Taking the "Crazy" Out of Your Relationships
Out of all the problems I help people with in their relationships, being less needy and clingy in relationships takes the top spot.
Neediness is, by far, the biggest turnoff. If you want your partner to push you away and lose feelings for you, be as needy as possible. It will get the job done.
The problem is that most people aren’t aware of their needy behavior. You don’t realize how clingy you have been. As a result, you wake up one day ghosted without a clue.
I love talking about bad relationship habits. When your partner pushes you away, I can guarantee that it’s due to some sort of bad habit you’re (most likely) clueless about.
Make no mistake: getting yourself into a healthy, successful relationship is the result of having good habits.
So much of everything you’ll read about when it comes to improving your life is about how to develop these good habits that other people use successfully in their lives.
Depending on your upbringing, you may have several life-crippling bad habits. These can be small things as well as big things.
And, when you get into a relationship, these habits will have a negative effect on the relationship. They will (quickly in most cases) lower your level of attractiveness in the eyes of your lover.
Many women who are dating sociopaths stumble on my blog. They often wonder why their boyfriend won’t love her the way she loves him.
You might mistakenly assume that your boyfriend has BPD or some other disorder.
But, chances are your boyfriend has a number of issues going on with his mental health. And, since I’m NOT a mental health professional, I’m simply going to write about what I believe are the warning signs of a sociopathic man.
Take what you learn from this and simply apply it to your situation. If everything I write sounds exactly like your boyfriend, then you need to consider the reality that it may be time to leave, and he needs help from a professional.
I gotta say… being emotionally exhausted and drained is one of the most common traits you see in people these days.
Simply step outside and walk around. Most people you walk by will have a look of dread on their faces. It’s a look that screams “I’m tired, I’m frustrated with my life, leave me alone.”
This doesn’t apply to everyone of course, but definitely the mass majority of people in current society.
Let me guess: you’re dating a girl (or guy) who you know is bat shit crazy, and yet at times you start questioning your own insanity.
You start wondering if you’re just as crazy as your partner (or maybe even crazier).
Let me just say that you are not alone in these thoughts, my friend. In fact, anyone who’s been in an emotionally-driven relationship has felt this way before.
Pull up a chair fellas – it’s time to dive into the world of women and sex.
Particularly if they enjoy it as much as us men.
This is going to be fun.
And no – you don’t have to be a Chad Thunderccck to make women happy in bed.
So if this is something that you believe in, then I’ll help you smash that belief to pieces.
Facebook and I have always had an interesting relationship. I’ve never been a fan of being “Facebook official” and as a result, I’ve had women get upset with me over that.
It’s completely irrational and petty, but it simply is what it is.
Facebook is here to stay. And I’m pretty sure relationships will be here at least for a while, right?
Therefore, in this post I’m going to answer a long email I got from a reader asking advice about Facebook relationships.
If your girlfriend is pushing you away and giving you the cold shoulder, then I’m glad you’re here because I’m going to get your mind headed in the right direction.
There’s nothing more annoying and painful (and immature) than to have your girlfriend give you that ghosting treatment.
In fact, I’d rather slam my pinky toe on the corner of a metal table than have my girlfriend give me the dreaded cold shoulder. That’s how much it annoys me.
This next article in my BPD series is about how to help you support your partner that has BPD, or who you suspect is showing symptoms of BPD.
Something to keep in mind in these relationships is that until your partner is actually out of denial and accepting that they want to improve, it does you absolutely no good to tell them that they have BPD and should see a doctor.
This is why correct support is vital. You have to know how to support someone who is in denial. The more you try to force and control situations, the more problems and conflict you’ll actually create.
Either you want to date a crazy girl, or you’re already in a relationship with a wild, emotional girl that can be amazing at times.
Well, I don’t blame you. In fact, the truth is that the best women you can date are the women who are hard to get. They’re emotional, they’re wild, they appear to be crazy to most men.
And that’s great news for you because it you can learn how to date these crazy women, you’re going to have an amazing life full of love, passion and sexy times.
While I know my women readers will enjoy this article, I really want my male readers to take notes, lol.
I’m going to be offering you men some awesome information on what women deep down want in a man. With all the distractions out there, it’s important that we take some time to look at what really works.
If you’ve been following me and reading my blog for awhile, you should know that I’m a realist. I ignore all the common, saturated information out there and instead learn everything on my own through experience.
Today I had an itch to write about a popular topic: The Fear of Abandonment and my experiences with this in my past BPD relationships that failed.
And my first opinion is that it’s really one of the most confusing things about people to understand. Thinking logically, as most people do, it just doesn’t make sense that someone with these fears of abandonment would push you away when you’re doing everything you can to be a great boyfriend or girlfriend.
So what’s the deal? What’s going on beneath the surface that you’re not seeing or understanding? Obviously the words he or she says isn’t matching up with the actions. So what’s the fear of abandonment really all about?
I’ve written a brand new article about mastering and controlling your emotions that takes these lessons to the next level. I highly suggest you read both of these articles!
What’s the number one quality a man or woman like yourself can have? It’s the ability to control yourself under times of pressure and distress.
Why? Because most people are so awful at controlling their emotions that it becomes rare and highly desired to be around someone who can control their emotions.
Hello everyone and welcome to Reignite The Fire!
It is 2014 and it has been quite a few weeks since I have last posted an article. I’ve been both busy and lazy this past month but it’s time to end that and get back in the groove.
On the table for 2014:
The short and sweet answer: Looks definitely matter.
The long, drawn out answer is that while being naturally attractive is a plus, there’s much more to it when it comes to attracting quality partners and quality relationships.
See that girl to the right? Assuming she’s a quality girl, it’s going to take a lot more than just being blessed with good genes (and being in awesome shape).
I believe that the major battle that people have with themselves is believing that they aren’t good enough – or that they don’t give themselves enough credit.
Maybe you’re naturally codependent and don’t know what to do about it. This article will help.