Finding Success in BPD and Codependent Relationships
So I was browsing Reddit (puke) a few weeks ago and came across this thread that I thought was really insightful.
It’s obvious if you’ve been reading my work for awhile, but still insightful and a good reminder of the truth nonetheless.
Here is what the person had to get off his chest:
While I enjoy writing original content about BPD relationships and how to find success in them, there’s more than enough of these on my site.
This is why I am now using stories that people send me to help you, the reader, better understand BPD relationships.
Having a BPD ex is normal and expected in this day and age. If you’re dating in this current society, it’s highly likely that you’re going to date someone with BPD.
So, these stories that people send me about their experiences are great to learn from.
The biggest problem I have with 99% of the “ex back” information on the internet is the lack of truth that they feed you.
Specifically, that if you follow some sort of technique or tactic, that your ex will come crawling back to you in love again.
Because it’s such a load of shit, I thought it would be a good idea to share with you how to actually get an ex back — no stupid tactics needed.
One of the more annoying experiences of dating a girl is when she decides to play hard to get.
Or, it at least feels that way.
She’s giving you less attention, she isn’t responding to calls or texts, she doesn’t seem to talk as much as she used to, she isn’t sleeping with you as much, etc.
Why does she behave this way? Does she no longer have feelings for you? Has she met another guy?
You know that you are a strong-willed man or woman. You’ve developed that rock-solid unshakability that doesn’t allow you to take crap from anyone.
You’ve experienced a lot over the years: toxic, dysfunctional relationships, friends you’ve had to cut off, family that doesn’t respect you, bosses that treat you like crap.
There have been a lot of mistakes along the way. We all make them. Even the strongest get knocked down from time to time.
After all, what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger.
One of the deeper questions I get from time to time is if it’s okay to cut a family member out of your life.
Here’s my answer:
If the situation warrants it, ABSOLUTELY.
But, coming to this conclusion isn’t as simple as cutting off a boyfriend because he’s just a shitty human-being.
Cutting off a sibling or a parent isn’t a decision that should be taken lightly. Only after careful consideration should you decide to take this step.
Are you living in a state of fear?
Don’t feel bad if you are. You’re not alone. In fact, most people are living in a constant state of fear.
This constant state of fear leads to a scarcity mentality, which is the opposite of an abundance mentality.
Developing an abundance mentality is only possible when you no longer live in fear. Unsurprisingly, most people never experience a life of abundance for this very reason.