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Why Are BPD Relationships So Hard To Move On From?

In comes a story from a guy who is finding it very hard to move on after his BPD relationship ended.

This is actually a pretty common story I get from people who stumble onto my blog. There’s something about the way I write and what I believe that causes them to send me 2,000+ word stories.

I don’t mind it. They make for good lessons because you can read my comments about the BPD relationship and my advice for the guy or girl writing in.

It’s a great way to learn my philosophy and mentality when it comes to making BPD relationships less toxic and healthy in some cases.

Anyway, you’ll notice a common theme in this story: the guy believes he is at zero fault here and that his ex is 100% responsible for the failure of the relationship.

It’s complete horeshit of course, but you’ll have to read my comments in bold to learn why. Enjoy!

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Ex BPD Broke Up Out Of The Blue. Help!

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While I enjoy writing original content about BPD relationships and how to find success in them, there’s more than enough of these on my site.

This is why I am now using stories that people send me to help you, the reader, better understand BPD relationships.

Having a BPD ex is normal and expected in this day and age. If you’re dating in this current society, it’s highly likely that you’re going to date someone with BPD.

So, these stories that people send me about their experiences are great to learn from.

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Can Someone With BPD Have a Healthy, Romantic Relationship?

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Here’s a (long) story that a reader wrote in to me about his experience with a BPD relationship.

As with most people who find my website, they are looking for a way to have a romantic, fulfilling relationship with someone who suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder.

If you have read my other articles, you know that I clearly dating someone with BPD is possible. In fact, it can be quite fun as long as you have the correct attitude and belief system that I teach.

Of course that is easier said than done. So, I want you to check out this story that was sent to me and see if you can find all the mistakes that this man made in his relationship.

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Borderline Ex Stopped Communicating. What Should You Do?

by Rick 68 Comments

As someone who has dated someone with BPD, and have several friends with BPD, I want to share some advice about what to do when your borderline ex stops communicating and cuts you off.

It’s a common question I receive from both men and women who are in relationships with people who have BPD.

Now, you don’t need to some communication or relationship “expert” to make these relationships succeed.

In fact, I would say it’s much better to be experienced than to be “smart”. This is true in the real world and it holds true for relationships as well.

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7 Ways to Strengthen and Improve BPD Relationships

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I have a soft spot in my heart for borderlines because my first relationship was with a girl who has BPD. In fact, I’ve dated several borderline women over the years.

These relationships can be extremely difficult when you don’t have the knowledge and the skills needed to be with these people.

And, depending on the level of her personality disorder, it could very well be impossible to have a healthy relationship with her.

But, that shouldn’t prevent you from at least trying to make it work. Which is why I’m here with this website and why I’m passionate about helping men and women succeed in borderline relationships.

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Moving In and Living With A BPD Partner

by Rick 3 Comments

Got a question recently from a guy who is moving in with his BPD girlfriend. He wants to know what to expect when you’re living with someone who has BPD.

If you’ve been reading my articles for some time now, you’ll know that I believe BPD is very situational and that you should focus on the behaviors that you encounter.

In other words, every case of BPD seems to be pretty damn unique. Sure there are similarities (such as raging, pushing you away, drama) but these things are common in all types of relationships.

They are also very behavioral because while some person might be extremely hot and cold, other’s not so much. I’ve dated girls that raged every single time they drank and other girls that actually got happier when they drank.

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How To Help Someone With BPD Seek Treatment

by Rick 5 Comments

First things first: I’m not a doctor. This article is simply my personal advice if you’re trying to help someone with BPD seek treatment and improve themselves.

Good on ya! That takes balls. But, you must do things the right way. Understand the BPD relationship stages before you embark on a journey of becoming this ‘hero’ that you want to be.

The one key thing I want you to keep in mind is that it’s not your responsibility to help or fix your partner.

However, if your partner wants help and support, there are things you can do to guide him or her in the right direction.

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