Here we go again. The common BPD myth.
This belief that Borderline’s are incapable of love and that the best solution is to run far away.
You hear this all the time. And, quite frankly, it’s getting really old at this point.
But I’m always up for the challenge (and I’ve never been bothered by people telling me this in hate mail).
So here’s what I got to ask all you whiners and blamers:
Maybe your partner just isn’t turned on by you anymore. You’re just not making him or her warm and fuzzy. They don’t want to sleep with you anymore.
Go ahead and blame all these ‘issues’ on your partner and BPD all you want, but it isn’t going to change anything.
Now if you’re a reader on my blog here, then I hope you think bigger than all those forum users who whine and complain.
You’re a skeptic of sorts who wants to see what else is out there on the web about BPD.
And that’s probably how you found my website and articles.
If you’re new to my website, I just want to welcome you. I don’t follow the mainstream advice and “professionals” because they really don’t know what they’re talking about.
Apparently this makes me “controversial” even though I just speak the truth.
So, here’s the truth:
Borderlines are very capable of falling in love and being great partners.
Sure, they have issues with their emotions and need to learn how to control them and such (and who doesn’t these days).
But once they do, they are very capable of being stable, loving partners.
All of my ex-BPD girlfriends were amazingly loving towards their cats (yes, they all had cats and I’ll talk about my ‘cat theory’ another time).
Every Borderline I’ve known is very sweet towards children and animals and all that good stuff.
But in relationships, when emotions are flying all over the place constantly, a Borderline who hasn’t learned to control his or her emotions has a tough time managing things.
As a result, you get all the crazy experiences you know all too well. But this still isn’t WHY they push away their partners.
So why do all these forum whiners complain all day and tell everyone to run for the hills?
Because these complainers have no idea how relationships work. Not just BPD relationships — any relationship.
Instead of looking at themselves as the issue, they rather just blame everything on their ‘crazy’ partner and the BPD illness.
It’s pretty pathetic if you ask me and the opposite of what it means to be a winner in life.
This is what I’ve been saying from the beginning:
You as a knowledgeable, aware individual can bring out the best in your Borderline partner.
It’s not your job to sit there and ‘teach’ your partner how to love.
But when you have the knowledge you need, the awareness of what’s really going on (especially beneath the surface), the attitude that Borderline’s love…
Well, good things happen.
As I often hear in success stories like the ones I shared last week, this change in attitude is exactly what the Borderline has wanted all along.
It’s what actually helps THEM gain that emotional control and strength they need in order to love and be loved.
It’s amazing how my system works.
All without you doing any techniques or DBT or anything like that.
Instead of throwing everyone with BPD in a single box, it’s better to look at your partner as what they are:
A unique human-being. Just like you. Just like me.
We’re all unique in our own ways.
So learn the attitude. Learn what makes BPD relationships work and you’ll be surprised at how quickly things improve. Go here to learn more about my system:
When You’ve Been “Stung” Out Of The Blue
I have a quick story I want to share with you.
It is a fable from 1954 called The Scorpion and the Frog (no story about me today, thankee sai).
And, I really like this story because it sums up what you’ve probably experienced in your relationships.
I can apply to anyone who’s been relatively good in the relationship, and yet you still got crapped on by your partner (without warning and no “logical” reason).
Anyway, here it is:
“A scorpion wants to make a quick journey across the river. He sees a frog and asks the frog if ye will carry thee. The frog refuses because he fears that he will be stung. The scorpion says that stinging the frog would be illogical, as it would kill both of them.
So the frog reluctantly agrees to carry the scorpion. Half way across the river, the frog feels dizzy. His legs start to give out. He realizes his worst fear – he has been stung! The scorpian says, I know it’s illogical, but I cannot help it – it is simply my nature.”
And so they both die :(
So who do you most relate with in this story?
The frog, correct?
The frog is the good, well-mannered partner who does things the right way.
And the scorpion is the illogical person who stings you for no good reason at all.
