We’re coming up on the end of the year with Christmas right around the corner. To celebrate a great 2014, I’m going to dive into a popular subject with my own opinions and beliefs about the Fear of Abandonment.

And my first opinion is that it’s really one of the most confusing things about people to understand. Thinking logically, as most people do, it just doesn’t make sense that someone with these fears of abandonment would push you away when you’re doing everything you can to be a great boyfriend or girlfriend.

So what’s the deal? What’s going on beneath the surface that you’re not seeing or understanding? Obviously the words he or she says isn’t matching up with the actions. So what’s the fear of abandonment really all about?

Does he or she even know what’s going on with them, or are they just as lost and confused as you are? These are all common questions I receive from my clients and readers like you. I hope this article helps you out and answers questions you’ve had.

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relationship beliefs

It’s very common in relationships to find your partner pushing you away for reasons you can’t figure out. Sometimes you may be dating someone that just isn’t very good with communicating issues and would rather hide.

Both situations can lead to toxic relationships and it’s why I wanted to bring you this article today about some beliefs that could be pushing your partner away.

As always, these beliefs may not apply directly to your situation, but they’re still good things to think about and consider. Perhaps your partner has these beliefs as well and is causing issues in the relationship.

In my opinion, if you’re in a serious relationship with someone, it’s never okay to just push someone away and go into hiding without communicating. It’s a major red flag and something I lookout for when I’m in the early stages of dating as it is a good indicator of what’s to come should drama stir up later in the relationship.

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life lessons

Now that I’m back home from a fun family Thanksgiving, it’s time to get back into the grind by bringing you some great tips and lessons you can use in your life.

I’ve been thinking about my past lately (which I do from time to time) as I like to think about all the mistakes I’ve made. I don’t fill myself up with regret. Rather, I use the past to learn from so that I don’t make the same mistakes going into the future.

The truth is that we all make a lot of mistakes growing up, especially when it comes to relationships. But we all make these mistakes growing up. The difference is how fast you learn from them.

So in today’s article, I’m going to share with you the 7 life lessons I would teach myself if I could travel 10 years into the past. It’s with these lessons that I feel would have had the biggest impact on me and my future.

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first impressions

We’re fast approaching Thanksgiving here so it’s time to give an article which really has nothing to do with Thanksgiving. But it’s an important topic regardless and it’s different from the relationship articles I’ve been dropping lately.

I had a question about making a good first impression which I thought would be great to write about. I personally believe that first impressions matter considerably and that if you can make a great first impression, people are going to judge you accordingly.

Now on that same token, you shouldn’t really care how people judge you. Whether people like you or hate you, you should just keep on being you, do what makes you happy. But at the same time, if you wish to succeed in life, you need to know how to make a great first impression. And that’s what I want to talk about in today’s article. Onward!

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moving on

A lot of what I teach and coach here at Reignite The Fire is the ability to educate and thus change yourself so that you can fix yourself, your relationships, your life and make things more positive for you and your partner.

However, one of the truths in all of this is that change requires letting things go. Often times, it’s not about learning new things. Rather, it’s about learning to stop certain behaviors, habits, etc. that are causing issues with your success.

This article is all about when you should consider moving on from people and relationships. You can end up causing yourself much more harm staying in a relationship that simply isn’t meant to work out no matter how great things may have been at the start.

Understand that being able to let go and move on is what ultimately will make you stronger and happier. The strongest, most confident people I’ve met in my life are people that have no problem being single and alone. They enjoy the freedom to work on themselves, their careers, their lifestyle.

The key is to enjoy who you are. Enjoy yourself and being alone won’t matter. What usually happens as a benefit of being this way is that you have more people interested in you than ever before. Let’s dive in…

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drama in relationships

It’s been a busy week for me and so I’m a little late bringing you this post. I definitely want to provide you all with more than one article per week so I hope I can free up some time in the future to do this.

With the holidays approaching, it’s no better time to talk about relationship drama. From about October to around April, I notice a large uptick in the amount of relationships people get into. Call it the relationship season if you will.

Then around April or Spring time, people tend to break up. This is personally what I’ve noticed. I seem to believe it’s due to summer traveling and other vacation plans that tend to split people apart as well as the fact that it’s getting warmer and people are doing things.

Today’s article is for those of you that are dealing with drama in relationships and you want to somehow fix things and make them better. I’ve got 7 tips for you so let’s dive in!

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relationship waste of time

Relationships are not easy. Anyone that tells you otherwise is full of it. A lot of what we learn growing up and from the general advice out there just isn’t accurate – I know this all too well and it’s why I’ve spent a lot of time teaching myself all of these things here that I write about.

Today I’m bringing you a list of 10 things that I find people waste their time with when it comes to relationships. These are mindsets and mentalities that can really mess things up for you in both life and relationships, in my opinion.

Everyone has their own beliefs and their own idea of what’s right and wrong. These are simply what I’ve found throughout my experiences and coaching hundreds and hundreds of both men and women.

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