Finding Success in BPD and Codependent Relationships
When it comes to relationships, attraction is key (obviously). But I don't think people realize just how important it is. These days, there's a lot of bullshit and misinformation on the internet about what's attractive. Because I like to make it simple, here's my answer: attractiveness is a combination of your physical appearance, your state of mind, and your energy levels. That's it. Get these 3 things right and you'll appear attractive to people until the end of time. I will also add that your physical appearance is easily 70% of the game. All of those self-help "gurus" who talk about being present or approaching women or what to say in this or that situation -- they're just trying to scam you. You MUST focus on your physical appearance and make it #1 until you reach a level that's attracting the people you want.
Our society is such a joke these days. Get this:
Have you seen that new magazine cover stating how being a beta male shows strength?
I won’t even say what publication this comes from because I don’t want to give them ANY publicity.
But, it’s this programming of the mainstream that has caused men to be weak and fragile.
One of the more common forms of “treatment” for BPD is in the popular DBT therapy (developed by a liberal feminist in Seattle, of course).
Why do I get political about it right from the beginning?
I don’t know. I like to be political, but I also understand that it’s not really a good idea to be getting political when the reader such as yourself is seeking help.
However, I find it important to understand this fact with the approach of DBT therapy, especially when it comes to relationships with a Borderline.
I’m here in my “office” recalling my past when I dated some serious Borderline’s who really took a number on me.
If you’ve been reading my stuff here for awhile now, then you know I’m not some “guru” or some self-proclaimed relationship “expert.”
I’m simply a guy who has a lot of experiences with dating girls with BPD. I originally created this blog in 2010 to write about my experiences and vent, lol.
Lately I’ve been talking about these “Attraction Triggers” which are basically all you need to know if you want a healthy relationship.
These triggers go back thousands of years. They are the instincts we have as humans.
We cannot help who we are attracted to. The reason for this are these triggers.
If you understand these attraction triggers, you can keep your man or woman interested in you for as long as you live.
Do nice behaviors work to get back your ex?
Today’s article comes from a man that asked me a very similar question. He basically wanted to know what nice things he could do that would woo his ex and make her interested again.
He wanted to know what he could do so she could view him as a ‘good’ guy and thus want to the relationship once again.
But is this man thinking the right mindsets? Can you get an ex back by being this nice, good guy all the time? Sure, it can be done. But there’s a much bigger problem to worry about.
Earlier this month I talked about what women want, the qualities in men that really turn women on for the long-term.
I got some comments and emails from men that wanted to know what they should be looking for in women. And that’s what I’ll be addressing today.
There’s a lot more to women than just looks. In this day and age with all the thirst traps out there on Instagram and Facebook, it can be pretty distracting for us men.
I’ve been getting more and more into my email “Mastermind” group. That’s what I’m calling it, anyway.
It’s where I’m able to unleash my fun and bizarre stories. Not so much ‘shock jock’ material, but a place to give you my advice from what I see and learn almost daily.
If you’re not on it yet, then go here and sign up.
Today’s article is going to dive into some more toxic behaviors that turn your partner off. A lot of what I teach isn’t so much about new techniques or strategies or anything like that…
Instead of giving you more and more stuff that will overwhelm your brain, I instead like to teach people what not to do because less mistakes = happy couple.