You’re in an amazing relationship, showing good intentions, doing what you feel is good and right, being the best person you can be…
You’re left out of the blue.
Straight outta nowhere.
Leaving you devastated and feeling stoopid for various reasons.
But here’s the thing (and it’s the truth that many people don’t like to accept):
This story happens ALL the time to men and women who aren’t prepared.
Who don’t have the knowledge.
Who aren’t aware of what makes a relationship remain healthy and exciting for the long-haul.
It doesn’t matter how much you sacrifice.
It doesn’t matter how often you pick your partner up and carry them across the river, saving them from the depths of the emotional rivers.
It doesn’t matter that you give everything you got to make the relationship work.
It doesn’t matter that you’re this stable, affectionate lover.
None of those things matter when you’re talking about the longevity of a relationship.
And yet these are the things that people do (it sounds great logically, after all).
But one of the major lessons I enforce in my programs is that the health and growth of the relationship is based on emotions.
If you’ve been reading my emails for a good while now, you know that I love talking about what NOT to do,
It’s a better way to learn, in my opinion.
And it’s why my Blueprint is loaded with a ton of “here’s what people do and why it doesn’t work. So don’t do it and do this instead.”
Ye Olde Care Taker Wants Some Credit
Got a “fun” email yesterday from a “fan”.
I won’t paste the whole thing here because I want to keep this positive. But here’s my favorite part:
“Give us “CARE GIVERS” more credit this disease is absolutely devastating!!!!”
I’m sure you’ve heard this over and over again by this point.
Man in relationship with woman.
Woman “suddenly” becomes crazy and cold towards man.
Man thinks he needs to fix this problem.
Man enters into the caretaker roll.
Woman pushes him away more.
Man gets frustrated, but tries harder to please.
Woman cheats on man.
Man gets angry and is convinced that his woman is cray and needs help.
Gets on my daily email newsletter, doesn’t like to hear the truth, sends me hate mail.
I’m used to it by now. I can’t please everybody, I know that.
But I’m not here to make friends. I don’t send these emails out for people to praise me and love me.
I don’t need praise, I don’t need approval from anybody
I send these emails out because they’re the truth.
I don’t care how upset it makes people. If it gets you upset and you want to reply to me, go for it. I read all my emails (and respond to some).
So if the truths I share cause you pain, that’s just how it is.
I’m not sorry.
And when it comes to relationships, it is always the caretakers that end up hurt the most.
One of my popular sayings is that the hero always gets ZERO.
Meaning that if you’re going to take on this caretaking, fixer, hero-type role…
Well, expect your relationship to collapse into the no-intimacy zone.
You might as well just call your relationship the friend-zone, even if you’re married.
Yes, your wife is going to friend-zone you. Her own husband.
And then cheat on you.
I know it sucks. But it’s the truth.
And sometimes the truth sucks Santa’s jolly balls.
But how many people have you known throughout your life who treat their partner’s well, shower him or her with gifts, bend over backwards for their partner…
And yet they get no love in return.
How many times has this happened to you?
Because when I was in high school and college, this happened to me all the time.
And I see people in their 50’s where this issue still happens.
So I’m not sorry for spreading the truth.
There will always be exceptions to the rules, of course, but 99% of people don’t want to be married to a caretaker.
Doesn’t matter how ‘crazy’ your partner is. They don’t want a caretaker
It’s really as simple as that.
I know this goes against everything you see in the movies, the magazines, Cosmopolitan, Men’s Health, etc.
But I’m an agent of truth. And my mission in life is to help you experience the best relationship (and life) possible.
Here’s a gold mine for you. An awesome source of knowledge that’s anti-cliche like me.
Check out the Beige Phillip Show on itunes. It’s my favorite podcast because these guys simply get it.
And it’s hilarious.
And has a 5-star rating with 896 reviews. Pretty much means it’s perfect.
So check that out if you’re looking for some additional truth bombs, and something to occupy your time when you’re at work and bored.
That’s my opinion, anyway. We all got’em and you can believe whatever you want to.
