the movie theater. She’s at the point of saying “We’re just on two completely different wavelengths.”

What do you do with a statement like that, or at least turn it in your favor?