Taking the "Crazy" Out of Your Relationships
When it comes to relationships, attraction is key (obviously). But I don't think people realize just how important it is. These days, there's a lot of bullshit and misinformation on the internet about what's attractive. Because I like to make it simple, here's my answer: attractiveness is a combination of your physical appearance, your state of mind, and your energy levels. That's it. Get these 3 things right and you'll appear attractive to people until the end of time. I will also add that your physical appearance is easily 70% of the game. All of those self-help "gurus" who talk about being present or approaching women or what to say in this or that situation -- they're just trying to scam you. You MUST focus on your physical appearance and make it #1 until you reach a level that's attracting the people you want.
So your goal is to build a great relationship with someone, whether that’s your current girlfriend or boyfriend, or someone completely new.
Maybe you’re recently single and you want to know what you need to do going forward so you don’t end up in a toxic relationship once again.
Either way, my advice is very straight forward for this:
Only date someone who is great and makes you want to be great.
Our society is such a joke these days. Get this:
Have you seen that new magazine cover stating how being a beta male shows strength?
I won’t even say what publication this comes from because I don’t want to give them ANY publicity.
But, it’s this programming of the mainstream that has caused men to be weak and fragile.
One of the more common forms of “treatment” for BPD is in the popular DBT therapy (developed by a liberal feminist in Seattle, of course).
Why do I get political about it right from the beginning?
I don’t know. I like to be political, but I also understand that it’s not really a good idea to be getting political when the reader such as yourself is seeking help.
However, I find it important to understand this fact with the approach of DBT therapy, especially when it comes to relationships with a Borderline.
I’m here in my “office” recalling my past when I dated some serious Borderline’s who really took a number on me.
If you’ve been reading my stuff here for awhile now, then you know I’m not some “guru” or some self-proclaimed relationship “expert.”
I’m simply a guy who has a lot of experiences with dating Borderline women in my past and I made this site originally as a blog to talk about it.
((And to make my writing an easier process, I blast soundtracks like the Intersteller one. It’s amazing. So is the Skyrim soundtrack.))
One of the worst experiences you can have in a relationship is when your girlfriend goes cold on you.
Even worse is when you feel as if everything is going well: the sex is good, she says she loves you, you’re happy. Suddenly, she’s gone! She’s ghosted you and won’t return any texts or calls.
There are a lot of factors that can lead up to such a devastating loss. And we’ll get into some of these in this article.