Either way I’ll be here sending out the truth in posts and emails like these. So get on my newsletter if you haven’t done so yet.
If you don’t like what I have to say, then just click the unsubscribe link at the bottom of this email. It’s really easy to never hear from me again.
No need to reply and send me nasty messages (but I do enjoy them!!!)
Like I said in yesterday’s email…
It doesn’t matter how “great” of a partner you are. You might be the best partner ever on paper.
But a list of why you’re great doesn’t make a relationship succeed. Simple as that.
There are plenty of non-logical, emotional factors that make relationships work.
And in our current society, most people just don’t get it (thanks to the lame media and all that).
11 Relationship Truths That May Be Tough To Swallow
I wanted to drop a quick checklist of truths for you to think about.
You might already know these, but it’s always good to get a quick little reminder of what’s realist and what’s fantasy.
And fantasy is bad.
Anywho, here we go:
* There’s no such thing as “the one” or a “soul mate.” This is all fantasy tail mumbo jumbo (probably written by people who can’t find love).
* True love is another one of these fantasies that people get wrong. Real love is based on your own self-esteem, self-image, self-worthiness and so on. Only when you got these things right can love grow organically.
* Relationships don’t last forever. Even if your marriage lasts 50 years, one of you will die. So appreciate the moments. Have goals, but keep your head in the present moment.
* Haters are a part of life. People will talk down on your relationship, people will talk down on you. Ignore the haters. Use their negative energy to inspire you to keep pushing forward.
* Relationships aren’t meant to fix your life. If you’re unhappy outside of the relationship, you’ll be unhappy in the relationship. And vice versa. In other words, don’t look to your partner for a spark of happiness. Doesn’t work that way.
* Forgiveness is important. But what’s really important is to forgive yourself. No need to apologize, but just accept that mistakes happen because we’re all imperfect.
* Kill the neediness. If you’re Codependent, this is where your problems eat you up.
* Stop trying to change your partner. You can’t change people, so stop trying. All you can do is inspire – which is exactly what my training is all about.
* Communication is much more than just what you say. It’s about how you respond to situations, your reactions, your behaviors, your mentality and so on. Lots of non-verbals at play.
* Your subconscious doesn’t know reality from fantasy. Anything you put into your mind will feed directly into your subconscious. If you’re not mindful of this, it will become a habit. Yes, this is how bad habits form
* Every relationship has issues. Despite how crazy you may think your situation is, many others are experiencing the same things. There are ways to push through and improve. Are you willing to do what it takes?
That’s enough for now.
It’s almost the weekend and I wanted to give you some good little truths to keep you motivated.
I also wanted to share a little message I got yesterday that should inspire you:
“I can’t believe how well things went yesterday with my BPD girl. It’s all about self-respect. Your teachings have already made a big difference in my life. My self-awareness has increased exponentially. I’m looking forward to continuing this new path.
All Greg did was go through my program. We didn’t have any correspondence over email.
He simply implemented what I teach in the Blueprint and saw immediate success with his BPD girlfriend.
Some people pick it up quick.
Others take a little more time.
It just depends on your background and the type of upbringing you had.
Either way, my “BPD Relationship Blueprint” works. And that’s good enough for me.
How To Avoid Getting Owned By Robots
First of all, if you haven’t seen Ex Machina I suggest you watch it as soon as possible. Then return to this topic. Possible spoilers ahead.
Now that you’ve seen it…
I loved this movie. It had the thrills, the twists, the dialogue, the art.
It also has some great lessons to learn about relationships.
Specifically when a man meets a pretty girl.
And falls for her.
Only in this case, the girl happens to be a robot.
An A.I. that proves to be a lot smarter than both the creator and the kid thought.
The movie is really a great example of what happens when you have no back bone.
The kid is your typical nice guy — full of heart and love to give, but no spine at all.
And the developer is your typical douche — no heart at all, but a lot of spine.
Both are attractive qualities in an individual.
However, both of these types of men lose in the end, as witnessed in the movie.
