The biggest realization you’ll discover as you learn about relationships and what needs to be done on your end is that developing your core foundations is key to success.
But what is it exactly that allows your new knowledge, skills and core development to flourish? Killer Confidence.
The biggest tip I can offer you and everybody else that’s interested in improving their relationships, their lifestyle and whatever else is that when you fix what’s inside of you, all other lessons become EASY to implement.
The reason why most people don’t improve, always falling back down over and over again is because they continue to have these little cracks in their confidence. These cracks to need to fixed before you do everything else.
I always say over and over again that you can read all the tips, techniques, strategies, lines, etc. all you want. But if your inner foundational core lacks that killer confidence to actually succeed, there won’t be any long-term development.
Your relationships will fail again, you’ll find yourself in the same spot 6 months later (or sooner), you’ll be more and more confused feeling like all this work you’ve done has led to nothing.
Well, it’s because you didn’t start at the core. You didn’t develop your foundations. You didn’t rid yourself of these bad habits that take a hit on your confidence.
Understand: what people do in their lives is just a manifestation of the habits in their daily lives.
So I’m going to share with you the 4 killer confidence life habits that I do on a day to day basis. Swipe these and implement them in your lives.
1. Rid Yourself of Negative People
I really can’t stress how important it is to limit these people in your lives. If I didn’t cut out all my old gamer friends, old high school buddies that never left my home town, friends from college that live boring, average lives, I wouldn’t be where I am today.
It’s amazing how much power one little negative comment can have on you. And the closer that person is to you, the more impact it can have.
A random negative comment from someone on Facebook won’t put a dent in my thick skin. But a close friend or family member (which I still deal with you this day) can really bring down your own confidence at times.
It’s pretty disturbing to think that the people close to you want you to fail, or at least want to troll you and bring you down to their level. But it’s completely true and it’s something you need to take seriously.
Again, I can’t stress how important it is to cut these people out. I come from a family that’s living in the old ways, thinking that the only way to success is to get a degree, work 10 hours a day, buy a house and have kids.
Because of their beliefs in that old school line of thinking, I greatly limit my interactions with my own family. Traveling home for the holidays is something I never look forward to because I’m coming into a negative environment.
If you have people close to you attacking your lifestyle, your development, your goals, etc., do the right thing – give them the cut and you’ll only have good, positive thoughts and interactions to boost your confidence.
2. Be The Cause. Not The Effect
This is all about you being you. This is about you having faith in yourself which is entirely dependent on how serious you take point #1 above.
What will help you develop that killer confidence is for you to be the only person that will develop your lifestyle. You’re the only person that can depend on. You do not depend on outside forces.
Now granted, I am an outside force. You’re seeking me and my knowledge to help you think differently and to help you develop confidence, good habits, skills, etc.
This is perfectly fine. You’re seeking me to help you develop your inner core and improve your relationships. This is still an inward choice you’ve made. You’re not depending on anyone else to bring you here and learn. You’re taking time out of your day to be here.
And that’s awesome.
But if someone close to you found out about all this education you’re doing and told you that you’re stupid and that this stuff is bullshit, that could throw you completely off course.
This is why point #1 is the most important of all confidence builders. When you’re surrounded by nothing but good vibes, it’s impossible to not be confident in yourself.
3. Don’t Allow Yourself To Be A Victim
This is one of those hurdles that can take some time to finally implement. In order to have a confidence level of astronomical levels, you have to learn to take responsibility.
The problem with negative people is that they never take responsibility. The reason why they give you negativity is because they believe deep down that they’re victims.
They blame you and everything else for their problems. This blaming manifests itself in negativity that gets tossed at you and others. I’m sure you can imagine how toxic this is on your well-being.
Personally, I can deal with negative people. Their shit doesn’t bother me because I’ve developed that rock-solid confidence. My skin is 10 inches of solid steel.
But when I went through the journey of developing my confidence, I cut out all of these people as much as possible.
You must do the same. For all the issues you have in your life, don’t blame others. When you make a mistake, stop being defensive about it and take responsibility for it.
Great confidence comes from accepting mistakes and being responsible. There’s no greater form of strength and it will earn you a ton of respect.
4. Seeing Beyond The Tangible
This is more of the big picture here but nonetheless just as powerful. Most people don’t see beyond their two eyes. Because of this, you can easily be fooled by what you see.
There are a lot of people that won’t do anything unless they can see tangible results. It’s a bad habit that prevents you from moving forward based on faith in yourself.
As you know, faith is a form of confidence. It’s being confident in your ability that what you can’t see will bring you results. Relationships are a good example of faith and confidence in your partner.
Learning what I teach you here is a step of faith because I don’t bring you tips and techniques. I tell you about developing your core and your foundations because that’s what brings later results for the long-term.
A lot of people are turned off by that because they want something tangible, something they can work with now. But if tangible things works out so well, there wouldn’t be millions of people lost and confused despite all the millions of articles with tips and techniques.