Finding Success in BPD and Codependent Relationships
This article has been long in the making. It’s a question that’s probably often in your head.
Can people with BPD really have a healthy relationship? Is it actually possible, Rick? Or are these people doomed?
These are the deeper questions that lie beneath a lot of the surface level questions you may have.
This is a topic that hits right to the heart: trying to get that ex girlfriend back who seems to have a new boyfriend in a matter of weeks.
Or days in some cases.
Actually, I’ve seen women get a new boyfriend before she even broke up with her current one. That’s the real stinger. And, happens quite often actually.
I’ve been the victim of this. Several times in fact. It’s definitely one of the most painful experiences that can mess you up real good if don’t have your emotions under control.
Today I want to discuss the topic of why people cheat in relationships without singling out men or women.
According to this study on cheating, men still cheat more but women are starting to creep up there. Keep in mind, however, that this study is based on people that actually admit to the cheating.
If you want my opinion, I believe women cheat more than men these days because women are becoming the more powerful sex. They’re putting up with less and less bullshit today than before.
I’ve been getting more and more into my email “Mastermind” group. That’s what I’m calling it, anyway.
It’s where I’m able to unleash my fun and bizarre stories. Not so much ‘shock jock’ material, but a place to give you my advice from what I see and learn almost daily.
If you’re not on it yet, then go here and sign up.
Today’s article is going to dive into some more toxic behaviors that turn your partner off. A lot of what I teach isn’t so much about new techniques or strategies or anything like that…
Instead of giving you more and more stuff that will overwhelm your brain, I instead like to teach people what not to do because less mistakes = happy couple.
LOL I CAN’T
I thought it would be a good time to take a ‘break’ and write to you about why being single does not suck and how if you use your time wisely, it’s the best time for learning and growing as an individual.
I believe that one of the most common errors we make is when we’re alone and bored, tired of going to bed by ourselves. It’s at these most vulnerable times when our emotions get the best of us and we make, as I like to say, poor choices.
1) Humans are emotional beings. They are what drives us day by day.
2) A weak emotional state can be easily controlled by others.
3) Start to pave your own path in life.
4) Learn to love the most powerful word in the world: NO.
5) Interdependence is key. Dependence leads to suffering.
6) Cut out the toxic people in your life.
7) Forgive the past, drop grudges, and move on with your life.
8) End any attention-seeking behavior you may have.
Emotions suck. Emotions are amazing. Wait… wtf am I getting at?
Oh… emotions are up and down! Duh. And learning how to master and control your emotions is key to enjoying a successful, fulfilling life full of joy and relationships.
I feel like emotional control is one of life’s crucial skills that separates the weak from the strong.
It only makes sense that we keep learning about how to master our emotions.
The skill of gaining control of your emotions is not an easy one. As humans, our emotions do and should play a major role in our lives. For good or for bad is where the skill part becomes important.
The more time that you spend learning about BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) and other behavioral relationships, the more you will realize that most people in these relationships suffer from some sort of Codependency issues.
People with BPD are usually very codependent individuals. They seek the same love and affection that codependents seek. But, BPD has other issues that can be much more chaotic than anything you’ll find in a codependent person.
Over the years, I have gotten much better at figuring out the causes of codependency and more importantly, how to smash these problems so you can live a happier, healthier life.