Whether the kid ends up escaping or not doesn’t really matter. He got manipulated easily by Ava. He lost.
This movie is a great example of what happens when you wear your heart on your sleeve, but can’t back it up.
By back it up, I mean that you also have a back bone.
That you can’t be pushed around and manipulated.
The kid is very smart, you know he’s going to be successful, he’d be nothing but a good boyfriend. I think everyone would agree with that.
But men who have no spine, such as this kid and millions of others, always lose in the end.
They get used, manipulated, and dumped.
You can complain about it all you want, like millions of nice guys do, but it just is what it is.
When it comes to love and relationships, you must have a spine. You must have a back bone. You can’t be easily pushed around.
The kid was so desperate to be loved by an attractive girl that he fell hook, line, and sinker to her manipulation.
Just another day in the world of nice, sensitive guys if you ask me.
But it doesn’t have to be that way.
Do you feel like you can relate to the kid in the movie?
That you’re a nice, stable gentleman who isn’t getting any respect?
Then you need to work on developing a back bone.
You need a spine.
In the BPD Relationship Blueprint, I spend a great deal teaching you how to be nice AND firm so that your partner respects you.
And when your partner respects you, they won’t try to manipulate and use you.
Love develops out of respect for one another.
If you want your partner to love you, then your partner first needs to respect you.
Develop your back bone. Be firm and assertive. Change your relationships and change your life.
Here’s where to get the Blueprint:
Catch you soon,
– Rick Reynolds
Best, by far, BPD relationship article yet.
I have been involved with a BPD/NPD girlfriend fir 6 months and I’ll tell you. It was kinda freaking brutal. The back and forth happiness, the horrible mood swings, violent outbursts, hateful verbal and mental abuse, shady behavior with ex bfs and guys she recently met before me….
But I got the understanding of it eventually.
I realized what I WAS DOING WRONG by being codependent, enabling bad behavior, and not setting behavioral boundaries for her. I needed to concentrate on ME and what was good for me and what would make me a stronger more independent person.
And very importantly, how not to overreact to her overreactions.
I also realized, and this is huge, that she actually didn’t want to be acting this way.
Love wins. And you cannot rush that, or make someone love you.
I promise you though, now that we have arrived, my BPD girlfriend is the strongest, most dedicated amazing partner I’ve ever had and I’ve never experienced such a strong connection or chemistry.
There is an amazingly good side to my BPD girlfriend and trust me I would know if it was a lie.
But lord help you if they don’t really love you.
Great to hear this man, this article stays way under the radar but it’s definitely one of the best as you’ve pointed out. Perhaps you can share it/post it somewhere that will help others? Regardless, thanks for the comment!
sorry but you have no idea of each of our experiences .. some of us realised one day that our partner loved the idea of us only, or stopped loving us because of something we were either unaware of or whatever .. we’re victims / survivors of something we had no idea of and suffered a torrent of abuse .. they’re not all innocent folk who maintain their love no matter how much we maintain healthy emotional intimate connection .. some of them simply will perceive thats and have terrible difficulty trusting and feeling safe. NOT our fault and we didn’t deserve this
Let me give you the first step to being a better boyfriend/husband: stop playing the victim card. It’s pathetic. Too many victims these days. Be a man. Grow some balls and take responsibility. You don’t know how the game works, I can tell from all the other comments you’ve written be. Suck it up, learn the game, and your dating life will improve. Buy my programs. They’re your only hope at this point.
