Finding Success in BPD and Codependent Relationships
One of the most common questions I get is this:
Why is it that women (especially young women) choose to date these awful, deadbeat losers instead of successful, hard-working, stable guys?
It all comes down to the way women are with their emotions.
And, in this social media age we live in, the deadbeat loser can really spike a woman’s emotions to obscene levels.
Facebook and I have always had an interesting relationship. I’ve never been a fan of being “Facebook official” and as a result, I’ve had women get upset with me over that.
It’s completely irrational and petty, but it simply is what it is.
Facebook is here to stay. And I’m pretty sure relationships will be here at least for a while, right?
Therefore, in this post I’m going to answer a long email I got from a reader asking advice about Facebook relationships.
So this is a rather odd topic for me to cover… Most people will look at you and say “Bro! Why the HELL would you want your cheating garbage hobo ass bum of an ex back??”
But hey, I get it. I’ve been there. One of the first girls I dated cheated on me over and over again, and I kept taking her back. And I don’t really regret it thaaaat much (just a little bit).
So while everyone around you is saying how you should forget about that dirty filth-caked gym sock with his or her new play thing, let’s leave those people behind for a bit and have an actual discussion about it.
So you’ve managed to find yourself in the grasps of a man with BPD, eh? I feel for you. Borderline Personality Disorder is no joking matter.
Too many articles (like this one) exist on the internet that demonize BPD. They’ll convince you that any sort of relationship with a BPD-type of man is a waste of your time.
But, I tend to disagree with the majority of advice you find on the internet. It’s no surprise at all that most BPD relationships fail.
At the end of the day, relationships are meant to improve your life and help you grow as a person.
If you’re getting absolutely no value out of your BPD boyfriend, then there really is no point of you being in that relationship — this applies to all men, not just ones with mental health issues. [Read more…]
If your girlfriend is pushing you away and giving you the cold shoulder, then I’m glad you’re here because I’m going to get your mind headed in the right direction.
There’s nothing more annoying and painful (and immature) than to have your girlfriend give you that ghosting treatment.
In fact, I’d rather slam my pinky toe on the corner of a metal table than have my girlfriend give me the dreaded cold shoulder. That’s how much it annoys me.
Relationships aren’t meant to be easy.
You need strong mindsets, good values, patience and an open-mind (among many things).
Leaving some of these important factors out is the reason why most relationships fail.
Especially in this day and age.
Did you know that around 95% of all relationships are toxic and unhealthy?
It’s been a hectic past couple of weeks for me. With the launch of my new BPD Relationship Blueprint program, I’ve been dedicating a lot of time to answering emails and coaching.
Which brings us to this topic that I’m writing about today: Sex Addiction.
A lot of people put too much emphasis on sex. They make it too important in their lives. And it creates problems.