Taking the "Crazy" Out of Your Relationships
When it comes to relationships, attraction is key (obviously). But I don't think people realize just how important it is. These days, there's a lot of bullshit and misinformation on the internet about what's attractive. Because I like to make it simple, here's my answer: attractiveness is a combination of your physical appearance, your state of mind, and your energy levels. That's it. Get these 3 things right and you'll appear attractive to people until the end of time. I will also add that your physical appearance is easily 70% of the game. All of those self-help "gurus" who talk about being present or approaching women or what to say in this or that situation -- they're just trying to scam you. You MUST focus on your physical appearance and make it #1 until you reach a level that's attracting the people you want.
The keys to a healthy relationship are good mindsets, self-respect, and emotional control.
But, there are a lot of other things that play an important role as well. People have written entire books on these subjects (most of these books suck by the way).
So what role does Rapport play in a relationship?
That’s what I want to quickly talk about in this email, as it does play a role.
One of the more annoying experiences of dating a girl is when she decides to play hard to get.
Or, it at least feels that way.
She’s giving you less attention, she isn’t responding to calls or texts, she doesn’t seem to talk as much as she used to, she isn’t sleeping with you as much, etc.
Why does she behave this way? Does she no longer have feelings for you? Has she met another guy?
I came across an article the other day about how if a man truly loves a woman, he won’t stop pursuing her.
If you’ve read any of my writings before, you’ll know how silly of a statement that is to make. Luckily, this article is on a blog for women so it’s not really designed for men to read.
Those types of websites try to give women good feelings. The author is probably a bitter women who is trying to cope with the pain of being dumped by her ex boyfriend.
One of the most important lessons I teach people is this: you need to give her some space. Let her come back to you on her own terms.
It’s a very simple lesson, yet incredibly difficult to follow if you’re in a codependent relationship.
The reasons for this is obvious: as a codependent, you struggle to be alone. You feel like you need your partner to be with you or else life sucks.
Giving her some space feels like the last thing you want to do. Instead, you want to pull her in more because you feel like it will make things better, right?
So your goal is to build a great relationship with someone, whether that’s your current girlfriend or boyfriend, or someone completely new.
Maybe you’re recently single and you want to know what you need to do going forward so you don’t end up in a toxic relationship once again.
Either way, my advice is very straight forward for this:
Only date someone who is great and makes you want to be great.
Our society is such a joke these days. Get this:
Have you seen that new magazine cover stating how being a beta male shows strength?
I won’t even say what publication this comes from because I don’t want to give them ANY publicity.
But, it’s this programming of the mainstream that has caused men to be weak and fragile.
One of the more common forms of “treatment” for BPD is in the popular DBT therapy (developed by a liberal feminist in Seattle, of course).
Why do I get political about it right from the beginning?
I don’t know. I like to be political, but I also understand that it’s not really a good idea to be getting political when the reader such as yourself is seeking help.
However, I find it important to understand this fact with the approach of DBT therapy, especially when it comes to relationships with a Borderline.
I’m here in my “office” recalling my past when I dated some serious Borderline’s who really took a number on me.
If you’ve been reading my stuff here for awhile now, then you know I’m not some “guru” or some self-proclaimed relationship “expert.”
I’m simply a guy who has a lot of experiences with dating girls with BPD. I originally created this blog in 2010 to write about my experiences and vent, lol.
Lately I’ve been talking about these “Attraction Triggers” which are basically all you need to know if you want a healthy relationship.
These triggers go back thousands of years. They are the instincts we have as humans.
We cannot help who we are attracted to. The reason for this are these triggers.
If you understand these attraction triggers, you can keep your man or woman interested in you for as long as you live.
Do nice behaviors work to get back your ex?
Today’s article comes from a man that asked me a very similar question. He basically wanted to know what nice things he could do that would woo his ex and make her interested again.
He wanted to know what he could do so she could view him as a ‘good’ guy and thus want to the relationship once again.
But is this man thinking the right mindsets? Can you get an ex back by being this nice, good guy all the time? Sure, it can be done. But there’s a much bigger problem to worry about.
Earlier this month I talked about what women want, the qualities in men that really turn women on for the long-term.
I got some comments and emails from men that wanted to know what they should be looking for in women. And that’s what I’ll be addressing today.
There’s a lot more to women than just looks. In this day and age with all the thirst traps out there on Instagram and Facebook, it can be pretty distracting for us men.
I’ve been getting more and more into my email “Mastermind” group. That’s what I’m calling it, anyway.
It’s where I’m able to unleash my fun and bizarre stories. Not so much ‘shock jock’ material, but a place to give you my advice from what I see and learn almost daily.
If you’re not on it yet, then go here and sign up.
Today’s article is going to dive into some more toxic behaviors that turn your partner off. A lot of what I teach isn’t so much about new techniques or strategies or anything like that…
Instead of giving you more and more stuff that will overwhelm your brain, I instead like to teach people what not to do because less mistakes = happy couple.
While I know my women readers will enjoy this article, I really want my male readers to take notes, lol.
I’m going to be offering you men some awesome information on what women deep down want in a man. With all the distractions out there, it’s important that we take some time to look at what really works.
If you’ve been following me and reading my blog for awhile, you should know that I’m a realist. I ignore all the common, saturated information out there and instead learn everything on my own through experience.
I have enough relationship experience to know that when you’re a legit, cool individual, you’re going to receive attention and re-engagement from lovers of the past. This is just the reality when you’re consistently forward-moving and improving yourself as I always suggest.
This article is about turning a rebound relationship into something more serious. The reality is that a lot of men and women aren’t on the same page with the people that we meet and hook up with.
Whether it’s a new person you’ve met or a lover from the past, chances are either you or him/her isn’t ready to get into a full-fledged relationship at this time. Maybe you’re still recovering from a relationship or the girl you just hooked up with is on the rebound.
The short and sweet answer: Looks definitely matter.
The long, drawn out answer is that while being naturally attractive is a plus, there’s much more to it when it comes to attracting quality partners and quality relationships.
See that girl to the right? Assuming she’s a quality girl, it’s going to take a lot more than just being blessed with good genes (and being in awesome shape).
I believe that the major battle that people have with themselves is believing that they aren’t good enough – or that they don’t give themselves enough credit.
Maybe you’re naturally codependent and don’t know what to do about it. This article will help.