Maxwell Gottfried says
I appreciate the insight and alternate opinions provided by your articles. I feel they put a unique spin on relationships with bpd people and they are absolutely the correct way to deal with them in my opinion. Also, you’re right that regardless of PD alot of these same qualities must be learned for a healthy relationship. However, with that being said, I think it’s a wild overstatement that everybody has some semblance of these traits nowadays (although to be fair, many do). Not every woman is willing to entrap their partner regardless of respect, cheat on them, and wreak emotional/Psych warfare on them using their own insecurities against them just because they feel bad about themselves. While I’ve gained tremendously from establishing boundaries and demanding respect from my girlfriend’s and everyone I meet, there are certainly cute, fun girls it doesn’t always have to be a battle with. You don’t have to be on your A game constantly with other women like you do with a BPD, nor worry about getting some painful disease because you weren’t around to provide attention, or getting sperm jacked. Choosing to stay in these relationships just because they bring these fun and exciting qualities to the table is in and of itself a practice of devaluation towards yourself, because it assumes you need to do any of these things just to keep what you’ve found in the bpd. This is why I only stay long enough to facialize these women nowadays, as soon as it’s obvious they want to devalue I’m out. Somebody who is truly in love doesn’t need to keep such strict boundaries with their significant other because then you’re raising them to do things they already know how to do but just won’t. Trust becomes a literal impossibility because you become the one on edge. Relationships should be about love but these women are so broken that as you love them more they love you less and it can have dire consequences. Nobody can outrun the inevitable fate with one of these sick people. While I believe your articles make for a lot of ways to get these relationships to be easier and more harmonious they certainly don’t change the fact that they’re simply providing damage control. And that everybody can do better.
Wrong on so many levels. EVERY woman in the world will become a dramatic crazy toxic mess if her man fails to be well-grounded, stable, alpha, etc. That’s just the nature of women. If they don’t become crazy, then they will cheat on you when they meet a new man. That’s how women “break up” with her man. The fact that some BPD women stick with you when they could easily leave and find a new man actually makes them better than a lot of “normal” women who will just fuck a new guy behind your back and break the news after she’s decided to stick with the new man. You need a reality check when it comes to women.
Elle Healer says
Rick .. wish I found this sooner. BPD partner has just dumped me for 3rd time but this time calmly over cup of tea. I wish you were that confident girl you were when I first dated you. Thought you would handle me. I need more of a bitch. You are too lovely. I’m not saying I thought you were a bitch when I first me you just you wouldn’t put up with being a jerk. And let’s face it I am. If I’m being a jerk. Then tell me but don’t . Shout me down but don’t cry and go pathetic. It make things worse and fuels my anger. Grow a back bone. Look at you even now you are all intense and feeble. ( does a weird noise to mimic a physically disabled person). We are not compatable. Nothing more to do other than split up. I tried to say could we both work on it and he said no. Respect is gone and it should have been natural. Not forced. He said girlfriend of 7 years was only girl that could stop his outbursts turning into storms because she was a bitchy type. ( but I guess they broke up for no reason??)
I recognise that I just tread on egg shells and tried to be more laid back. But losing myself and my boundaries made me more of a target to bully. His outbursts were very damaging and felt abusive. Yes I would shake and cry because I didn’t want to fuel it by raising voice as I was scared about where it could go. But one day I didn’t match his anger I went above and over it to the point I looked like some “crazy” girl about to rip him up. He very quickly stopped and we t childlike and begged for me to forgive him for shouting at me for no reason. I was so shaken up as I have never raised my voice to anyone that I frightened myself. I wondered if this is what it had to be like to gain any form of respect. Where would it have to go down the line. Would we get physical? I’ve seen that before and I didn’t want that so after my first wobble ever in the relationship ( he had many) I text him a couple days later saying I was concerned about that argument. Could he help me work out how we prevent that from happening again. I said it scared me. The next day he came to talk about it but I went back to .. doing what he always told me to which was to not talk about stuff and forget it and move on. I told him let’s forget about it and move