Taking the "Crazy" Out of Your Relationships
One of the more annoying experiences of dating a girl is when she decides to play hard to get.
Or, it at least feels that way.
She’s giving you less attention, she isn’t responding to calls or texts, she doesn’t seem to talk as much as she used to, she isn’t sleeping with you as much, etc.
Why does she behave this way? Does she no longer have feelings for you? Has she met another guy?
You know that you are a strong-willed man or woman. You’ve developed that rock-solid unshakability that doesn’t allow you to take crap from anyone.
You’ve experienced a lot over the years: toxic, dysfunctional relationships, friends you’ve had to cut off, family that doesn’t respect you, bosses that treat you like crap.
There have been a lot of mistakes along the way. We all make them. Even the strongest get knocked down from time to time.
After all, what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger.
One of the deeper questions I get from time to time is if it’s okay to cut a family member out of your life.
Here’s my answer:
If the situation warrants it, ABSOLUTELY.
But, coming to this conclusion isn’t as simple as cutting off a boyfriend because he’s just a shitty human-being.
Cutting off a sibling or a parent isn’t a decision that should be taken lightly. Only after careful consideration should you decide to take this step.
Are you living in a state of fear?
Don’t feel bad if you are. You’re not alone. In fact, most people are living in a constant state of fear.
This constant state of fear leads to a scarcity mentality, which is the opposite of an abundance mentality.
Developing an abundance mentality is only possible when you no longer live in fear. Unsurprisingly, most people never experience a life of abundance for this very reason.
One of the most common questions I get is this:
Why is it that women (especially young women) choose to date these awful, deadbeat losers instead of successful, hard-working, stable guys?
It all comes down to the way women are with their emotions.
And, in this social media age we live in, the deadbeat loser can really spike a woman’s emotions to obscene levels.
Facebook and I have always had an interesting relationship. I’ve never been a fan of being “Facebook official” and as a result, I’ve had women get upset with me over that.
It’s completely irrational and petty, but it simply is what it is.
Facebook is here to stay. And I’m pretty sure relationships will be here at least for a while, right?
Therefore, in this post I’m going to answer a long email I got from a reader asking advice about Facebook relationships.
So this is a rather odd topic for me to cover… Most people will look at you and say “Bro! Why the HELL would you want your cheating garbage hobo ass bum of an ex back??”
But hey, I get it. I’ve been there. One of the first girls I dated cheated on me over and over again, and I kept taking her back. And I don’t really regret it thaaaat much (just a little bit).
So while everyone around you is saying how you should forget about that dirty filth-caked gym sock with his or her new play thing, let’s leave those people behind for a bit and have an actual discussion about it.
So you’ve managed to find yourself in the grasps of a man with BPD, eh? I feel for you. Borderline Personality Disorder is no joking matter.
Too many articles (like this one) exist on the internet that demonize BPD. They’ll convince you that any sort of relationship with a BPD-type of man is a waste of your time.
But, I tend to disagree with the majority of advice you find on the internet. It’s no surprise at all that most BPD relationships fail.
At the end of the day, relationships are meant to improve your life and help you grow as a person.
If you’re getting absolutely no value out of your BPD boyfriend, then there really is no point of you being in that relationship — this applies to all men, not just ones with mental health issues. [Read more…]
If your girlfriend is pushing you away and giving you the cold shoulder, then I’m glad you’re here because I’m going to get your mind headed in the right direction.
There’s nothing more annoying and painful (and immature) than to have your girlfriend give you that ghosting treatment.
In fact, I’d rather slam my pinky toe on the corner of a metal table than have my girlfriend give me the dreaded cold shoulder. That’s how much it annoys me.
Relationships aren’t meant to be easy.
You need strong mindsets, good values, patience and an open-mind (among many things).
Leaving some of these important factors out is the reason why most relationships fail.
Especially in this day and age.
Did you know that around 95% of all relationships are toxic and unhealthy?
It’s been a hectic past couple of weeks for me. With the launch of my new BPD Relationship Blueprint program, I’ve been dedicating a lot of time to answering emails and coaching.
Which brings us to this topic that I’m writing about today: Sex Addiction.
A lot of people put too much emphasis on sex. They make it too important in their lives. And it creates problems.
This article has been long in the making. It’s a question that’s probably often in your head.
Can people with BPD really have a healthy relationship? Is it actually possible, Rick? Or are these people doomed?
These are the deeper questions that lie beneath a lot of the surface level questions you may have.
This is a topic that hits right to the heart: trying to get that ex girlfriend back who seems to have a new boyfriend in a matter of weeks.
Or days in some cases.
Actually, I’ve seen women get a new boyfriend before she even broke up with her current one. That’s the real stinger. And, happens quite often actually.
I’ve been the victim of this. Several times in fact. It’s definitely one of the most painful experiences that can mess you up real good if don’t have your emotions under control.
Today I want to discuss the topic of why people cheat in relationships without singling out men or women.
According to this study on cheating, men still cheat more but women are starting to creep up there. Keep in mind, however, that this study is based on people that actually admit to the cheating.
If you want my opinion, I believe women cheat more than men these days because women are becoming the more powerful sex. They’re putting up with less and less bullshit today than before.
I’ve been getting more and more into my email “Mastermind” group. That’s what I’m calling it, anyway.
It’s where I’m able to unleash my fun and bizarre stories. Not so much ‘shock jock’ material, but a place to give you my advice from what I see and learn almost daily.
If you’re not on it yet, then go here and sign up.
Today’s article is going to dive into some more toxic behaviors that turn your partner off. A lot of what I teach isn’t so much about new techniques or strategies or anything like that…
Instead of giving you more and more stuff that will overwhelm your brain, I instead like to teach people what not to do because less mistakes = happy couple.
LOL I CAN’T
I thought it would be a good time to take a ‘break’ and write to you about why being single does not suck and how if you use your time wisely, it’s the best time for learning and growing as an individual.
I believe that one of the most common errors we make is when we’re alone and bored, tired of going to bed by ourselves. It’s at these most vulnerable times when our emotions get the best of us and we make, as I like to say, poor choices.
1) Humans are emotional beings. They are what drives us day by day.
2) A weak emotional state can be easily controlled by others.
3) Start to pave your own path in life.
4) Learn to love the most powerful word in the world: NO.
5) Interdependence is key. Dependence leads to suffering.
6) Cut out the toxic people in your life.
7) Forgive the past, drop grudges, and move on with your life.
8) End any attention-seeking behavior you may have.
Emotions suck. Emotions are amazing. Wait… wtf am I getting at?
Oh… emotions are up and down! Duh. And learning how to master and control your emotions is key to enjoying a successful, fulfilling life full of joy and relationships.
I feel like emotional control is one of life’s crucial skills that separates the weak from the strong.
It only makes sense that we keep learning about how to master our emotions.
The skill of gaining control of your emotions is not an easy one. As humans, our emotions do and should play a major role in our lives. For good or for bad is where the skill part becomes important.
The more time that you spend learning about BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) and other behavioral relationships, the more you will realize that most people in these relationships suffer from some sort of Codependency issues.
People with BPD are usually very codependent individuals. They seek the same love and affection that codependents seek. But, BPD has other issues that can be much more chaotic than anything you’ll find in a codependent person.
Over the years, I have gotten much better at figuring out the causes of codependency and more importantly, how to smash these problems so you can live a happier, healthier life.