on as I was fearful just talking about it would either shut him down completely or make him lose it again. I choise to say it’s ok.. he couldn’t cope with that and he displayed his worse case of bullying ever. The verbal abuse was petrifying .. which lead to the cup of tea after and him saying let’s split. I calmly didn’t disagree as I felt like pushing would also cause more storms and a poor ending. At least we had one more hug and I say him relaxed and not shit off. If he would have left mid temper I would feel so sad and to blame. But seeing the split as not a knee jerk reaction made me realise it’s really over now. I just wasn’t bitchy enough. Big hole where the most gorgeous man I have ever met, who did show affection, warmth, care and love to my daughter and dog! He just couldn’t show it to me when I “needed” it. Yuk!!! We have only ever slept with each other 3 times. His works perfectly well.. no ED problems at all!! Just he didn’t feel like sleeping with the caretaking mother type. He wanted strong confident woman. He wanted who I was before I lost sight of who I was. I am 40 and in many ways he has taught me more than any relationship. He has taught me to forgive, not control and to accept someone if you love them. But he also taught me that non of those things matter if you don’t set boundaries on “bad behaviour”. Not sure I know yet what that boundary was really supposed to look like. But I know I needed one. Even if it was just a consistent respect for myself. Love and miss him. Broken hearted as I feel I could have done better. But that’s falling into trap of I could have “done more”, caretaker fixer. Doing less always seemed to work on the little things. I know info asked him he would say. “ just don’t take me seriously, lighten up, smile, don’t make him feel bad once he has come down from rage, tell him that was awful but don’t drag it out, they can see right through you if you fake being ok. So you better really be ok!! Even the slightest frown of will be seen as annoying so when you say. All is good. It really has to be ok.. deep within you as he will sniff it out and use it against you. Fun loving, open and strong. Strength isn’t about being arguementive or treading on egg shells either and being passive in strength. It’s about being a “bitch when he is being a jerk” but being the lover who isn’t going to take it personally. Like he said. How can you take it personally. Surely you are clever enough to know you did nothing wrong?? What’s wrong with you? Have you got a mental health issue!! Argh.. yes I do now!! Haha. Aww.. just going to miss him. Such fun times. Fun times out weighed bad times. Would do it all over again just for those crumbs of gold.
Sounds like you need to work on your self-worth. Your self-worth is so low that you want to be with an asshole of a man. I’ve known PLENTY of women like you over the years who fall for men like this, and those relationships NEVER work out. You are trying to rationalize a toxic relationship as healthy, lol. “Bitch when I’m being a jerk” is really not a great recipe for a strong relationship. It sounds like something out of high school. Healthy men grow up out of high school. They achieve and succeed. Unhealthy men stay childish, immature and are assholes like your guy.
The point is that you need to work on your self-esteem. If you’re attracted to men like this, YOU have serious issues. You will always struggle to find a healthy, long-lasting relationship free of drama because you invite these dramatic, immature men into your life.
I happened to stumble upon your article and this gives me some hope. Being a bpd woman, I’ve been questioning if any man can truly understand me, and if I will ever be loved by someone. Trust me, I’m someone who is capable of being ‘loyal’ in a relationship, I’d do anything for that person and all I need in return is the undivided attention and love from my partner. I know that’s probably too much to ask for these days, as Noone likes clingy, suspicious women but it’s not by choice. My ex boyfriend cheated on me, and it was so, so painful. But due to my fear of abandonment, I just couldn’t leave him. I loved him to pieces but because of my behavior that included checking his ph after this incident, calling and texting him like a maniac if he would be out with friends or partying without me. Though when he was caught, he felt sorry and assured me that he would never cheat, and I guess he did to some extent live upto his promise but I couldn’t control my behavior. We were damn good when we used to be together but the moment he would go away from me, maybe to his hometown or spend time with his friends, I would panic and spoil it all. We were to get married and he decided that I was too crazy to be married with. When he refused, my whole world came crashing. I was with him for 8 years, waiting for him to marry me as I loved him, despite he cheating on me I never did but I kinda went mad when he refused. I felt used for all 8 years, I cursed him, abused him, broke things… He was upset too, and took to drinking and I was dead sure, he wanted to now run away from me. Eventually things became really dirty, involved his parents. He completely stopped talking to me and I was dying every minute due to this. I guess the fear that he left me just hovered around me, and for him to at least talk to me I started threatening him by saying things like, “oh, so you know what I’m going to tell everyone that you did….” My aim was never to scare him but that he would at least talk to me and he would. It used to give me peace listening to his voice. I couldn’t stand him going on mute. I just wanted him to love me back the way I did, but he couldn’t understand me. He and his parents obviously took my calling him and ‘threatening’ him to be blackmail. No, I did not cheat on him but so that he comes back to me, I told him that if he doesn’t ill slp with someone. I thought that to be a way to get him back to me but he still was on mute mode. When this also did not work, I eventually out of frustration, slept with someone. And you know what… After a day I slept with some guy, I got to know that my ex boyfriend passed away…. Can u feel the irony. I tried so, so hard to get him back into my life but he left me forever. Bpd makes you fear abandonment so bad, and all my actions were to get him back, but I lost him forever. Not just I lost him, but also was blamed by his friends and family that I was the reason for his demise bcz he used to be ‘stressed’ because of my actions and eventually due to high BP he suffered a stroke. It’s been three years without him, I guess I disassociated myself completely from him, like he never existed but whenever I dream of him, it brings back all those memories, the happy and the sad times together. Sorry, the post just got too long but couldn’t help sharing my story. Thanks for your post. It still gives some hope that I’m not all that ‘bad’. Maybe my way of expressing love is not right. I feel love so intensely but because of my fears, my words and actions are different from what I feel and is beyond the understanding of ‘normal’ people.
Eric Strauss says
Wow, what a thoroughly pessimistic and outright wrong perspective on things. No, truth does matter. Yes, those who don’t think it does need to be corrected. If they can’t handle being corrected, then hurray! We’ve located the center, and the entirety, of the problem. They need to accept when they are wrong, admit it, and apologize where appropriate. Your desperate avoidance of this fact misleads people terribly.
I fundamentally disagree because truth clearly doesn’t matter these days. The democrat senators “know” that Dr. Ford is telling the “truth.” Yet everyone who knows her say she’s lying. But it’s the “truth.”
Good luck finding anyone these days to admit that they’re wrong. I can sit here all day and prove many lies that politicians and the media spew daily, but they’ll ignore it and say that they’re speaking the “truth” with no evidence, and blatant lies.
I simply write about what I’ve experienced over the past 10 years. We’re talking thousands of situations. It’s fine if you disagree with me. I’m an adult, I can handle it. But to say I’m wrong without zero proof is laughable.
You’re absolutely right. People who can’t handle the truth are stuck at a childish level of relating to others. Eventually, most of their friends outgrow them. I’ve seen it happen to a lot of people: they can’t handle being wrong or being responsible for anything so they gaslight, shift blame, anything to avoid admitting they’re not perfect. And then they complain about how nobody will help them or their children abandoned them or some other excuse of why they’re a victim when the truth is that they’re impossible to be around. Embracing truth, admitting mistakes, growing up, it’s not easy, especially at first, but if you master it the quality of your relationships will reach a level you didn’t even know existed.
Using politicians as an excuse to devalue truth is weak at best. Rick is just another know-it-all who knows nothing.
You’re just mad because like all liberals, you get heated when presented with the truth. Stay mad honey. Facts are facts and they don’t give a shit how you feel
ben neill says
Hi rick. Interesting different approach.. and some bits made me laugh in a good way. I’ve been with my BPD girlfriend for 6 years. Sex is good still. If I dare bring up a problem with her behavour by complaing or not i will get a punishment come my way totally disproportionate to the crimend that I have supposedly done. Dare I talk to a female in her if she is there lol. By the time she’s raged about it I have fucked em in her eyes. Then she would say she has had a guy for revenge wtf. Help the idealisation then devaluation a few times weekly. It seems the more I try the harder she pulls away. Then if I ignore the drama she then dumps me lol. Not funny really. Then when she dumps me I think ok i will get another girlfriend sod her, once she knows that’s sabatarged by being the best thing since sliced bread back to the love hate theme. I’ve tried the ‘ sod you I will play your game stuff ‘ dangerous I never seem to win lol.